Confessions
Confessions
Watching Porn Can Make You Selfish in Bed

Reader layday had this to say in response to our post, “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm”: I am not a psychologist of any sort, but it does make me wonder if your husband [a man who doesn’t seem to take his wife’s orgasms into account] watches pornography? When a person […]

Say Amything
Dueling Motherhoods: When Lesbians Have a Baby Together (& Then Breakup)

The following is the 4th installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter (seriously) Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child,” about sperm donation and artificial insemination when you’ve got an acute case of lesbianism. Below, she writes about losing her first baby to its biological mother, Amy’s (ex)partner.  Or you can start at the beginning here. I loved that […]

Confessions
It’s Not Just Men Who Can Suck in Bed

Reader Sebastian wrote the following in response to comments on the post “My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me” : I won’t throw EVERY female under the bus, but I honestly don’t (YET) know ONE [woman] in my personal life who’s ever thought they’ve been “lost” in bed. It is all […]

Say Amything
How Do Lesbians Get Pregnant? Let Me Count the Ways

The following is the 3rd installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter (seriously) Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child,” about sperm donation and artificial insemination when you’ve got an acute case of lesbianism. Each essay stands alone, but if you prefer, you can start with Part 1 here: There are a million ways to get pregnant.  The heterosexual model […]

Personal Essays
We Fell in Love Thanks to Rocky Horror

A few years ago, we ran an Adorable Couple Contest, in which we asked readers to tell us their meet cute stories for the chance to win an ADORE ME SET from LELO (a stylish red lipstick vibe, a red silk blindfold, red silk and suede wrist restraints, and a satin storage pouch, aw yeah). Since this week marks […]

Confessions
You Don’t Have to Walk on Eggshells Around a Guy with a Small Penis

A really interesting conversation took place recently in the comments section of our post, “Is It Okay to Use a Vibrator That’s Bigger Than My Boyfriend?” In situations like this, we always tend to advise readers toward kindness, and also to letting the guy take the lead in terms of dildo size. But a reader named Jon […]

Movies
Rocky Horror As Rite of Passage (Lo Interviews Her High School Boyfriend)

In 1987, when The Rocky Horror Picture Show was just a pre-teen, I was a 15-year-old virgin — both in the RHPS sense of the word (i.e. having never seen the cult classic) and literally (i.e. having never done the deed). Enter 17-year-old Craig B. . . . well, both figuratively and literally: he was […]

Say Amything
Dating Women Is More Fun Than Dating Men

The following is the 2nd installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter (seriously) Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child,” about sperm donation and artificial insemination when you’ve got an acute case of lesbianism. Catch up on Part 1 here, then continue below: When I lived in San Francisco in the nineties, my friend Michelle […]

Comment of the Week
8 Ways to Get Him to Focus on YOUR Orgasm for a Change

The following excellent advice from “CaspianC” came in response to the post “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm.” We’ve taken the liberty of editing it ever-so slightly into an easy-to-read list (our additions are in brackets).  I was in the same situation. Well, it’s an ongoing issue, but it’s getting better. […]

Say Amything
The Game Called “Birth”

The following is the first installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter (seriously) Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child,” about sperm donation and artificial insemination when you’ve got an acute case of lesbianism: Ever since I was a kid, I’d wanted to have a kid. When I was nine years old and […]

Confessions
8 Tips for Getting Over a Breakup from the Inside Out

Reader Sam said the following in response to our post, “How to Get Over a Breakup (in 10 Easy Steps)”: I’m going through an awful breakup — years of addictive patterning, back and forth etc etc. I think tackling it as a physical, spiritual and emotional issue works best. 1) Immediately find a grief and […]

Polls
Who’s the Least Sexy Republican Presidential Candidate?

We thought about asking who the sexiest Republican presidential candidate was, but that seemed like an unanswerable question. “Least sexy” seems much more do-able…and more competitive. At last count, there were over 30(!) declared Republican candidates. We’ve narrowed them down to the biggest players. Polldaddy wouldn’t allow more than 11 options, so we had to […]

Confessions
The Pill May Be Killing Your Orgasms

The following comment by reader “Maddy” came in response to the post “How Do You Round the Final Bend When Sex Feels Amazing But You Don’t Orgasm?“ This was true for me for years — and I was afraid too. I was experiencing pleasure and feeling a build but right when I felt close to […]

Confessions
How Meditation Can Help You Achieve an Orgasm

Reader Alex said the following in response to our post, “How Do You Round the Final Bend When Sex Feels Amazing But You Don’t Orgasm?” I also have this problem. I believe that it has to do with how well you can “release” your mind. I have a really hard time just mentally letting go, […]

Confessions
Bigger Doesn’t Necessarily Mean Better

Reader LuckyGirl recently responded to My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me with the kind of comment more men need to hear. One important caveat to her otherwise sound response: 5.5 inches is not small, it’s average. Ok, I’d been with my husband for 25 years before he passed away. I considered him […]

Confessions
How to Take the Pressure Off Your Orgasm

Reader Matt said the following in response to our post, “How to Round the Final Bend When Sex Feels Amazing But You Don’t Orgasm”: Are you on any anti-despressants? I once dated someone who was able to have orgasms readily, but after going on Prozac, was suddenly unable to. It’s worth considering if any medications […]