Confessions
Say Amything
How to Have a Threeway…With Your Girlfriend & Your Ex Husband

I used to know this guy in San Francisco named Ronny Jay Boyd. Ronny is a vegan and into polyamory (you get a lot of this in San Francisco). He is also vociferously against circumcision, so much so that he wrote a whole book about the topic and was featured on 20/20.  He used to […]

Confessions
Baby Talk in Bed Helps My Tough Guy Get in Touch with His Feminine Side

Reader Misty Marie posted the following in response to our post “Baby Talk: Intimacy Tool or Just Plain Gross?” It’s kind of an intense story, and we think she’s pretty brave for sharing it. Sure, maybe you couldn’t stand sleeping with a misogynist who treated you like this, and maybe some women would completely lose their sense […]

Say Amything
How to Have a One-Night Stand (When You Don’t Really Want To)

When we last left Amy, she was going to the hotel room of a strange man she’d met online — the first relationship she’d had with a woman had ended and she was lonely. Here’s what happened in the hotel… Kieran and I went to his hotel room and sat on the edge of the bed and […]

Say Amything
When Loneliness Makes You Sexually Stupid

I’ve been thinking a lot these days about what it means to feel uncomfortable.  Is it really so bad to feel bad?  Why are so many people conflict avoidant?  What does it mean when we brush up against each other the wrong way, and what would happen if we forced ourselves, just once in a […]

Confessions
What “Intelligent Design” Has to Say About Strap-On Sex

We love a good burn — and a good burn that overturns gender-based stereotypes about sex is even better. Which is why we couldn’t resist featuring MVP commenter Johnny’s zinger this week, which was in response to an old-school nay-sayer in our (ever popular) conversation surrounding the post, “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with […]

Say Amything
Falling in Love with a Woman…When You’re Married to a Man

When I left my husband, it was because I had an affair with a woman. I loved my husband a lot, and we had a great time in the bedroom, too, but I’m of the opinion that you can pretty much teach a monkey to do the stuff you need for your body to ride […]

Confessions
The Myths of “Neat” Labia & Big Boobs in Porn

Emma P, the founder of LargeLabiaProject.org and OurBreasts.org (both of which aim to show that body parts aren’t “better” or “worse,” just “different), took issue with a few of our points in the recent post, “10 Myths About Labia Debunked“: I do have a big problem with what you’ve written in myth #8 about porn performers: MYTH #8: […]

Personal Essays
The Hard Work of STAYING in Love

by Emily Lingenfelser Love is saying I see you, all of you, exactly how you are — and I still choose you. Falling in love isn’t a choice; it’s an irrational chain of events that simply cannot be stopped. It can happen slowly, over time, or quickly in a matter of moments. One glance. One touch. […]

Say Amything
How Do Lesbians Have Sex?

The following is the 7th installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child.” Start at the beginning here or just jump right in below: All you need to know here is that she was married to a man, realized she was gay, got divorced, and fell for a woman named Moira (who dumped her after Moira had […]

Say Amything
Why You Love Who You Love

The following is the 6th installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child.” Start at the beginning here or just jump right in below: All you need to know is that she was married to a man, realized she was gay, got divorced, fell for a woman named Moira (who dumped her after Moira had […]