Confessions
Telling People Not to Get Married Young Makes Them Narcissistic

Reader Joseph recently took us to task for our advice to a twenty-four-year-old woman who said she likes her co-worker more than her boyfriend, but feels like maybe she should stay with her boyfriend because they have a “solid” relationship and her friends and family adore him. Our advice, in a nutshell, was, “Be twenty-four.” Have […]

I Took My Kids to the Jeff Koons Retrospective (Oops)

from the Jeff Koons retrospective at the Whitney My family had an opportunity to visit New York City for a full week recently. It was the longest my husband and I (the Lo half of Em & Lo) had been there since having kids. Before breeding, we’d lived there for years, gorging on the countless cultural opportunities […]

(Atrociously Ignorant) Comment: Bisexual Is Just an Excuse Gay Men Use

Sometimes, a comment on our site is so out there, so ill-informed, so close-minded, so staggeringly wrong that we feel compelled to share it, simply so that all of you can join in the chorus of disapproval. Please tell us, dear readers, that this commenter is in the minority amongst you! This post on bisexuality […]

Comment of the Week: Give Your Spouse More Credit

photo via Flickr When a reader asked “Is Intellectual Inequality a Deal Breaker?“, Henry’s response concisely showed how having a better attitude — i.e. being more generous, looking at things from a more positive perspective — can make all the difference in a relationship:  I’ve been married 14 years. I’ve always thought my non-college educated woman a […]

Comment of the Week: How to Really Talk About Sex with Your Spouse

photo via Wikimedia Reader Nikki dropped some serious wisdom this week in response to our post, “BDSM Saved My Life, But Is Ruining My Near Perfect Marriage” (we’re thinking we may have to start a Kinksters Anonymous support group to help out all these kink-stressed marriages): Oh, damn. This is a tough situation. It sounds […]

Comment: It’s Not Appropriate to Teach Your Kids About Oral

A reader calling themselves “Normal Person” (as opposed to the rest of you perverts, we suppose?) took us to task for our list of “10 Things We Will Tell Our Sons About Sex.” For the record, our sons are both three, so our Serious Conversations with them are currently limited to the importance of sharing toys, […]

Comment(s) of the Week: Be Smart About Respect

It’s a tie between two responses to our Your Call post Is Intellectual Inequality a Deal Breaker? — both of which are great advice for any relationship. First, Dannie said:  This is a question that ultimately only you can answer, because only you know your priorities.  Is intelligence the most important thing to you?  On the flip […]

Comment of the Week: What Porn Gets Wrong About Female Pleasure

photo via flickr Reader grainne said the following in response to our post, “Comment of the Week: How to Get Past His Porn Habit”. We found this point really interesting — that many women are bothered by porn not because they find it offensive, per se, but because they think it misleads men regarding what […]

Extra-Marital Sex: Ask for Permission, Not Forgiveness

Reader Vixen told the following cautionary tale in response to our post, “Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” Remember, dear readers: Most people find it easier to get over infidelity than dishonesty in their spouse. The sooner you say something — preferably before you actually cheat — the better. My […]