Comment of the Week: On Men and Cheating

“I am a man, young, full of testosterone. [I] run, surf, box and practice Tae Kwen Do. I do not accept that explanation about testosterone being culprit for cheating. That is the excuse of the imbecile, the boorish and the mentally retarded.”

James, commenting on the poll “Would You Cheat…

Say Something

10 Comments on "Comment of the Week: On Men and Cheating"

Notify of

Sort by:   newest | oldest | most voted
6 years 2 months ago

i am 45 years old. i am a person of good character. i have great respect and great love for my boyfriend. i have never cheated in my life. but three days ago i kissed another man in an attempt to find a comfort level with my boyfriend’s desire to swap. i confessed all. i didn’t enjoy it. i didn’t get turned on. it was a bad decision made in a drunken stupor. i am stupid stupid stupid.

my boyfriend won’t see me now. i guess i’ll have to start calling him my ex-boyfriend.

jim, sometimes James too
6 years 3 months ago

Well said James. It only comes down to character and respect, these qualities and gender are not mutually exclusive.

6 years 3 months ago


No, I am a firm believer in failthful monogomous relationships (16 years and counting) and my viewpoint is not the result of trying to justify anything. It is the result of a worldview that doesn’t label people and accepts that sometimes good people do bad things. I’ll admit my viewpoint has mellowed with age, but on a fundamental level, I’m not comfortable with levelling that kind of judgment against someone.

6 years 3 months ago

Nic, does your comment suggest you’ve cheated before? I seriously think people who cheat cannot control themselves, have lack of disciplinary actions, and are inferior. I’m sorry, its how I feel on the subject. Go watch ‘Cheaters’ the show on TV. Breaking up families and hurting your loved one’s feelings are big mistakes. And I know cheating people weigh in on those when they cheat.

6 years 3 months ago

While I get what you’re saying James – I think, in general, it’s better to stay away from using the phrase “mentally retarded” as a negative… even if your point is valid. As someone who works with developmentally, mentally and emotionally challenged people often, I can say with absolute certainty that your comments would probably deeply offend certain parts of the population.

Just to reiterate – I really do understand what you meant, and I am not attacking you … Just offering some friendly advice. :)