Comment of the Week: You, Em & Lo, Owe Us All an Apology

We received the following in response to our Metro article on negotiating a night of casual sex. Sometimes, it’s the hate mail that brings us the most joy:

I read your “article” in Metro this morning. Ironically I NEVER read that rag but for some reason I did this morning and I’m glad…it is critical to know who your enemies are and there you were “Negotiating for a Night of Casual Sex”. Ladies, please…this city, the internet and the world at large is filled with single women looking for relationships and not succeeding for many reasons not the least of which is the availability of casual sex. Shame and guilt have their place in this world, they are functional and who the hell are you to liberate anyone of those powerful and functional emotions. Sex is one of the universe’s most powerful and generous gifts and who are you to drag it through the muck? Seriously, who are you women? Don’t answer me, that is a question for you to answer in the privacy of your own heart and mind.

If you have no interest in seeing a person in the context of a relationship, you have no business engaging in sex with them-end of story. The extent of the damage you cause with your “perspective” and sharing it is beyond your comprehension.

Please consider what I’m saying, I suspect I’m not in the minority although I suspect you think I am.

I believe you owe us all an apology.

Very sincerely,

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24 Comments on "Comment of the Week: You, Em & Lo, Owe Us All an Apology"

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I would strongly suggest what you people check out a couple of websites one is ancient Egyptian religion and the other one is ancient Egyptian sexuality. You may find it extremely interesting I will also say you should quit calling one another bad names by calling others bad names you call your self the same.

Interpretation is the essence of education, experience and life. One may have common knowledge, but little common sense. One may feel very common, though may live life to extremes. This site is a place to encourage and support those that come fourth. With their vulnerability behind them, we can go forward together. If this was read or taken out of text, so be it. But the wrath is not fair nor relevant. Judging others to make your point or feel better in support of your opinion is unjust. Your diatribe was received and your connotation rejected. Next time, hypothesize to… Read more »

Poor B can’t settle down with the nice woman of his dreams because of all the sluts he’s sleeping with.

My advice, for everyone’s good, is for everybody to stop sleeping with B.

Madamoiselle L
B said: “So lets cut to the chase – I dig slutty chicks and I expect sex early on in a relationship. Perhaps I could overcome such attitudes but doing so is very difficult when so much free sex is on offer.” END QUOTE B, WHY is it up to the woman to “say no” and keep YOU from taking advantage of ready sex and thus somehow keeping you from having a long term relationship? If you want a long term relationship, they are there for the taking. Whether one has sex on the first date or the 20th, a… Read more »
Madamoiselle L
Jill is under the impression women who are looking for husbands (like her?) are somehow being undermined by other women, who are willing to experiment with sex more than she is? She is also under the impression, most tiringly, that a woman having sex with a man is “giving him a gift.” No, Jill, people having sex are SHARING something. Are men being “snatched up” by women who are more willing to “put out” than she? I have NO idea. I’ve never really thought about it. (And also, never suffered from a dearth of men to date, before I found… Read more »
Waynworth, I have to question your skills at interpreting argument. The original poster’s idea is not that those who wait are the only ones capable of forming real relationships. Instead her point is that the existence of promiscuity conditions men into expecting sex quickly and readily in even the early stages of a relationship. As such, those who don’t put out are put at a competitive disadvantage relative to those that do. Further since for many men mere sex is enough, the presence of the promiscuous acts as disincentive for them to pursue a relationship. Now do you disagree with… Read more »
B instructs us to pay attention to the original writer’s concern. Here’s her main argument: “Ladies, please…this city, the internet and the world at large is filled with single women looking for relationships and not succeeding for many reasons not the least of which is the availability of casual sex.” It’s hard to feel empathy for someone whose logic is so lacking. She seems to imagine a world where only those who wait to have sex (until marriage? until a bond of caring forms?) can form real relationships. That’s just silly. It’s possible that two people who meet and have… Read more »