Comments for Em & Lo: Sex. Love. And Everything in Between. http://www.emandlo.com Your daily dose of advice, news, and stories about sex, love, and other important stuff. No yoga mat required. Sat, 25 May 2013 20:04:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Comment of the Week: Orgasms Are Like Dessert by kauane http://www.emandlo.com/2012/02/comment-of-the-week-orgasms-are-like-dessert/comment-page-1/#comment-60298 kauane Sat, 25 May 2013 20:04:58 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=17598#comment-60298 oi gente esses jogos oi gente esses jogos

]]> Comment on How to Have a One-Night Stand in 10 Easy Steps by imtiaz ali http://www.emandlo.com/2009/09/how-to-have-a-one-night-stand/comment-page-1/#comment-60291 imtiaz ali Sat, 25 May 2013 09:53:15 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=5537#comment-60291 I am still single since i had caught my in my room sleeping with my closest friend, just two days to my wedding, and i shut my heart from relationships, but i have decided to open my heart and learn to love and trust again, and i am here to find a new love. The kind of Man am looking for should be very well responsible, honest, caring, lovely, open-minded and i dont mind if he has any kids or not, and i promise to take care of him with everything i have in all aspect and also make him happy till the rest of his life if he can, in return give me his love. cell...0060197843396 i waiting I am still single since i had caught my in my room sleeping with my closest friend, just two days to my wedding, and i shut my heart from relationships, but i have decided to open my heart and learn to love and trust again, and i am here to find a new love.

The kind of Man am looking for should be very well responsible, honest, caring, lovely, open-minded and i dont mind if he has any kids or not, and i promise to take care of him with everything i have in all aspect and also make him happy till the rest of his life if he can, in return give me his love. cell…0060197843396 i waiting

]]> Comment on How to Have a One-Night Stand in 10 Easy Steps by imtiaz ali http://www.emandlo.com/2009/09/how-to-have-a-one-night-stand/comment-page-1/#comment-60290 imtiaz ali Sat, 25 May 2013 09:51:49 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=5537#comment-60290 I am still single since i had caught my in my room sleeping with my closest friend, just two days to my wedding, and i shut my heart from relationships, but i have decided to open my heart and learn to love and trust again, and i am here to find a new love. The kind of Man am looking for should be very well responsible, honest, caring, lovely, open-minded and i dont mind if he has any kids or not, and i promise to take care of him with everything i have in all aspect and also make him happy till the rest of his life if he can, in return give me his love. I am still single since i had caught my in my room sleeping with my closest friend, just two days to my wedding, and i shut my heart from relationships, but i have decided to open my heart and learn to love and trust again, and i am here to find a new love.

The kind of Man am looking for should be very well responsible, honest, caring, lovely, open-minded and i dont mind if he has any kids or not, and i promise to take care of him with everything i have in all aspect and also make him happy till the rest of his life if he can, in return give me his love.

]]> Comment on Writer Defends Adulterers, Calls the Rest of Us “Holier Than Thou” by Skano http://www.emandlo.com/2009/08/writer-defends-adulterers-calls-the-rest-of-us-holier-than-thou/comment-page-3/#comment-60244 Skano Fri, 24 May 2013 14:20:48 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=5220#comment-60244 People in happy, fulfilling relationships don't cheat. Keep that, rather than old fashioned words such as 'duty' and 'loyalty' as your mantra. There are probably millions of marriages out there that are, whilst not abusive, physically or emotionally unfulfilling for one or both partners. We live in a society that embraces sexual freedom and choice, where sexual innuendo and imagery is everywhere, but we still cling to the belief that being in a long term relationship somehow switches of the parts of your brain that find people other than your spouse or partner attractive. Monogamy is not a universal norm, and, even in societies with supposedly strict codes of sexual fidelity, there have always been practices society turns a blind eye to. There are many traditional cultures that have allowed, or even embraced and encouraged, non-monogamous relationships and sex with other partners than your spouse/main partner. Sexual desire is an inescapable part of our human nature, and there are thousands of people trapped in relationships where their partner is unresponsive to their sexual needs. What are you supposed to do if you still have a healthy sex drive and desire for sex which your partner does not share? Divorce them? Coerce them? I'm not saying we should all run out and cheat, just that maybe we should try and be a bit more understanding and a bit less self-righteous and actually think about how we treat our partners and how we respond to their sexual desire or lack of. People in happy, fulfilling relationships don’t cheat. Keep that, rather than old fashioned words such as ‘duty’ and ‘loyalty’ as your mantra. There are probably millions of marriages out there that are, whilst not abusive, physically or emotionally unfulfilling for one or both partners. We live in a society that embraces sexual freedom and choice, where sexual innuendo and imagery is everywhere, but we still cling to the belief that being in a long term relationship somehow switches of the parts of your brain that find people other than your spouse or partner attractive.

Monogamy is not a universal norm, and, even in societies with supposedly strict codes of sexual fidelity, there have always been practices society turns a blind eye to. There are many traditional cultures that have allowed, or even embraced and encouraged, non-monogamous relationships and sex with other partners than your spouse/main partner.

Sexual desire is an inescapable part of our human nature, and there are thousands of people trapped in relationships where their partner is unresponsive to their sexual needs. What are you supposed to do if you still have a healthy sex drive and desire for sex which your partner does not share? Divorce them? Coerce them?

I’m not saying we should all run out and cheat, just that maybe we should try and be a bit more understanding and a bit less self-righteous and actually think about how we treat our partners and how we respond to their sexual desire or lack of.

]]> Comment on 5 Reasons to Have Sex with the Lights On by Skano http://www.emandlo.com/2012/04/5-reasons-to-have-sex-with-the-lights-on/comment-page-1/#comment-60243 Skano Fri, 24 May 2013 14:06:16 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=18443#comment-60243 Does anyone still have sex with the lights off? I never have, and that's not because I vainly think I'm some super hottie. If you want sex to involve a lot of uncomfortable fumbling and misplaced appendages, by all means do it in the pitch black. But if you're like most people seeing everything is part of the thrill. Does anyone still have sex with the lights off? I never have, and that’s not because I vainly think I’m some super hottie. If you want sex to involve a lot of uncomfortable fumbling and misplaced appendages, by all means do it in the pitch black. But if you’re like most people seeing everything is part of the thrill.

]]> Comment on 5 Reasons Why More Sex Helps Your Career by Kasmir http://www.emandlo.com/2012/09/5-reasons-why-more-sex-helps-your-career/comment-page-1/#comment-60240 Kasmir Fri, 24 May 2013 13:28:58 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=20584#comment-60240 I would just say... F - beep - you and your F - beep - advises about "how much" sex people should have. SO MUCH insisting on sex is just... F - beep - boring :P I would just say… F – beep – you and your F – beep – advises about “how much” sex people should have. SO MUCH insisting on sex is just… F – beep – boring :P

]]> Comment on Wise Guys: Should a Woman Be Worried About Her Boyf’s Close Female Friends? by Soduko http://www.emandlo.com/2012/02/wise-guys-should-a-woman-be-worried-about-her-boyfs-many-close-female-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-60218 Soduko Fri, 24 May 2013 06:01:35 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=17827#comment-60218 I think it's incredibly naïve to be okay with your exclusive boyfriend/husband having close female friends that he texts a lot and hangs out with a lot. I don't know where the misconception came from that cheating or infidelity only occurs once INTIMATE physical contact or intercourse has been had between two people. That simply isn't so. For example, what do you do the first month you are dating someone? You talk, you get to know each other, you share, you laugh, you grow closer... how is that different from what he does with his female friends? It's emotional cheating at the very least, It's insensitive and disrespectful to the woman, you very rarely hear about women with very close male friends they spend a lot of time with or talk to a lot, most men wouldn't put up with it..and most importantly, it makes PHYSICAL cheating a REAL possibility. You can't blame a man for falling in love with another woman who he has had so much time to foster a bond with. That's how the groundwork for a relationship (sexual and/or emotional,) is laid: through connecting, talking, spending time together, etc. Why would any man who is happily committed to one woman put himself in that position where feelings may develop with another woman? No. I say once you decide to commit, keep your female friends at arm's length, downgrade them to acquaintance status, and keep your friendly activities to all-males only (maybe a few females sprinkled in large group settings, but def no one-on-one.) If this sounds "controlling" just remember that I behave exactly the same in a relationship. I don't expect anything I'm not willing to give. I think it’s incredibly naïve to be okay with your exclusive boyfriend/husband having close female friends that he texts a lot and hangs out with a lot. I don’t know where the misconception came from that cheating or infidelity only occurs once INTIMATE physical contact or intercourse has been had between two people. That simply isn’t so. For example, what do you do the first month you are dating someone? You talk, you get to know each other, you share, you laugh, you grow closer… how is that different from what he does with his female friends? It’s emotional cheating at the very least, It’s insensitive and disrespectful to the woman, you very rarely hear about women with very close male friends they spend a lot of time with or talk to a lot, most men wouldn’t put up with it..and most importantly, it makes PHYSICAL cheating a REAL possibility. You can’t blame a man for falling in love with another woman who he has had so much time to foster a bond with. That’s how the groundwork for a relationship (sexual and/or emotional,) is laid: through connecting, talking, spending time together, etc. Why would any man who is happily committed to one woman put himself in that position where feelings may develop with another woman? No. I say once you decide to commit, keep your female friends at arm’s length, downgrade them to acquaintance status, and keep your friendly activities to all-males only (maybe a few females sprinkled in large group settings, but def no one-on-one.) If this sounds “controlling” just remember that I behave exactly the same in a relationship. I don’t expect anything I’m not willing to give.

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]]> Comment on Your Call: We Got Kinky Then She Dumped Me – Now What? by TishK http://www.emandlo.com/2012/03/your-call-we-got-kinky-then-she-dumped-me-now-what/comment-page-1/#comment-60178 TishK Thu, 23 May 2013 12:38:04 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=17877#comment-60178 Also don't underestimate Love in general. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 6 years now and he just recently showed interest in pegging. He is a very macho manly guy and I would have never guessed that this is something he would be interested in. We have always had a great sex life but I never would have thought this is something he would be interested until he asked for it. I guess my point is this, I love him therefore, I will try anything to make him happy. It doesn't give me the power trip that it does for some women but I do enjoy making him feel good. I enjoy anal sex so I've known for a long time how good it can feel. Not to say that everyone will be as open as I have been but there is a possibility that when you do find that someone they will want to make you happy. Even if they have not previously been into it doesn't necessarily rule it out. Also don’t underestimate Love in general. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 6 years now and he just recently showed interest in pegging. He is a very macho manly guy and I would have never guessed that this is something he would be interested in. We have always had a great sex life but I never would have thought this is something he would be interested until he asked for it. I guess my point is this, I love him therefore, I will try anything to make him happy. It doesn’t give me the power trip that it does for some women but I do enjoy making him feel good. I enjoy anal sex so I’ve known for a long time how good it can feel.

Not to say that everyone will be as open as I have been but there is a possibility that when you do find that someone they will want to make you happy. Even if they have not previously been into it doesn’t necessarily rule it out.

]]> Comment on Your Call – Why Is My Husband Jealous of My Female Friendships? by Cary http://www.emandlo.com/2010/04/your-call-why-is-my-husband-jealous-of-my-female-friendships/comment-page-1/#comment-60165 Cary Thu, 23 May 2013 03:06:37 +0000 http://www.emandlo.com/?p=9364#comment-60165 I dont agree with catering to a man to build up his level of security.... Sex, constant affectionate verbalization. A girl needs girl time.... To re-energize. Why's that so difficult? I dont agree with catering to a man to build up his level of security…. Sex, constant affectionate verbalization. A girl needs girl time…. To re-energize. Why’s that so difficult?

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