Comments for Em & Lo: Sex. Love. And Everything in Between. http://www.emandlo.com Your daily dose of advice, news, and stories about sex, love, and other important stuff. No yoga mat required. Fri, 31 Oct 2014 20:33:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Tell Us Your Viagra Story! by Phil http://www.emandlo.com/2014/03/tell-us-your-viagra-story/comment-page-1/#comment-74702 Phil Fri, 31 Oct 2014 20:33:12 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=27955#comment-74702 I have been using Viagra since it came out in 1998. It has greatly enhanced my sexual pleasure and that of my partner. I have noticed that my insurance company is paying for less and less every year so lately I am having to pay nearly 50% of the cost, but it worth it. I have been using Viagra since it came out in 1998. It has greatly enhanced my sexual pleasure and that of my partner. I have noticed that my insurance company is paying for less and less every year so lately I am having to pay nearly 50% of the cost, but it worth it.

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Comment on Blog Snog: An Open Letter to Men Who Think Catcalling Is Flattery by Johnny http://www.emandlo.com/2014/10/blog-snog-an-open-letter-to-men-who-think-catcalling-is-flattering/comment-page-1/#comment-74701 Johnny Fri, 31 Oct 2014 15:00:48 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=30542#comment-74701 ... the argument I had with the guys on the pickup site illustrated my problem with feminism and men's rights, by the way. The guys in that street video are disgusting. The way they treat that woman ranges from rude to frightening. Yet the guys on the pickup site - smart guys, thinking guys, guys whose views and advice I normally respect - felt compelled to defend the people with the same genitals as them. Feminists are on the attack, which means that they need to mount a defense. There was NO WAY they'd say, "yeah, you know what, those guys shouldn't be doing that. The point goes to the feminists on this one." Feminism has the same problem. There is almost no shitty female behavior that feminists won't defend, apologize for, or blame on men and patriarchy. That's why I just can't get behind either movement. They're interest groups. They're each just interested in scoring a win for their side. … the argument I had with the guys on the pickup site illustrated my problem with feminism and men’s rights, by the way.

The guys in that street video are disgusting. The way they treat that woman ranges from rude to frightening. Yet the guys on the pickup site – smart guys, thinking guys, guys whose views and advice I normally respect – felt compelled to defend the people with the same genitals as them. Feminists are on the attack, which means that they need to mount a defense. There was NO WAY they’d say, “yeah, you know what, those guys shouldn’t be doing that. The point goes to the feminists on this one.”

Feminism has the same problem. There is almost no shitty female behavior that feminists won’t defend, apologize for, or blame on men and patriarchy.

That’s why I just can’t get behind either movement. They’re interest groups. They’re each just interested in scoring a win for their side.

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Comment on Blog Snog: An Open Letter to Men Who Think Catcalling Is Flattery by Johnny http://www.emandlo.com/2014/10/blog-snog-an-open-letter-to-men-who-think-catcalling-is-flattering/comment-page-1/#comment-74700 Johnny Fri, 31 Oct 2014 13:21:47 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=30542#comment-74700 I had a lengthy argument about this on a pickup website. Their stance was, "feminism continues to demonize male sexuality, and saying 'hey beautiful' isn't harassment." My stance was, "don't defend these idiots. They're bothering strangers on the street in ways ranging from douchey to scary." ... and I'm all for trying to get laid any time, anywhere. I'm not saying don't try to pick women up in public. I'm saying, GENUINELY try to meet women in public. I've never, ever seen a woman respond to, "HEY BEAUTIFUL, WHERE YOU GOING, I'M TRYING TO TALK TO YOU!" Guys are doing that to stoke their own egos (to feel like they're "in the game"), to impress each other, because they get a giggle out of watching the woman scurry away... it's never gonna work and they know it. The woman is basically the butt of a joke. I find it really fucking rude. I'd never demonize male sexuality - she's a woman and you're a man. You're literally built to want to fuck each other. Get in there and take a shot! You're allowed to try to get laid. Nothing wrong with having a boner for a girl. But treat her like a person, for chrissake. Try to attract her, not repel her. Would you do that if you were trying to meet anyone else? "HEY BOSS, WHAT'S THAT, A FORTUNE FIVE HUNDRED COMPANY? C'MERE AND HIRE ME MAN, I GOT A LENGTHY RESUME! WHERE YOU GOING, CORPORATE, I'M TALKING TO YOU! I'M JUST SAYING YOU LOOK GOOD IN THAT SUIT! WHAT ARE YOU, TOO STUCK UP TO TAKE A COMPLIMENT? FINE, FUCK YOU, YOUR COMPANY SUCKS ANYWAY!" I had a lengthy argument about this on a pickup website. Their stance was, “feminism continues to demonize male sexuality, and saying ‘hey beautiful’ isn’t harassment.” My stance was, “don’t defend these idiots. They’re bothering strangers on the street in ways ranging from douchey to scary.”

… and I’m all for trying to get laid any time, anywhere. I’m not saying don’t try to pick women up in public. I’m saying, GENUINELY try to meet women in public. I’ve never, ever seen a woman respond to, “HEY BEAUTIFUL, WHERE YOU GOING, I’M TRYING TO TALK TO YOU!” Guys are doing that to stoke their own egos (to feel like they’re “in the game”), to impress each other, because they get a giggle out of watching the woman scurry away… it’s never gonna work and they know it. The woman is basically the butt of a joke. I find it really fucking rude.

I’d never demonize male sexuality – she’s a woman and you’re a man. You’re literally built to want to fuck each other. Get in there and take a shot! You’re allowed to try to get laid. Nothing wrong with having a boner for a girl. But treat her like a person, for chrissake. Try to attract her, not repel her.

Would you do that if you were trying to meet anyone else?

“HEY BOSS, WHAT’S THAT, A FORTUNE FIVE HUNDRED COMPANY? C’MERE AND HIRE ME MAN, I GOT A LENGTHY RESUME! WHERE YOU GOING, CORPORATE, I’M TALKING TO YOU! I’M JUST SAYING YOU LOOK GOOD IN THAT SUIT! WHAT ARE YOU, TOO STUCK UP TO TAKE A COMPLIMENT? FINE, FUCK YOU, YOUR COMPANY SUCKS ANYWAY!”

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Comment on Ladies-Only Poll: Who Do You Think About During Self-Love? by Nani Ritayu http://www.emandlo.com/2009/10/ladies-only-poll-who-do-you-think-about-during-self-love/comment-page-1/#comment-74699 Nani Ritayu Fri, 31 Oct 2014 05:34:40 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=5709#comment-74699 Ahhh...the sweet despicable vaginal juice oozing away like a stream of hot lava. How I could just lie down spread eagle with my favourite dildo the while I'm dreaming of a stranger banging me silly not to mention the voracious lapping on my clit till I orgasm and squirt like a mini fountain. The bottom is I like to be eaten and screwed in all my orifices by two well endowed black strangers ,well almost only problem is I'm afraid to do it in real.Getting off solo is well still safe and enjoyable.Haha.... Ahhh…the sweet despicable vaginal juice oozing away like a stream of hot lava. How I could just lie down spread eagle with my favourite dildo the while I’m dreaming of a stranger banging me silly not to mention the voracious lapping on my clit till I orgasm and squirt like a mini fountain. The bottom is I like to be eaten and screwed in all my orifices by two well endowed black strangers ,well almost only problem is I’m afraid to do it in real.Getting off solo is well still safe and enjoyable.Haha….

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Comment on The Kind of Date Night You SHOULD Be Having, According to Science by Johnny http://www.emandlo.com/2014/10/the-kind-of-date-night-you-should-be-having-according-to-science/comment-page-1/#comment-74696 Johnny Thu, 30 Oct 2014 12:59:38 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=30522#comment-74696 I think it's super important to keep dating your long-term partner. It can't just be Netflix till you pass out every night. I think it’s super important to keep dating your long-term partner. It can’t just be Netflix till you pass out every night.

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Comment on Your Call: I Can’t Handle My Boyfriend’s Bisexuality by Matt http://www.emandlo.com/2011/01/your-call-i-cant-handle-my-boyfriends-bisexuality/comment-page-1/#comment-74695 Matt Thu, 30 Oct 2014 08:48:31 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=13634#comment-74695 by sticking to my own type, I can smell these types and fakes and flamers off the bat and even straight women who get pissed because many are open to it but I am not what they think and I do it because when I am with a bisexual woman on my level, I will check out a man, I am monogamous and love who I love but since she flirts with women sporadically and we are kind of militant so we are upfront about not being gay or straight because we are different and the gay community is a fucking joke... we can understand each other... it is nothing against straight gay or some bisexuals either, who are wives or attached to gay people and their never ending complaints. We also know that our community doesn't fuck with anyone outside of our own sexually, are the lowest STD rates in the area out of everyone and we live peacefully and happily with no drama or anything that we can't understand or relate to. I was with my ex Jessica for 5 years before she miscarried and went nuts and it was gone because I didn't know her anymore and she is with another bi woman right now and Alex, the dude that used to be ready to throw down if we didn't get called bi and the situation got violent. We met at a martial arts tournament and I was also a scrapper and bully already because everyone knew I was bisexual so the judo and weapons trophies and notes in the paper and beating serious ass when shit needed to be done, didn't subject me to the part time faggot jokes. His deal was head trauma... these two girls with their faggot friend had a fit because I called myself bi and then called her fag basher friends once, we beat their asses and then jumped that flamer for saying "this is one hate crime I can't wait to see"... It is because of those that jump outside of their orientation... chicks who are bi that date just straight dudes are just sluts who get no respect because the only reason straight men like them is "hot lezzie porn 3 somes" so the girls dislike them too... by sticking to my own type, I can smell these types and fakes and flamers off the bat and even straight women who get pissed because many are open to it but I am not what they think and I do it because when I am with a bisexual woman on my level, I will check out a man, I am monogamous and love who I love but since she flirts with women sporadically and we are kind of militant so we are upfront about not being gay or straight because we are different and the gay community is a fucking joke… we can understand each other… it is nothing against straight gay or some bisexuals either, who are wives or attached to gay people and their never ending complaints. We also know that our community doesn’t fuck with anyone outside of our own sexually, are the lowest STD rates in the area out of everyone and we live peacefully and happily with no drama or anything that we can’t understand or relate to. I was with my ex Jessica for 5 years before she miscarried and went nuts and it was gone because I didn’t know her anymore and she is with another bi woman right now and Alex, the dude that used to be ready to throw down if we didn’t get called bi and the situation got violent. We met at a martial arts tournament and I was also a scrapper and bully already because everyone knew I was bisexual so the judo and weapons trophies and notes in the paper and beating serious ass when shit needed to be done, didn’t subject me to the part time faggot jokes. His deal was head trauma… these two girls with their faggot friend had a fit because I called myself bi and then called her fag basher friends once, we beat their asses and then jumped that flamer for saying “this is one hate crime I can’t wait to see”… It is because of those that jump outside of their orientation… chicks who are bi that date just straight dudes are just sluts who get no respect because the only reason straight men like them is “hot lezzie porn 3 somes” so the girls dislike them too…

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Comment on Your Call: I Can’t Handle My Boyfriend’s Bisexuality by Matt http://www.emandlo.com/2011/01/your-call-i-cant-handle-my-boyfriends-bisexuality/comment-page-1/#comment-74694 Matt Thu, 30 Oct 2014 08:34:26 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=13634#comment-74694 I am a bisexual man, one of the unicorns. First, he is a jerk for cheating on you and don't let him guilt you into letting him okay that. Those types are dangerous and they are also not to be trusted. I will also say, it seems like he leans more predominantly that way or he's a closet homo. I know I fall in love and fall in love for the duration. If he is a closet gay man and comes out later on, understand he was never bi and please just judge the guy as a prick. Don't let tumblr social justice guilt you into feeling wrong for your anger. I am not gay and they are the ones who are in denial about their bad elements. I will be the first to say that bisexual men and the bimbo bi women are often novelty bisexuals or experimenting and in one way their experience is bisexual but I have experimented with many straight men and they are straight and it was technically bisexual behavior but it was a curiosity and I am responsible and am friends with the ones I have. I don't disrespect their boundaries and privacy and gay men would tell the world and humiliate them. Also, don't bite the bait of "being bisexual is no different than being gay or straight" crap... if he is a male, engaging in sexual behavior with men from the net... it is too high risk... that is how they end up in the spot that they play the victim about later because they do what gay people do. I personally only date my own orientation and they have to be very centered on that part of them because I am not a fan of those who do the "I am %/gay %/straight" self hating crap because that is self hate and you are failing at the entire point if you are going that route... The victim act worked for gays but they also made sure brokeback mountain was a hit because it shows what is accurately closet homosexuality but is seen as bisexual. And I can sense a real bi guy vs the pervs, curious, gay people faking it, or lying thinking one of us will date them... like the Mariah hands and lisp isn't obvious. It isn't homophobic either... gay men are dirty and this bisexual breed, a slowly dying percentage thank goodness have the woman at home who is straight and a desperate lonely femme gay dude on the side who, "he has never gone that way for"... I had one date with one of those bisexuals, I told him to go to the gullible ones and hurt more of them because the particular section of town where our breed of bisexual doesn't welcome that breed of bisexual at all because I saw him for what he was from the get go... You have every right to know... and gay people, whether this is homophobic or not are infested with higher rates of STDs, they run trains on eachother are filthy, will suck off anyone off the side of the road and these types of bisexuals are just as fucking filthy and they are the homophobes and self hating bisexuals. I get very attractive, strong bisexual men who have a more hands on approach to homophobes and even mouthy ass bitchy flamers... and seriously, 95% of the time you are accused of homophobia it is a social pressure tool. Straight people are fucking decent... heck one of Matthew Shepard murderers in that hate crime was openly bisexual and it irritates me as a bisexual that gay people ignore that to guilt trip you guys who are more than polite. Plus, the truth is homophobic and biphobic sometimes. So "bisexuals", real and otherwise, before you whine about stereotypes and discrimination, understand that this person and many people are hurt by the stereotype that we all hate and gay people fail because they bully people into tolerating the intolerable and we need to own up to this problem and confront it if we want an ounce of respect or else people will just be rewording shit with a sign of relief like they do with gay people. I would personally dump them... I only got one once but we really look down on that type... trying too hard to fit into a gay/straight dynamic that we are not part of at all because being both is a 3rd category which is an umbrella in a sense but also neither one as far as identity goes so part of the problem is too many trying to have a place to have a throne and throw a pity party like they were an audience for with gay people. I am a bisexual man, one of the unicorns. First, he is a jerk for cheating on you and don’t let him guilt you into letting him okay that. Those types are dangerous and they are also not to be trusted. I will also say, it seems like he leans more predominantly that way or he’s a closet homo. I know I fall in love and fall in love for the duration. If he is a closet gay man and comes out later on, understand he was never bi and please just judge the guy as a prick.

Don’t let tumblr social justice guilt you into feeling wrong for your anger. I am not gay and they are the ones who are in denial about their bad elements. I will be the first to say that bisexual men and the bimbo bi women are often novelty bisexuals or experimenting and in one way their experience is bisexual but I have experimented with many straight men and they are straight and it was technically bisexual behavior but it was a curiosity and I am responsible and am friends with the ones I have. I don’t disrespect their boundaries and privacy and gay men would tell the world and humiliate them.

Also, don’t bite the bait of “being bisexual is no different than being gay or straight” crap… if he is a male, engaging in sexual behavior with men from the net… it is too high risk… that is how they end up in the spot that they play the victim about later because they do what gay people do.

I personally only date my own orientation and they have to be very centered on that part of them because I am not a fan of those who do the “I am %/gay %/straight” self hating crap because that is self hate and you are failing at the entire point if you are going that route… The victim act worked for gays but they also made sure brokeback mountain was a hit because it shows what is accurately closet homosexuality but is seen as bisexual. And I can sense a real bi guy vs the pervs, curious, gay people faking it, or lying thinking one of us will date them… like the Mariah hands and lisp isn’t obvious.

It isn’t homophobic either… gay men are dirty and this bisexual breed, a slowly dying percentage thank goodness have the woman at home who is straight and a desperate lonely femme gay dude on the side who, “he has never gone that way for”… I had one date with one of those bisexuals, I told him to go to the gullible ones and hurt more of them because the particular section of town where our breed of bisexual doesn’t welcome that breed of bisexual at all because I saw him for what he was from the get go…

You have every right to know… and gay people, whether this is homophobic or not are infested with higher rates of STDs, they run trains on eachother are filthy, will suck off anyone off the side of the road and these types of bisexuals are just as fucking filthy and they are the homophobes and self hating bisexuals. I get very attractive, strong bisexual men who have a more hands on approach to homophobes and even mouthy ass bitchy flamers… and seriously, 95% of the time you are accused of homophobia it is a social pressure tool. Straight people are fucking decent… heck one of Matthew Shepard murderers in that hate crime was openly bisexual and it irritates me as a bisexual that gay people ignore that to guilt trip you guys who are more than polite. Plus, the truth is homophobic and biphobic sometimes. So “bisexuals”, real and otherwise, before you whine about stereotypes and discrimination, understand that this person and many people are hurt by the stereotype that we all hate and gay people fail because they bully people into tolerating the intolerable and we need to own up to this problem and confront it if we want an ounce of respect or else people will just be rewording shit with a sign of relief like they do with gay people.

I would personally dump them… I only got one once but we really look down on that type… trying too hard to fit into a gay/straight dynamic that we are not part of at all because being both is a 3rd category which is an umbrella in a sense but also neither one as far as identity goes so part of the problem is too many trying to have a place to have a throne and throw a pity party like they were an audience for with gay people.

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Comment on 5 STDs You Should Worry About More Than Ebola by Dave W http://www.emandlo.com/2014/10/5-stds-you-should-worry-about-more-than-ebola/comment-page-1/#comment-74693 Dave W Thu, 30 Oct 2014 07:05:11 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=30529#comment-74693 The herpes you're talking about is type II. But nowadays it's also quite common to get type I through sex. Special warning to folks who are prone to eczema, even if you don't currently have a rash. The case of herpes that you contract can be life-threatening. Trust me. The herpes you’re talking about is type II. But nowadays it’s also quite common to get type I through sex.
Special warning to folks who are prone to eczema, even if you don’t currently have a rash. The case of herpes that you contract can be life-threatening. Trust me.

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Comment on Dream Interpretation: I Have a Big Penis, But in Real Life I’m a Woman by cherry long http://www.emandlo.com/2012/07/dream-interpretation-i-have-a-big-penis-but-in-real-life-im-a-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-74692 cherry long Thu, 30 Oct 2014 06:03:21 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=19420#comment-74692 Not only do I have a very similar dream, but I too take on all of these characteristics. I don't know if the analysis is correct but I certainly do like the sound of it. I don't have a lot of self esteem in other facets of my life but I am very assertive to say the least. Not only do I have a very similar dream, but I too take on all of these characteristics. I don’t know if the analysis is correct but I certainly do like the sound of it. I don’t have a lot of self esteem in other facets of my life but I am very assertive to say the least.

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Comment on A Guide to Sketchy Ballot Measures This Election Day by Dave http://www.emandlo.com/2014/10/a-guide-to-sketchy-ballot-measures-this-election-day/comment-page-1/#comment-74689 Dave Wed, 29 Oct 2014 19:32:08 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=30525#comment-74689 I really wish people would put as much effort into helping prevent unwanted pregnancies (by making birth control more accessible) as they did trying to make abortion illegal. They could stop 80+% of the abortions in this country without this giant legal battle. Unfortunately they aren't interested in helping people, only forcing them to do the "right" thing. I really wish people would put as much effort into helping prevent unwanted pregnancies (by making birth control more accessible) as they did trying to make abortion illegal.

They could stop 80+% of the abortions in this country without this giant legal battle. Unfortunately they aren’t interested in helping people, only forcing them to do the “right” thing.

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