Comment of the Week: Even Friends with Benefits Spoon | Chime in! Reader Finikki said the following in response to our post, “Your Call: Is This a FWB Situation or Something More?” When someone tells you they don’t want a relationship, believe them. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that experiencing intimacy with someone (like cuddling and talking for hours) necessarily means they want a relationship. People who want sex but don’t want relationships can crave intimacy like that just as much as anyone else. Especially if they were recently in a long-term relationship where sex and intimacy often went hand-in-hand. It could be nothing more than habit. But his actions aren’t the real question here. The question is, what do YOU want? You don’t say that you want a relationship with him, you just sound hopeful that he wants one. If you’re looking for a relationship, be honest with yourself and him and don’t waste your time on someone not interested in that. If that’s what you want, tell him. If he “doesn’t want to put a label on it” (a common way to continue an FWB relationship when the other party wants something more), you have your answer. Move on and find someone who wants to really be with you. Don’t keep sleeping with him and using him as a surrogate boyfriend if you want a real commitment. MORE LIKE THIS ON EMandLO.com: How Do I Know When It’s Time for “The Talk”? What Turns a Hook-Up Into a Girlfriend? How Can I Tell If a Guy Is Playing Games? Casual Sex,Comments,Friends with Benefits SHARE THIS | Chime in!