Comments for Em & Lo: Sex. Love. And Everything in Between. http://www.emandlo.com Your daily dose of advice, news, and stories about sex, love, and other important stuff. No yoga mat required. Sat, 28 Mar 2015 06:59:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Why You Have to Tell Your Partner If You Have HPV by Crystalnebula http://www.emandlo.com/2015/03/why-you-have-to-tell-your-partner-if-you-have-hpv/comment-page-1/#comment-75861 Crystalnebula Sat, 28 Mar 2015 06:59:19 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=32585#comment-75861 I have always been honest with my partners, but a lot of the information isn't always very clear. Four years ago I was told that I had contracted high-risk HPV, and my OBGYN at the time told me that this was something I would have for the rest of my life. My partner at the time was wonderfully understanding and we continted to see each other for some time before going our separate ways. Fast forward to two years ago, through several less than thrilling dating encounters, including one that nearly made me give up dating altogether. My new OBGYN advised me that not only was I no longer carrying the virus, that according to my records I hadn't been for some time, and that HPV is actually more akin to a cold or a flu; most of the time your body will get over it and, while you're always still at risk if you are sexually active, it's not a Forever thing. I continue to be honest with my partners, but I honestly wonder how much pain and sadness I could have avoided had I know the truth in the first place. Of course peppeople should always be honest, and that honesty should be met with understanding and acceptance, but the medical professionals who inform their patients incorrectly should always keep appraised of the newest information, if only to make sure people do not suffer unnecessarily. I have always been honest with my partners, but a lot of the information isn’t always very clear. Four years ago I was told that I had contracted high-risk HPV, and my OBGYN at the time told me that this was something I would have for the rest of my life. My partner at the time was wonderfully understanding and we continted to see each other for some time before going our separate ways.
Fast forward to two years ago, through several less than thrilling dating encounters, including one that nearly made me give up dating altogether. My new OBGYN advised me that not only was I no longer carrying the virus, that according to my records I hadn’t been for some time, and that HPV is actually more akin to a cold or a flu; most of the time your body will get over it and, while you’re always still at risk if you are sexually active, it’s not a Forever thing.
I continue to be honest with my partners, but I honestly wonder how much pain and sadness I could have avoided had I know the truth in the first place. Of course peppeople should always be honest, and that honesty should be met with understanding and acceptance, but the medical professionals who inform their patients incorrectly should always keep appraised of the newest information, if only to make sure people do not suffer unnecessarily.

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Comment on Design Your Own Sex Toy, Win Fame and Cash! by Charlie Tribbey http://www.emandlo.com/2011/02/design-your-own-sex-toy-win-fame-and-cash/comment-page-1/#comment-75786 Charlie Tribbey Fri, 27 Mar 2015 02:13:14 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=14413#comment-75786 I have an idea about a variation of an existing toy, but have not found anything online. Need to know where to start. I have an idea about a variation of an existing toy, but have not found anything online. Need to know where to start.

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Comment on Wise Guys: What Would You Think of a Woman Proposing? by blurkel http://www.emandlo.com/2013/06/wise-guys-what-would-you-think-of-a-woman-proposing-2/comment-page-1/#comment-75780 blurkel Fri, 27 Mar 2015 00:39:11 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=24402#comment-75780 Women should do ALL the proposing. They gain so much while the men essentially give up everything. Women should do ALL the proposing. They gain so much while the men essentially give up everything.

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Comment on In Defense of Sex Toys, Feminism and Trolls by Nikki http://www.emandlo.com/2015/03/in-defense-of-sex-toys-feminism-and-trolls/comment-page-1/#comment-75746 Nikki Thu, 26 Mar 2015 14:25:11 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=32560#comment-75746 So I couldn't help but click to see the original comment. Em and Lo didn't just remove the "colorful" language - they distilled it into something understandable. I hope the original comment was posted by a non-native English speaker. Otherwise, I weep for the state of public education. So I couldn’t help but click to see the original comment. Em and Lo didn’t just remove the “colorful” language – they distilled it into something understandable. I hope the original comment was posted by a non-native English speaker. Otherwise, I weep for the state of public education.

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Comment on Your Call: Do Bigger Penises Lead to Different Orgasms for Women? by Gigi http://www.emandlo.com/2014/02/your-call-do-bigger-penises-lead-to-different-orgasms-for-women/comment-page-1/#comment-75717 Gigi Thu, 26 Mar 2015 03:37:31 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=27362#comment-75717 I thought all orgasms came from g spot and clitorus until I dated a guy with about 8.5" penis. He was also talented which can't be understated, but the areas he was able to stimulate were totally new to me and it completely blew my mind. With ADEQUATE arousal the cervix actually retreats out of the way (tenting) and most of the sensation is like a gentle bumping in the fornix area. You can't do it unless you're warmed up because hitting the cervix can be painful, in fact I used to hate deep penetration before I had a partner who was good at foreplay. it really only works after seriously effective foreplay when the vagina is "tented" (google it). It's frustrating tht women and their partners aren't told about cervical orgasms, be cause they literally take things to a different level, most women don't even know about it. I've only experienced this with an 8" man, but I hope it's possible for more people! I thought all orgasms came from g spot and clitorus until I dated a guy with about 8.5″ penis. He was also talented which can’t be understated, but the areas he was able to stimulate were totally new to me and it completely blew my mind. With ADEQUATE arousal the cervix actually retreats out of the way (tenting) and most of the sensation is like a gentle bumping in the fornix area. You can’t do it unless you’re warmed up because hitting the cervix can be painful, in fact I used to hate deep penetration before I had a partner who was good at foreplay. it really only works after seriously effective foreplay when the vagina is “tented” (google it). It’s frustrating tht women and their partners aren’t told about cervical orgasms, be cause they literally take things to a different level, most women don’t even know about it. I’ve only experienced this with an 8″ man, but I hope it’s possible for more people!

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Comment on The Amount of Sexual Attention Testicles Should Be Given by MSRed http://www.emandlo.com/2015/03/the-amount-of-sexual-attention-testicles-should-be-given/comment-page-1/#comment-75704 MSRed Wed, 25 Mar 2015 19:54:25 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=32554#comment-75704 I have recently discovered this glorious detail and dramatically improved my BJ satisfaction rate. It's a fun thing to watch a man's eyes roll back in pleasure with a loud, "Holy F*ck". :D I have recently discovered this glorious detail and dramatically improved my BJ satisfaction rate. It’s a fun thing to watch a man’s eyes roll back in pleasure with a loud, “Holy F*ck”. :D

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Comment on Dream Interpretation: My Boyfriend and I Had the Same Dream by Kaitlin http://www.emandlo.com/2013/02/dream-interpretation-my-boyfriend-and-i-had-the-same-dream/comment-page-1/#comment-75701 Kaitlin Wed, 25 Mar 2015 17:20:35 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=22970#comment-75701 Last night my boyfriend and I had a pregnancy dream. I dreamt that I took a test and it came out positive, but I was with my ex and searching for my current boyfriend so I could tell him. However, in his dream he was at home with his parents and I called him telling him that I was pregnant. What does this mean..? Last night my boyfriend and I had a pregnancy dream. I dreamt that I took a test and it came out positive, but I was with my ex and searching for my current boyfriend so I could tell him. However, in his dream he was at home with his parents and I called him telling him that I was pregnant. What does this mean..?

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Comment on Your Call: How Often Do F-Buddies Become Girlfriends? by Carolina http://www.emandlo.com/2011/10/your-call-how-often-do-f-buddies-become-girlfriends/comment-page-1/#comment-75700 Carolina Wed, 25 Mar 2015 16:54:14 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=16214#comment-75700 PS: We never kiss, I think we've only done 4 times since we met. He asks me to stay over his place even though he is not there because he has night shifts but wants me to be there when he gets home from work... Two months ago he started cuddling every time we'd seen which is weird considering how cold he is. and lastly sorry for my english, It's not my mother tongue PS:

We never kiss, I think we’ve only done 4 times since we met.

He asks me to stay over his place even though he is not there because he has night shifts but wants me to be there when he gets home from work…

Two months ago he started cuddling every time we’d seen which is weird considering how cold he is.

and lastly sorry for my english, It’s not my mother tongue

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Comment on Your Call: How Often Do F-Buddies Become Girlfriends? by Carolina http://www.emandlo.com/2011/10/your-call-how-often-do-f-buddies-become-girlfriends/comment-page-1/#comment-75699 Carolina Wed, 25 Mar 2015 16:43:01 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=16214#comment-75699 I've been in a fuck buddy relationship for over 5 months, I've never tried it before not even thought I would ever be in one; I've had sex only with bf never sth casual, nothing agaist ppl who do it but I thought it wasn't for me. This guy is one of my best guy friend's brother. This is weird but we've never met before I've seen the guy over 1000 times and we studied in the same highschool then in the same univeristy but never properly introduced, I always found him really attractive but that was it, never met him before the night we ended up having sex. He is a cold man, not very affectionate not even with his family but amazing in bed, the sex hooked me, I thought it would be a ONS but he managed to get my number and we kept having sex twice a week, I never said I didn't want anything serious he didn't say anything...but we keep doing this since then. Idk if I have feelings for him or I'm obsessed with the sex we have, we have nothing in common yet we get along well, but we are too similar in the emotional side we both keep things to ourselves and never truly say what we want unless we are under pressure... He texts me often not only for coordinate our next fuck fest, he spent his birthday alone with me in a hotel...He is so weird he blows hot he blows cold...I never know what he is thinking he is so hard to read he doesn't let anyone get through him. Last week we saw each other in a party, were I was with his brother, my friend and he got there knowing I'd be there, he was always careful not to be seen by anyone with me, I was beyond nervous...his brother even introduced us...lol. He didn't avoid me he was nice with the whole night then drove me home among his brother and the picked me up and we went to his place and had sex...he told me he thought his brother knew about us, I told him that it was impossible and he said he was touching you all night, that's sth he'd do just to peace me off if he knew...then I asked him why did he mean by his brother touching me, my friend hugged me like he always does...he is his oppposite he is very "affective" and tender. After that night he called me daily just to talk of random things...and asked me if I could see him...I couldn't because of work that week he was okay with it. And now I texted him asking him when I could see him and he read my messages and doesn't answer back and I see him talking with other ppl... Should I cut things off with this guy before I fall for real for him? I need HELP! some advice please I’ve been in a fuck buddy relationship for over 5 months, I’ve never tried it before not even thought I would ever be in one; I’ve had sex only with bf never sth casual, nothing agaist ppl who do it but I thought it wasn’t for me.
This guy is one of my best guy friend’s brother. This is weird but we’ve never met before I’ve seen the guy over 1000 times and we studied in the same highschool then in the same univeristy but never properly introduced, I always found him really attractive but that was it, never met him before the night we ended up having sex.

He is a cold man, not very affectionate not even with his family but amazing in bed, the sex hooked me, I thought it would be a ONS but he managed to get my number and we kept having sex twice a week, I never said I didn’t want anything serious he didn’t say anything…but we keep doing this since then.

Idk if I have feelings for him or I’m obsessed with the sex we have, we have nothing in common yet we get along well, but we are too similar in the emotional side we both keep things to ourselves and never truly say what we want unless we are under pressure…
He texts me often not only for coordinate our next fuck fest, he spent his birthday alone with me in a hotel…He is so weird he blows hot he blows cold…I never know what he is thinking he is so hard to read he doesn’t let anyone get through him.

Last week we saw each other in a party, were I was with his brother, my friend and he got there knowing I’d be there, he was always careful not to be seen by anyone with me, I was beyond nervous…his brother even introduced us…lol. He didn’t avoid me he was nice with the whole night then drove me home among his brother and the picked me up and we went to his place and had sex…he told me he thought his brother knew about us, I told him that it was impossible and he said he was touching you all night, that’s sth he’d do just to peace me off if he knew…then I asked him why did he mean by his brother touching me, my friend hugged me like he always does…he is his oppposite he is very “affective” and tender. After that night he called me daily just to talk of random things…and asked me if I could see him…I couldn’t because of work that week he was okay with it.

And now I texted him asking him when I could see him and he read my messages and doesn’t answer back and I see him talking with other ppl…

Should I cut things off with this guy before I fall for real for him?

I need HELP! some advice please

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Comment on In Defense of Sex Toys, Feminism and Trolls by Johnny http://www.emandlo.com/2015/03/in-defense-of-sex-toys-feminism-and-trolls/comment-page-1/#comment-75695 Johnny Wed, 25 Mar 2015 14:54:01 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=32560#comment-75695 Trolling is no excuse for poor spelling. It's "dildo," not "dildoe." Em & Lo are getting trolled by Dan Quayle. Trolling is no excuse for poor spelling. It’s “dildo,” not “dildoe.”

Em & Lo are getting trolled by Dan Quayle.

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