Em & Lo: Sex. Love. And Everything in Between. » Poll http://www.emandlo.com Your daily dose of advice, news, and stories about sex, love, and other important stuff. No yoga mat required. Tue, 15 Apr 2014 13:18:06 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 What Made Your Marriage Fail? http://www.emandlo.com/2014/04/what-made-your-marriage-fail/ http://www.emandlo.com/2014/04/what-made-your-marriage-fail/#comments Tue, 01 Apr 2014 11:30:28 +0000 emandlo http://www.emandlo.com/?p=27925

Are you separated, divorced, or on your way there? If so, we want to hear from you. (We promise complete anonymity!) We’re working on a new project about happy-ever-afters… and not-so-happy-ever-afters… and we want to interview couples, over email, about the thing that caused their marriage to fail.

If you’re interested in sharing your story anonymously — it’s a chance to vent, or to put it all down for posterity, or to help others avoid the same pitfalls — then send us a message via our contact form here. And we’ll tawk!

Oh, and if your marriage is a gloriously happy one? Or at least reasonably satisfying? No discrimination: We want to hear from you, too. Again, anonymity is guaranteed. Just send us a message via our contact form here.

Thanks, as always, for sharing…. and over-sharing.


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What Makes YOUR Marriage Work? http://www.emandlo.com/2014/03/what-makes-your-marriage-work/ http://www.emandlo.com/2014/03/what-makes-your-marriage-work/#comments Wed, 19 Mar 2014 11:00:46 +0000 emandlo http://www.emandlo.com/?p=27803

Are you happily married? If so, we want to hear from you! We’re working on a new project celebrating happy-ever-afters, and we want to interview you over email to find out what makes your marriage a happy one. You can stay completely anonymous, we promise! (Unless you’d care to brag.) If you’re interested in sharing your story — think of it as helping to make the world a happier place, one relationship at a time — then send us a message via our contact form here. And we’ll tawk!

Oh, and if your marriage failed miserably? Or is in the process of failing miserably? No discrimination: We want to hear from you, too. Assuming, that is, that you’re willing to let complete strangers learn from your mistakes. Again, anonymity is guaranteed. Just send us a message via our contact form here.

Thanks, as always, for sharing…. and over-sharing.



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Poll: Can You Ever Assume Exclusivity in a New Relationship? http://www.emandlo.com/2014/03/poll-can-you-ever-assume-exclusivity-in-a-new-relationship/ http://www.emandlo.com/2014/03/poll-can-you-ever-assume-exclusivity-in-a-new-relationship/#comments Mon, 10 Mar 2014 15:15:36 +0000 emandlo http://www.emandlo.com/?p=27722

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Poll: Who Do You Believe, Woody Allen or Dylan Farrow? http://www.emandlo.com/2014/02/poll-who-do-you-believe-woody-allen-or-dylan-farrow/ http://www.emandlo.com/2014/02/poll-who-do-you-believe-woody-allen-or-dylan-farrow/#comments Fri, 07 Feb 2014 18:38:55 +0000 emandlo http://www.emandlo.com/?p=27302
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What Is the Etiquette of Saucy Holiday Gifting? http://www.emandlo.com/2013/12/what-is-the-etiquette-of-saucy-holiday-gifting-2/ http://www.emandlo.com/2013/12/what-is-the-etiquette-of-saucy-holiday-gifting-2/#comments Mon, 16 Dec 2013 13:01:39 +0000 emandlo http://www.emandlo.com/?p=26792 photo via flickr

At what point in a relationship is it acceptable to give a gift that is sex-related — a high-end toy, perhaps, or a saucy costume or, say, a beginner’s guide to kink* (to offer a completely random example…)? After you’ve met each other’s parents? After you’ve met each other’s a-holes? After you’ve shared last names? Let us know what you think in the comments section below.

* We happen to think that 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink makes a fantastic holiday gift for booty calls, sisters-in-law, husbands and wives, book club friends, open-minded colleagues, anonymous White Elephant Party recipients… and it’s now under ten dollars!


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POLL: Who’s Right About Miley – Sinead O’Conner OR Amanda Palmer? http://www.emandlo.com/2013/10/poll-whos-right-sinead-oconner-or-amanda-palmer/ http://www.emandlo.com/2013/10/poll-whos-right-sinead-oconner-or-amanda-palmer/#comments Fri, 04 Oct 2013 14:27:15 +0000 emandlo http://www.emandlo.com/?p=25784

When Miley Cyrus said her “Wrecking Ball” video (in which she cries into the camera, before getting it on with a wrecking ball and a sledgehammer) was inspired by Sinead O’Connor‘s classic and subtle “Nothing Compares 2 U” video (that title is pre-texting!), O’Conner wrote an open letter to Miley, warning her that’s she’s being used as a cog in the sexist machinery of the music biz. Musician/arteeest Amanda Palmer then wrote an open letter to O’Connor warning her of that poopoo-ing female artists’ choices is actually not very feminist. Read the letters and then take the poll below!

Here’s an excerpt from O’Connor’s letter:

Nothing but harm will come in the long run, from allowing yourself to be exploited, and it is absolutely NOT in ANY way an empowerment of yourself or any other young women, for you to send across the message that you are to be valued (even by you) more for your sexual appeal than your obvious talent….

I repeat, you have enough talent that you don’t need to let the music business make a prostitute of you. You shouldn’t let them make a fool of you either. Don’t think for a moment that any of them give a flying fuck about you. They’re there for the money… we’re there for the music. It has always been that way and it will always be that way. The sooner a young lady gets to know that, the sooner she can be REALLY in control….

Whether we like it or not, us females in the industry are role models and as such we have to be extremely careful what messages we send to other women. The message you keep sending is that its somehow cool to be prostituted … its so not cool Miley … its dangerous. Women are to be valued for so much more than their sexuality. We aren’t merely objects of desire. I would be encouraging you to send healthier messages to your peers … that they and you are worth more than what is currently going on in your career. Kindly fire any motherfucker who hasn’t expressed alarm, because they don’t care about you.

And excerpt from Palmer’s letter:

Miley is, from what I can gather, in charge of her own show. She’s writing the plot and signing the checks, and although I think it’s tempting to imagine her in the board room of label assholes and management, I don’t think any of them masterminded her current plan to be a raging, naked, twerking sexpot. I think that’s All Miley All The Way. Now, would these men ARGUE with her when she comes into the room and throws down her treatment to hop up naked on the proverbial (and literal) wrecking ball? Of course not. Sex sells. We all know it. Miley knows it better than anyone: swinging naked on a big metal ball simply gets you more hits than swinging on a big metal ball wearing clothes. We’re mammals. LOOK BOOBS! And even more tantalizing: LOOK HANNAH MONTANA BOOBS! But none of this means that Miley is following anyone else’s script. In fact, what I see is Miley desperately trying to write her own script; truly trying to be taken seriously (even if its in a nakedly playful way) by the standards of her own peers….

I want to live in a world where Miley (or any female musician) can twerk wildly at 20, wear a full-cover floral hippie mumu at 37, show up at 47 in see-through latex, and pose semi-naked, like Keith & co, on the cover of rolling stone at 57 and be APPLAUDED for being so comfortable with her body. This is not to say that women have to play the desperate I’M-STILL-SEXY game as they age. Watching Madonna’s plastic surgeries and apparent stubbornness around aging just makes my inner teenager want to scream (YOU’RE MADONNA! YOU COULD HAVE MADE AGING SEXY GODAMMIT AND YOU DIDN’T!!), but the grown-up in me just pauses for a breath and remembers that Madonna is just carving out her section of the playing field. How she chooses to sculpt her face and body is just…her choice.

Who do you think is right?

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Poll: Have You Ever Skinny Dipped? http://www.emandlo.com/2013/07/poll-have-you-ever-skinny-dipped/ http://www.emandlo.com/2013/07/poll-have-you-ever-skinny-dipped/#comments Mon, 15 Jul 2013 16:00:48 +0000 emandlo http://www.emandlo.com/?p=24642 photo via Flickr

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Do You Name Your Favorite Sex Toys? http://www.emandlo.com/2013/03/do-you-name-your-sex-toys/ http://www.emandlo.com/2013/03/do-you-name-your-sex-toys/#comments Fri, 08 Mar 2013 17:00:23 +0000 emandlo http://www.emandlo.com/?p=23076

We know that guys name everything from their cars to the penises — and yes, it turns out that grown men who pay mortgages and have kids still do both of these things. So what about the ladies: Have any of you ever named a favorite sex toy that knew just how to get you to your happy place? If so, do tell us what you named it!

And if you haven’t, then tell us this: What do you think would make a good pet name for a sex toy? (We heard “Sherlock” recently, for example. Not bad, but we think you guys can do better.)


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What Did You Think of Seth MacFarlane Hosting the Oscars? http://www.emandlo.com/2013/02/what-did-you-think-of-sex-macfarlane-hosting-the-oscars/ http://www.emandlo.com/2013/02/what-did-you-think-of-sex-macfarlane-hosting-the-oscars/#comments Mon, 25 Feb 2013 17:00:30 +0000 emandlo http://www.emandlo.com/?p=22956

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What’s the Most Inane Thing You’ve Ever Thought About During Sex? http://www.emandlo.com/2013/01/whats-the-most-inane-thing-youve-ever-thought-about-during-sex/ http://www.emandlo.com/2013/01/whats-the-most-inane-thing-youve-ever-thought-about-during-sex/#comments Fri, 11 Jan 2013 22:35:25 +0000 emandlo http://www.emandlo.com/?p=22397 photo via Flickr

And we don’t mean intentionally, when you’re trying to think about baseball stats to prolong your performance. We mean when your mind just wanders – maybe you’re tired or distracted or bored or drunk (or sleeping with someone who’s inept in bed and too drunk to care whether or not you fake). Have you ever thought through a tricky work problem? Composed a Tweet in your head? Wondered what’s going to happen in the next season of Homeland? Planned your outfit? Planned your next meal or workout? Planned your wedding?

Share your not-no-dirty secret here in the comments section… we promise not to tell.


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