Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America, will be answering your questions on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own question, click here.
Dear Dr. Vanessa,
No matter how hard I try, I cannot female ejaculate. Is there something wrong with me (like a psychological issue that’s holding me back)? Or are some women just not built that way?
— Sally Sahara
Female ejaculation is the spurting of fluid out of the urethra, the tube from the bladder to outside the body, during intense sexual excitement or orgasm. The fluid is most likely secreted by the Skene’s glands, which are located near where the urethra opens to the outside of a woman’s body. Female ejaculation occurs in one out of 10 women. Some authorities believe that female ejaculation is related to stimulation of the G spot. Others disagree.
Some authorities believe that many more women experience female ejaculation, but that the amount of liquid is so small it is not perceptible to the woman or her partner. But most women do not experience female ejaculation in any perceptible way when they have an orgasm or at any other time during sex. So, not experiencing female ejaculation is common and normal and will not prevent you from having an intense orgasm.
Some women think ejaculating heightens their orgasm. Others who ejaculate say it makes no difference in the quality of their orgasm. Some women find female ejaculation messy and entirely embarrassing and wish it didn’t happen. Some find it very enjoyable and sexy. Some partners like it. Some don’t.
A lot of people write about female ejaculation, and there are a lot of myths about it. Because of all the mythology about female ejaculation, some authorities worry that women who do not experience it will become anxious and think they have a sexual disorder, which is entirely wrong thinking.
Perhaps you have put it best yourself: some women are just not built that way. We do know that women’s sexual satisfaction is not associated with whether or not they ejaculate. There are very satisfied women out there who have never experienced female ejaculation.
In the meantime, best wishes for your good sexual health,
Vanessa Cullins, MD, MPH, MBA, is a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America. She generously shares her medical wisdom with EM & LO readers every few weeks.