Comment of the Week: “Attraction” Doesn’t Just Mean Looks

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In response to the post “Your Call: How Can I Talk to Men Without It Being About Sex?” reader Alisa (who was the original letter writer in the “Your Call” post) said, “I believe lots of guys like and respect women they find attractive.” Reader Chin Up, Chest High would like to clarify, on behalf of men:

It is the other way around… men are attracted to women who are likeable and have things other than her body to attract a man. Ambition, character, and a sense of humor are incredibly sexy to us. If you have at least one of these things, you will get the sort of attention you desire from the men you want attention from.


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2 years 7 months ago

Ooh, I got featured! Thank you 😀

Since I started dating after my separation last year, I have been out with six women in about five months.

I won’t be crass and list them in terms of physical attractiveness but I will say this:

* The one who was the most physically appealing and the one to whom I felt the most attraction where not the same person.

* The one I fell head over heals for was not my usual type physically – yet personalitywise, she beat the others hands down

* I felt a deep attraction for the girl who would be considered the least physically appealing

Overall in the grand scheme of things, physical appearance is really not that important when you have a strong sense of who you are, who you want to be and what you want to achieve in life. And a girl who can make me laugh? You’re in danger of stealing my heart from the moment you open your mouth.