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One of our college contributors, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make:

Everytime I check out Cosmo, look at Men’s Health with my boyfriend, or go to the sex aisle at Barnes and Noble, I see hundreds of very creative (and sometimes gravity-defying) ways that I “should” be having sex. I see the same exotic moves when we watch sites like sex hd tuber too. But give me the good ol’ fashioned Missionary Position any day, if for no other reason than that it allows me to really focus on the person I’m having fantastic sex with! But if you need more convincing to make the missionary your go-to sex-po, try these reasons on for size:

1. Intimacy. The missionary’s physical closeness engenders emotional closeness. After all, you feel completely smooshed together, fused. It’s the position people think of when love songs mention two people becoming one.
2. Communication. The two of you can easily adjust and react to each other’s movements. Whether you need to slow down, move your hips differently, or fall into the same rhythm – in missionary its very easy to communicate your needs to one another. You can even convey things with just a simple glance or nudge — words aren’t even always necessary!
3. Tactility. He can feel every small movement her hips make as they thrust toward him, feel her breasts pushing up against his chest. She can feel the way his arms and legs tense as he moves on top of her, how his butt cheeks clench. Together you’re experiencing the strength of each other’s bodies. Everything from the tips of your toes to the top of your head is accessible.
4. Sensory overload. The missionary engages all your senses, much better than something like doggy style does. You can whisper in each others ears, nuzzle each other’s sweet-smelling necks, taste each other’s salty sweat, access almost every part of your partner’s body with parts of your own (see #3 above), and see exactly what’s going on (see #6 below).
5. Variety. There are so many variations of missionary and and so many positions to easily transition into from this move. He can lift one or two of her legs into the air; she can push her hips all the way up toward him for deeper penetration or push them down to have shallower thrusts; you both can sit up a bit if his arms need a break… And all of these transitions are easy to do without either A) being a contortionist or B) risking him slipping out.
6. Visibility. You both can watch. Leave the lights on and look down the length of your bodies to see them intertwined. No need to quickly adjust any mirrors or move to a different location near a reflective surface! For those of us that are visual and love to see every inch of our special someone, missionary is perfect.
7. Relaxation. You can be kind of lazy with the missionary (or at least the ladies can). He can kiss your breasts while running his hands through your hair and you can suck and kiss his neck while cupping him in one hand and clinging to his back with the other – all while you’re both lying down and never missing a thrust. What more can a lady ask for?!? Sure all those things are possible in other positions, but in missionary you can to do it while A) staring into each other’s eyes and B) lying down! There’s no better option after a long day of work in my opinion.
8. Control. For women, cowgirl is usually touted as the position in which the woman gets the most control of sex, but I actually feel most in-control during missionary. By grabbing her partner’s oh-so-sexy tush, which is extremely accessible to a lady lying in missionary, she can control the pace exactly when she needs to with just the flick of a wrist. Of course, it’s not all one sided: Guys have the power, too. When she’s not grabbing his butt in passionate ecstasy, he can pin her arms down and take control of the action – and I for one don’t mind when such a coup takes place. In fact, this is one of the best parts about missionary – it’s so easy to each take turns calling the shots and being in control of the action!
9. Safety. You may not be shocking your partner with your ability to remain in a wheelbarrow while lifting your feet over your head all while writhing sexily, but at least you won’t pass out from blood rushing to your head, nor will you sustain a concussion when your arms give out from exhaustion. With missionary, you don’t have to worry about retwisting a weak ankle or your knees getting rug burn from any friction. There’s peace of mind with the M.P.
10. Simplicity. I don’t know about you, but missionary is my go-to position when all I want is sex, NOW. There are some nights when you don’t have the patience to bother with studying that Kama Sutra position or scrambling for the box with the sex toys. No, you just want to rip his close off and get as close to him as humanly possible and missionary is wonderful for those moments. It just feels right, any time, every time.