Dear Dr. Kate, My G-Spot Gives Me Cramps, Nausea and Pain!

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Dear Dr. Kate,

Every time my boyfriend tries to give me a G-spot orgasm, it feels really good for about a minute. Then I get intense menstrual-like cramps and nausea and he has to stop so I can lay in the fetal position for a while till I can move again. The cramps dont stop for at least a few hours and I feel so stupid when it happens. Please help me!

— G-Whiz

Dear GW,

You’re not the only one who gets pain after orgasm. Called dysorgasmia by some, the pain is caused by intense muscle cramping that can spread to your back or even your rectum, and can last for minutes to hours. Nausea and even vomiting aren’t uncommon with the pain as well. I don’t know how widespread a problem like dysorgasmia is, because it doesn’t appear in the medical texts or literature – I’ve learned more about it from the internet and my patients than anywhere else. For some women it’s a sign of endometriosis, and suppressing their menstrual cycles helps. For others, reducing caffeine and taking an anti-inflammatory (high-dose ibuprofen or naproxen) two hours before sex seems to help. And some women have had to change their birth control method altogether to find relief. If the pain comes anyway, try heat – a heating pad, hot water bottle or soaking in a really hot bath as soon as the pain starts. If none of these measures work, please see your gyno.

— Dr. Kate

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City. She also lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health. She generously shares her medical wisdom with EM & LO readers every few weeks. Check out more of her advice and ask her a question at Gynotalk.com.

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I find that if I am 1-2 weeks away from my period I get period cramps after I orgasm. They are not severe though.

I echo what Jenna says and add one more: I’ve found that the closer I get towards my period, the more likely my partner will hit my cervix too hard (or ovary – not sure which, either way it’s deep) and I’ll get the same cramps, nausea and have to sit in fetal for a while. I’ve learned that for me, I have to go into shallow positions only if I’m less than a week away from my period. My OB/Gyn says it’s likely the cervix since the cervix will drop lower in the vaginal canal the further through your… Read more »

As an extension of what Figleaf mentioned, is it possible that he is hitting your cervix by accident? Just suggesting it because, lately, I have been getting menstrual like cramps and nausea if my man hits my cervix too hard by mistake. If you want to keep trying the g spot thing (although figleaf makes an excellent case for not) maybe you should adjust the angel and not use too much pressure too quickly.

For me I’d say the first thing to do is ask your boyfriend to stop trying to stimulate your g-spot! I mean, how often does he do this?!? Second of all, even if his theory (his theory, right) about the way to produce your g-spot orgasms was right, just a minute of stimulation probably wouldn’t be long enough. So! He’s doing something that really hurts you and it’s not orgasmic for you either. Based just on the published text, while I think Dr. Kate’s recommendation for treating dysorgasmia is spot on I don’t think that’s what’s happening to you. One… Read more »