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You Don’t Have to Like Men and Women Equally to Be Bi

Reader Peet wrote the following in response to a personal essay on our site, “(My) Bisexuality Is Really Not That Complicated.” Note: The line quoted by Peet was not stated as a fact by the original author, but rather as an example of the “sloppy stereotypes” about bisexuality. “Bisexuals must desire both genders equally or they’re not […]

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Comment of the Week: What Really Matters in Bed

photo via Flickr This comment by reader Erica got lost in the holiday shuffle, but it’s worth going back for. She made it in response to our post, 10 Reasons Why Your “Ugly Vagina” Is Normal and Gorgeous. We feel really bad for her 12-year-old self and hate the culture that created her, but are so happy to […]

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Comment of the Week: Please Don’t Go Down On Me. Seriously.

Reader Henry wrote the following in response to our post, “Dear Em & Lo: I Hate Receiving Blowjobs.” Sure, men who would rather get a root canal than a blowjob may be rarer than a unicorn who hates rainbows, but still: they’re out there. And for the men who feel this way, it’s not a laughing […]

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Comment of the Week: Buzzkills Are Poopyheads

photo via Flickr A good comment of the week doesn’t have to be Shakespeare or even Dr. Ruth. Exhibit A: This response by Dave W. to the post “How to Determine Whether Your Dating Age Gap Is Embarrassing“: Sure, large age gaps have only a small chance of making it long term, but it’s a […]

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Comment of the Week: DTMFA!

Reader Inness channeled her inner Dan Savage this week (DTMFA — look it up) with a heartfelt response to the post, “Help: My Inability to Orgasm Is Ruining My Relationship.” Now what we want to know is: How can we ensure that our snappy acronyms make it into the Urban Dictionary? DTMFA. This guy is shaming […]

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How to Work with What You’ve Got (Yep, We’re Talking Penis Size)

EMandLO.com M.V.P. reader Tony shared some excellent advice this week in response to our post, “Your Call: How Can I Compensate for a Skinny Penis?” A male perspective here. First off, you are not broken, nor does your penis size dictate that “you will be broken up with.” Everyone has a different penis (or breast) […]

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Comment of the Week: Revenge Will Make You Feel Worse

photo via Flickr This week, Tony had some very sage advice about whether or not to get revenge on a cheating lover: I’m in the camp of “skipping revenge.”  When I’ve felt vengeful and lashed out, I feel worse afterwards instead of better.  You’re giving extra time and effort towards someone who isn’t worth it. […]

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What Catcalling Would Look Like If We Used It at the Office

This week, EMandLO.com all-star commenter Johnny made an excellent point by comparing catcalling to other kinds of human communication — say, attempting to get hired at a new company: I had a lengthy argument about catcalling on a pickup website. Their stance was, “Feminism continues to demonize male sexuality, and saying ‘hey beautiful’ isn’t harassment.” […]

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Comment of the Week: I’ve Got a Problem with EMandLO.com

When we started reading Dave’s comment today, we thought, “Oh no, what have we done now?” Turns out it’s not us who are the problem, it’s our readers: I have a serious problem with your website. Almost every time I read something on your website and want to comment on it, I find that someone […]

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How to Become a Cuckold (If That’s Your Thing)

Every now and then (okay, so it’s not exactly rare!) a reader gives better advice than we ever could. Especially when it’s a very specific situation that we have zero experience in… and the reader has experience in spades. This week is just such a case: Reader Ken shares very smart advice on how to […]

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Why No Blowjobs Can Be a Dealbreaker for Men

photo via flickr Last week we published reader Sara’s impassioned comment about blowjobs, and how they are not an inalienable right. This week, we are publishing two responses to her by two of our equally thoughtful, passionate, intelligent male readers, Derek and Steve. Can we just say how much we love that a debate like […]

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Comment of the Week: Blow Jobs Aren’t an Inalienable Right

In an impassioned response to our post, “Your Call: She Doesn’t Like Going Down,” reader Sara doesn’t pull any punches when discussing those who prioritize sex acts over actual people. She really gets going in the fourth paragraph!: You know what makes it easier to like something? Being able to choose freely whether to do it […]

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Comment of the Week: Your Breakup Advice Sucks!

This week, reader Ultraviolet took us to task for our “ten easy steps” break-up advice in response to a post, “Your Call: How Do You Get Over Long-Term Heartbreak?” Consider her words a cautionary tale about holding onto bitterness and regret, living in the past… and not listening to yours truly, Em & Lo! Yeah, three years […]

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Telling People Not to Get Married Young Makes Them Narcissistic

Reader Joseph recently took us to task for our advice to a twenty-four-year-old woman who said she likes her co-worker more than her boyfriend, but feels like maybe she should stay with her boyfriend because they have a “solid” relationship and her friends and family adore him. Our advice, in a nutshell, was, “Be twenty-four.” Have […]

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Comment of the Week: An Easy Trick to Avoid Ruining Your Relationship Forever

photo via flickr One reader emailed us their best relationship advice, not in response to a specific post, but just ’cause. So we wanted to share: Me and my girl broke up after 8 years together. She was wonderful and I was a fool. I did everything wrong. So my advice is:  if you’re thinking […]

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(Atrociously Ignorant) Comment: Bisexual Is Just an Excuse Gay Men Use

Sometimes, a comment on our site is so out there, so ill-informed, so close-minded, so staggeringly wrong that we feel compelled to share it, simply so that all of you can join in the chorus of disapproval. Please tell us, dear readers, that this commenter is in the minority amongst you! This post on bisexuality […]