Confessions
Confessions
The Myths of “Neat” Labia & Big Boobs in Porn

Emma P, the founder of LargeLabiaProject.org and OurBreasts.org (both of which aim to show that body parts aren’t “better” or “worse,” just “different), took issue with a few of our points in the recent post, “10 Myths About Labia Debunked“: I do have a big problem with what you’ve written in myth #8 about porn performers: MYTH #8: […]

Personal Essays
The Hard Work of STAYING in Love

by Emily Lingenfelser Love is saying I see you, all of you, exactly how you are — and I still choose you. Falling in love isn’t a choice; it’s an irrational chain of events that simply cannot be stopped. It can happen slowly, over time, or quickly in a matter of moments. One glance. One touch. […]

Say Amything
How Do Lesbians Have Sex?

The following is the 7th installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child.” Start at the beginning here or just jump right in below: All you need to know here is that she was married to a man, realized she was gay, got divorced, and fell for a woman named Moira (who dumped her after Moira had […]

Say Amything
Why You Love Who You Love

The following is the 6th installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child.” Start at the beginning here or just jump right in below: All you need to know is that she was married to a man, realized she was gay, got divorced, fell for a woman named Moira (who dumped her after Moira had […]

Confessions
How to Deal with a Partner’s Bisexuality

Jessica replied to our post, Your Call: I Can’t Handle My Boyfriend’s Bisexuality with some sage advice delivered via her own personal story: Unlike a lot of people on this thread I have not had any real traumatic experiences with my relationship. My boyfriend and I had been together for 7/8 months when I found out about is […]

Say Amything
How (Not) to Use Online Personals If You’re a Lesbian

The following is the 5th installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter (seriously) Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child.” Start at the beginning here or just jump right in below: All you need to know is that she was married to a man, realized she was gay, got divorced, fell in love with a woman named Moira, who broke up […]

Confessions
Watching Porn Can Make You Selfish in Bed

Reader layday had this to say in response to our post, “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm”: I am not a psychologist of any sort, but it does make me wonder if your husband [a man who doesn’t seem to take his wife’s orgasms into account] watches pornography? When a person […]

Say Amything
Dueling Motherhoods: When Lesbians Have a Baby Together (& Then Breakup)

The following is the 4th installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter (seriously) Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child,” about sperm donation and artificial insemination when you’ve got an acute case of lesbianism. Below, she writes about losing her first baby to its biological mother, Amy’s (ex)partner.  Or you can start at the beginning here. I loved that […]

Confessions
It’s Not Just Men Who Can Suck in Bed

Reader Sebastian wrote the following in response to comments on the post “My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me” : I won’t throw EVERY female under the bus, but I honestly don’t (YET) know ONE [woman] in my personal life who’s ever thought they’ve been “lost” in bed. It is all […]

Say Amything
How Do Lesbians Get Pregnant? Let Me Count the Ways

The following is the 3rd installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter (seriously) Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child,” about sperm donation and artificial insemination when you’ve got an acute case of lesbianism. Each essay stands alone, but if you prefer, you can start with Part 1 here: There are a million ways to get pregnant.  The heterosexual model […]