Confessions
Confessions
Having Secret Fantasies in a Relationship Is Natural & Normal

Matt, one of our best commenters, took issue with reader Jo’s claim — made in response to “Wise Guys: How Often Do Men Think of Someone Else During Sex?” — that fantasizing about someone other than your partner during sex is “a bit rapey”: Jo, you’re taking things that are well within the spectrum of what most people would call […]

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Is It “Rapey” to Fantasize About Someone Else During Sex?

Reader Jo said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: How Often Do Men Think of Someone Else During Sex?” For the record, not all Comments of the Week are opinions we agree with. And in this case in particular, we definitely don’t agree with the idea that fantasizing about someone else during […]

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The Addictiveness of Reproduction

The following is the FINAL installment (#14) of the hilarious series by author and squirrel hunter Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child.” Give yourself a treat and start at the beginning here. Or jump in below: all you need to know is that after divorcing her husband and having a tumultuous gay love affair, Amy eventually fell in love with Lynn, got married, and had three children with her […]

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How to Know When to Invite a New Partner to Thanksgiving

In response to Your Call: Why Didn’t He Invite Me to Thanksgiving?, Natalia encourages everyone to get into the holiday spirit:  I think that mostly of us are forgetting one very important detail: We are talking about a person who will spend the Thanksgiving day ALONE. Many commenters have said “Well, it would be weird to invite someone too soon,” or […]

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How to Convince Your New Partner to Have a Baby with You Right Away 

The following is the second to last installment (#13) of the hilarious series by author and squirrel hunter Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child.” Give yourself a treat and start at the beginning here. Or jump in below: all you need to know is that after divorcing her husband and having a tumultuous gay love affair, Amy started dating Lynn…  When Lynn and I first got together, we had […]

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How to Break Up with Your Sperm Donors

The following is the 12th installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child.” Start at the beginning here or jump right in: all you need to know is that Amy had divorced her husband after a gay love affair and eventually married her wife, Lynn, with whom she now has three kids…  During the three […]

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Why You Shouldn’t Judge Spelling Mistakes in an Online Dating Profile

Reader Derek said the following in response to the post, “Red Flags for Women Who Use Personals (& How to Avoid Them)”. Though we didn’t write this piece, we did choose to publish it, and we never considered the implications of judging someone’s grammar and spelling mistakes on an online dating site. Which is kind of […]

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Why It’s No Big Deal If Your Boyfriend Masturbates…Like, a Lot

Reader Chris said the following in response to our post “Why Do Men Masturbate When They’re in a Relationship?” We have to say, we really dig his idea of not “borrowing trouble” when it comes to a relationship. There are so many real issues that you will have to deal with over the course of […]

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How to Have a Threeway…With Your Girlfriend & Your Ex Husband

I used to know this guy in San Francisco named Ronny Jay Boyd. Ronny is a vegan and into polyamory (you get a lot of this in San Francisco). He is also vociferously against circumcision, so much so that he wrote a whole book about the topic and was featured on 20/20.  He used to […]

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Baby Talk in Bed Helps My Tough Guy Get in Touch with His Feminine Side

Reader Misty Marie posted the following in response to our post “Baby Talk: Intimacy Tool or Just Plain Gross?” It’s kind of an intense story, and we think she’s pretty brave for sharing it. Sure, maybe you couldn’t stand sleeping with a misogynist who treated you like this, and maybe some women would completely lose their sense […]