It being that time of year, we wanted to get a definitive answer on the eternal question: Does one go to “the prom” (as Time magazine suggests in their “Brief History of the Prom”) or just “prom” (a la Molly Ringwald in Pretty in Pink: “What about prom, Blaine?”).
We’re writing an article about recovering from awkward sex and would love to quote you!
Did you or your partner do something mortifying in bed that you had to get over the next time you were between the sheets?
Did your or your partner’s equipment once fail to work (or work too well, i.e. too quickly)?
How about having sex for the first time after forgiving a partner’s transgression?
Did you ever have such a long dry spell that finally having sex again became an issue? Or did you wait so long to cash in your V card that it became a much bigger deal than it needed to be?
Did someone accidentally (or “accidentally”) go through the “backdoor” when it was locked?
You get the picture — we’re looking for any and every kind of awkward moment that made the subsequent sex just as awkward or even more so! And we want to know how you recovered (i.e. made the subsequent sex just fine) or how you didn’t (i.e. the subsequent sex sucked). We love the funny stuff, but it’s got to be something that really affected you and/or your partner. Please write to us by this Thursday, April 14th, via our contact form* and you’ll be automatically entered to win an awesome We-Vibe II from Eden Fantasys — the kind of cool, sleek, effective toy that makes partner play anything but awkward!
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Perhaps one day in the future, saying “female ejaculate” will sound as quaint and old-fashioned as “female chairman” or “female fireman.” But in the meantime, women who squirt are stuck with this awkward modified term. Can you think of something better? Make your suggestions in the comments section below, and in a few weeks we’ll run a poll and let readers vote on their favorite. And don’t worry, we promise to include “female ejaculate” and even plain old “ejaculate” as options for you to vote on. In the meantime, though, we’re looking for some more creative options.¬†¬†Va-geyser? E-jill-ulate? Hmm… maybe not. See? We need your help!
After a week of voting, “blue box” was the top pick out 11 options, getting 27% of the vote. The next closest was (astonishingly) “purplepuss”, with 16%. Em liked how “blue bird” rolled off the tongue and Lo was partial to “blue walls” for it’s rhyming with “blue balls”, but both of us think “blue box” is a fine term worthy of the win. (Though we are wondering if “blue box” being listed first out of the 11 had any influence on the voting.)
As pornography has become both more extreme and more commercial, antiporn activist Dines argues, it has dehumanized our sexual relationships. The radical objectification and often brutal denigration of women in porn, she holds, leaks into other aspects of our lives. Dines’s argument rests on a compelling, close reading of the imagery and narrative content of magazines, videos, and marketing materials; what is missing, however, is a similarly compelling body of research on how these images are used by viewers, aside from Dines’s own anecdotal evidence. The author’s appropriation of addiction terminology‚ÄĒviewers are called users, habitual viewing is an addiction, and pornography featuring teenagers is called Pseudo-Child Pornography or PCP‚ÄĒis distracting and suggests that rhetorical tricks are needed because solid argumentation is lacking. Likewise, Dines’s opponents are unlikely to be swayed by her speculation tying porn viewing to rape and child molestation, nor by the selective sources she draws on to support her point (convicted sex offenders). The book does raise important questions about the commoditization of sexual desires and the extent to which pornography has become part of our economy (with hotel chains and cable and satellite companies among the largest distributors). (July)
We know the majority of readers of EMandLO.com are probably pro-porn, but figured many of you also have reservations about a lot of it. How it both positively and negatively affects our desires, our expectations and our relationships. Rarely is any issue just black and white, and porn’s no exception (despite this post’s title). So we wanted to hear from you about the gray areas. Let’s us know all your thoughts on porn — the good, the bad, the ugly — in the comments below.
A few weeks ago, we noticed The Frisky had a post about the female equivalent of blue balls, which they called (rather uncreatively, we thought), pink balls. This reminded us that a few months back we had you guys nominate your favorite new term for this achy condition. We got some great ideas but¬† never had you vote for an official winner! So we finally picked the best of the submissions and put them in the poll below — please select your favorite so we can determine a winner by next week and call the Oxford English Dictionary for inclusion in their next edition.