Confessions
How to Have Kinky Sex with Your Vanilla Husband

photo via Wikimedia Commons Reader subgirl said the following in response to our post, “He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?”  Heads up, everyone in a mixed-cone, chocolate-swirl-slash-vanilla relationship, there is hope! I am a submissive woman and I have a wonderful vanill-ish husband who plays along with me. We communicate our needs to one […]

Comment of the Month: Do NOT Try This at Home!

We’ve gotten some outrageous letters over the years: one from the guy asking us if he could get STDs from the corpses he was having sex with at the morgue; another from a couple inquiring how they could get their German Shepard to have consensual sex with the woman while the man watched. We try […]

Why I Told My Boyfriend He Could Marry My Daughter

Something’s Gotta Give: Jack Nicholson chooses mother over daughter Reader Momma wrote the following in response to our post, “Your Call: When Your Partner’s Fantasies Are Seriously Disturbing.” Before leaping to judgment, dear readers, consider this: The couple below can talk about anything. They trust each other completely, and this has led to them being completely […]

You Don’t Have to Like Men and Women Equally to Be Bi

Reader Peet wrote the following in response to a personal essay on our site, “(My) Bisexuality Is Really Not That Complicated.” Note: The line quoted by Peet was not stated as a fact by the original author, but rather as an example of the “sloppy stereotypes” about bisexuality. “Bisexuals must desire both genders equally or they’re not […]

Comment of the Week: What Really Matters in Bed

photo via Flickr This comment by reader Erica got lost in the holiday shuffle, but it’s worth going back for. She made it in response to our post, 10 Reasons Why Your “Ugly Vagina” Is Normal and Gorgeous. We feel really bad for her 12-year-old self and hate the culture that created her, but are so happy to […]

Comment of the Week: Please Don’t Go Down On Me. Seriously.

Reader Henry wrote the following in response to our post, “Dear Em & Lo: I Hate Receiving Blowjobs.” Sure, men who would rather get a root canal than a blowjob may be rarer than a unicorn who hates rainbows, but still: they’re out there. And for the men who feel this way, it’s not a laughing […]

Comment of the Week: Buzzkills Are Poopyheads

photo via Flickr A good comment of the week doesn’t have to be Shakespeare or even Dr. Ruth. Exhibit A: This response by Dave W. to the post “How to Determine Whether Your Dating Age Gap Is Embarrassing“: Sure, large age gaps have only a small chance of making it long term, but it’s a […]

Comment of the Week: DTMFA!

Reader Inness channeled her inner Dan Savage this week (DTMFA — look it up) with a heartfelt response to the post, “Help: My Inability to Orgasm Is Ruining My Relationship.” Now what we want to know is: How can we ensure that our snappy acronyms make it into the Urban Dictionary? DTMFA. This guy is shaming […]

How to Work with What You’ve Got (Yep, We’re Talking Penis Size)

EMandLO.com M.V.P. reader Tony shared some excellent advice this week in response to our post, “Your Call: How Can I Compensate for a Skinny Penis?” A male perspective here. First off, you are not broken, nor does your penis size dictate that “you will be broken up with.” Everyone has a different penis (or breast) […]

Comment of the Week: Revenge Will Make You Feel Worse

photo via Flickr This week, Tony had some very sage advice about whether or not to get revenge on a cheating lover: I’m in the camp of “skipping revenge.”  When I’ve felt vengeful and lashed out, I feel worse afterwards instead of better.  You’re giving extra time and effort towards someone who isn’t worth it. […]