April 23, 2012
Check out this amazing PSA – we can’t even get into half of these positions! Their enthusiasm, willingness to experiment, and flexibility is something we — no matter what age — can all learn from.
Earlier this month saw the launch of SaferSex4Seniors.org, an online collective of professional sexuality educators, researchers, authors, trainers, counsellors and therapists across the country aiming to educate and inform the 55+ crowd on how to make sex safer. After all, research has shown that in the past 5 years, the rate of STDs among active seniors has risen over 70%! The site has FAQs, a list of resources for visitors, and an advice column. We recently asked Melanie Davis, PhD, the coordinator of SaferSex4Seniors.org (as well as a sexuality education consultant and owner of Honest Exchange LLC) more about the site and their sexual health campaign:
April 19, 2012
This may be sacrilege to say, but we can’t seem to muster any interest in reading the new, best-selling erotica novel that everyone’s talking about, Fifty Shades of Grey. After all, even the author admits that it’s not that good! For SM erotica, we’d rather stick with a classic like Story of O. Yeah, yeah, we get that Fifty Shades is “mommy porn” for grown women who wished that the Twilight novels were just a little dirtier (hi, we’re your target audience) but maybe we don’t want to read something that has garnered a reputation as mommy porn. That all said, what we are fascinated by are the kind of conversations that this new novel is inspiring:
April 17, 2012
Theresa Shecter and the gals at Trixie Films are making a documentary called “How to Lose Your Virginity” – it’s goal is “to undo centuries of myths and contradictions around virginity, and to encourage an honest conversation with people navigating the confusing process of deciding when and why to become sexual.” Its subjects include a rock violinist, an Ivy League blogger, an Ohio engineer, a porn producer — all subverting the virginity narrative. The traileris compelling, with interviewees including former Surgeon General Dr. Joycelyn Elders and author of “The Purity Myth” Jessica Valenti. The world needs virginity taken off its pedestal, as we’ve argued in the past, and this could be just the film to do it. Problem is, they need some more funding to get it done. Help this film go all the way (sorry) by kicking in some cash to their Kickstarter campaign. Check out their blog and their crowd-sourced series of reader stories for more info.
April 13, 2012
April 13, 2012
Yes, we just referred to ourselves in the 3rd person (sorry). But just wanted to let you know that we’re going to be at Union Hall in Park Slope this Thrusday at 8pm (doors at 7:30) for “The Interview Show” hosted by syndicated humor columnist (and Lo’s old friend) Mark Bazer. The Interview Show is usually held monthly at the Hideout in Chicago and features musicians, authors, comedians, athletes, community activists, chefs, etc. shooting the shit. Past guests have included Brian Denehey, Mark Maron, Wilco and Peter Sagal (of “Wait Wait Don’t Tell Me” fame, pictured above).
This Thursday, for Mark’s third Brooklyn installment of the show, we’ll be interviewed alongside Jon Glaser (creator/star of “Delocated” and author of “My Dead Dad Was in ZZ Top”) and Chuck Klosterman (author of “The Visible Man”, “Sex, Drugs & Cocoa Puffs” and “Eating the Dinosaur”) — plus there’ll be music by Nova Social. Come for a drink, a little light sex talk, and some laughs (perhaps at our expense)!
Check out the best of last year’s interviews below:
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April 12, 2012
We’re not big into comics, but apparently that’s where you have to go to find interesting, three-dimensional female characters who take center stage. Because you won’t find them in Hollywood (take the Bechdel Test) or at the theater. But you will find them in Danielle Corsetto’s strip GIRLS WITH SLINGSHOTS. A reader recently tipped us off to the site because “it’s closely related to the stuff you guys talk about all the time” — we’re guessing she meant it’s about real women who are their own sexual agents, who don’t fit a preconceived notion of femininity, who pave their own individual romantic paths, sometimes faltering along the way, but always trying to learn and progress as they go while maintaining a healthy sense of humor (and a sex toy drawer)…
April 11, 2012
Most of the time when celebrities are interviewed, they blab on about how talented the director was or what their craft means to them (yawn). But every now and then they’ll open up about something a little more racy. See if you can match up the following celebrities to their quotes about casual sex. (Scroll down to the bottom for the answer key.)
a) Russell Brand; b) Helen Mirren; c) Chelsea Handler; d) Madonna; e) Megan Fox; f) Drew Barrymore; g) Karl Lagerfeld; h) Cameron Diaz; i) Jake Gyllenhaal; j) William H. Macy; k) Shirley MacLaine; l) Colin Farrell; m) Joan Rivers; n) Jennifer Lopez; o) Elizabeth Taylor; p) Christina Aguilera (lyrics); q) Katy Perry; r) J.D. Salinger (The Catcher in the Rye); s) Lady Gaga; t) Jessica Alba
1. ”If you can’t get to know somebody, you shouldn’t be having sex with them. It’s okay at this point, in this day and age — we have grown up and we now know that we can’t be that free with your love.”
2. “I’ve only slept with men I’ve been married to. How many women can make that claim?”
3. “We thought sex was free. Sex is not free. There’s a price to be paid emotionally, physically, even legally. Sex isn’t a casual thing. It’s a huge thing.”
4. “I think casual sex some people are into, I definitely have been in my life at times. I think you find other things more important as time goes on.”
5. “I don’t think a girl’s a slut if she enjoys sex. I could have a one-night stand, and I’m the kind of girl who looks over in the morning and is like, ‘Do you really have to be here?’ I don’t need to cuddle and do all that stuff because I know what it is and I don’t try to make it more. I feel like a lot of women try to make it into more, so they don’t feel so bad about just wanting to have sex. I don’t really have a problem with wanting sex. Never have.”
6. “A man can sleep around, no questions asked, but if a woman makes nineteen or twenty mistakes she’s a tramp.”
7. “For me, it’s not a past time, going out and meeting people and trying to hook up with people. That actually makes me feel disgusting. From a really early age, I was really sensitive to that. Getting your flirt on is the best thing in the world, but when it comes to sharing bodily fluids with a person I don’t know — no thank you.”
8. “I’ve always been a firm believer that casual sex is a good thing. There is too much fun to be derived from it for it to be anything but good.”
9. “I wasn’t into sexcapades, although I tried it once. I had three people in one day.”
10. “Sexuality and love can be different things. I can be attracted to a woman sexually, but it doesn’t mean I want to be in love with a woman. If I’m going to be with a woman sexually, it doesn’t mean I’m a lesbian. We put these restraints and definitions on people, but it’s hard to define. ”
11. “A friend of mine once said, ‘You are devoted to your lover, but she has a thousand faces . . . If she’s not there, you must call her, for you have to see her . . . three, four times a day — making love with your lover of a thousand faces.’ That’s how he described my epic promiscuity.”
12. “I personally only like high-class escorts. I don’t like sleeping with people I really love. I don’t want to sleep with them because sex cannot last, but affection can last forever. I think this is healthy. And for the way the rich live, this is possible. But the other world, I think they need porn.”
13. “I do think, as a rule, when two friends have sex it really creates a bit of a pickle. But, pickle or not, no regrets. Delightful pickles.”
14. “I can never have sex with someone that I don’t love, ever. The idea makes me sick. I’ve never even come close to having a one-night stand. I’ve only been with two men my entire life — my childhood sweetheart, and Brian.”
15. “Everyone probably thinks that I’m a raving nymphomaniac, that I have an insatiable sexual appetite, when the truth is I’d rather read a book.”
16. “People equate sexy with promiscuous. They think that because I’m shaped this way, I must be scandalous — like running around and bringing men into my hotel room. But it’s just the opposite.â€
17. “I think we can all agree that sleeping around is a great way to meet people.â€
18. “If you look back in history it’s a common double standard of society. The guy gets all the glory the more he can score while the girl can do the same and yet you call her a whore. I don’t understand why it’s okay [that] the guy can get away with it and the girl gets named.”
19. “The Playboy Mansion, coke, and the rise of all that — Guccione and Hefner always pushed it as liberation, but it didn’t seem like that to me. That was women obeying the sexualized form created by men — though maybe we always do that, because we want to be attractive. But I was kind of a trailblazer because I demanded to do it my own way. I’d say, ‘I’m not having it put on me by someone else.’ I didn’t want to be the sort of puritanical good girl with a little white collar who says, ‘Don’t shag until you get married.’ â€
20. “Sex is something I really don’t understand too hot. You never know where the hell you are. I keep making up these sex rules for myself, and then I break them right away.”
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ANSWERS:
1) s – Lady Gaga; 2) o -Elizabeth Taylor; 3) j – William H. Macy; 4) i -Jake Gyllenhaal; 5) t – Jessica Alba; 6) m – Joan Rivers; 7) q – Katy Perry; 8 ) l – Colin Farrell; 9) k – Shirley MacLaine; 10) h – Cameron Diaz; 11) a – Russell Brand; 12) g – Karl Lagerfeld; 13) f – Drew Barrymore; 14) e – Megan Fox; 15) d – Madonna; 16) n – Jennifer Lopez; 17) c – Chelsea Handler; 18) p – Christina Aguilera (lyrics); 19) b – Helen Mirren; 20) r – J.D. Salinger (The Catcher in the Rye)
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April 10, 2012
Tickets go on sale today for Morgan Spurlock’s new documentary, MANSOME, as part of the 2012 Tribeca Film Fesitval — but only for American Express cardholders (Amex is a founding sponsor of the festival). The rest of you plebes can order tickets next Monday for the screenings which start on Saturday, April 21st and run through the following week. Then the film hits the rest of New York and also Los Angeles on May 18th. According to the film website, MANSOME is “a hilarious look at men’s identity in the 21st century. Models, actors, experts and comedians weigh in on what it is to be a man in a world where the definition of masculinity has become as diverse as a hipster’s facial hair in Williamsburg. The hilarious follicles of men’s idiosyncratic grooming habits are thoroughly combed over as men finally take a long hard look in the mirror.”
April 6, 2012
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April 27, 2012
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