3/23/17
How to Deal with Late-Life Virginity
The following advice has been updated:
  1. Get yourself a therapist. If you do nothing else, do this. You’ve got some issues that you need to work through — trying to resolve them on internet forums won’t work. If you’re insurance covers therapy, then you’ve got no excuse — carve out the time and commit to this. If you don’t have insurance, here are some suggestions for still getting the treatment you deserve.  Additionally, read some decent, well-reviewed self help books. In short, do the hard work of self improvement.
  2. Just get sex over with. Johnny suggested below that people in this position get a prostitute and while we agree that sex need not be such a big deal and you should perhaps just try it with no strings attached (if you’re so inclined), a sex surrogate may be the better way to go. Surrogates take a more therapeutic approach to help clients work on their sexual issues. While anyone can call themselves a surrogate, the International Professional Surrogates Association seems to be the leader in setting guidelines and offering certification, so check out their site.
  3. Consider embracing celibacy. Sex can be emotionally and physically risky and complicated. Plenty of people find peace in eschewing all sexual encounters. While sex is necessary for some people, others find it a burden they prefer to live without. There’s no shame in either approach.
  4.  Try dating.  A lifetime of avoiding romantic relationships may have perhaps left you a bit socially awkward; but being charming, having a sense of humor, initiating and maintaining stimulating conversation — these are the things that are far more important in (and effective at) attracting partners than sexual experience or bodily perfection. If you can retrain yourself socially and eventually muster up the nerve to try dating (see #1, master #1), there are certainly steps you can take to avoid getting your heart (and ego) totally smashed to bits. For example, don’t try to date the youngest, hottest, most sought after single in the (real-world or online) room. Get to know the person’s values early on so you know they align with yours (i.e. they’re kind, understanding, sympathetic). Read up on how to be a good lover (SEX: How to Do Everything is a fabulous guide, if we do say so ourselves). And should sex look like it might be a possibility, give your by-then trusted partner a heads up about your concerns and (in)experience to avoid any surprises. There’s no guarantee you end up with a serious partner, but chances are you won’t experience true naked devastation in the bedroom.

 

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45 Comments

  1. Starting this off by recommending a therapist is absolutely ridiculous. If you have personal problems then you can take yourself to a therapist. A therapist isn’t going to find dates for you. I’m sick of everyone thinking a therapist will solve their problems. Talk to someone your close to or a even yourself. You’ll get better results.

  2. I haven’t commented in this topic thread in quite awhile. I just thought I’d chime in because it hits home with me and so many other men. There are more virgin men in their 40s, 50s, and older than the public knows. That’s because virgin shaming men is very prevalent in society and we don’t admit this publicly for fear of a negative backlash. I have been busy posting on small penis support group websites. I have encountered many male virgins. Some younger, some older. On penis size insecurities and being virgins, we have bonded and become friends. I have several of them now as facebook friends whom I converse with regularly. I am very grateful I got to meet those guys through these small penis support groups. They are hurting. Many have serious thoughts of suicide. It breaks my heart to read their stories of how women have body-shamed, ridiculed, rejected and dumped them for the size of their penises. With each of heir stories, I can feel their pain. I have shown these guys empathy, compassion, kindness and understanding. I’ve let them know that their penis size does not define them as men. I’ve told them to try not to think about the terrible things women have said and done to hurt them. I’ve told them that if women are incapable of loving them for them , then they certainly don’t need women in their lives. I told them to just try and live their lives as best as they can and do things to make you happy and feel good about yourself without worrying what women think. That was to help them with their self-esteem. I told them it is not their fault that they have encountered negative attitudes from women because of penis size. Nobody deserves to be made to feel bad about themselves because of the way they were born. Most importantly, I told them it is okay to be a virgin. It is nothing to be ashamed of and if they go through their entire lives never having sex that is okay. If no women will love them it’s important to love yourselves and don’t let women have the opportunity to tear you down. I have been praised for my support and advice that I’ve offered to these guys which I’m very proud of. I told them what I would’ve wanted to hear and I wish someone would’ve said similar things to me. So, talking and forming friendships with these guys has been very positive. We have had similar circumstances and understand each other. That is what support is all about (empathy, compassion, kindness, and understanding).

    Also, I have been busy commenting on different sex sites and youtube videos confronting and telling off women who hurt men because of having a small penis. I’ve encountered women who have made derogatory comments about men with small penises, cruel body-shaming, ending a relationship due to penis size, with cruel rejections. I consistently call out these women and totally attack their character. As far as I’m concerned. any woman that engages in these type of decisions and verbal nastiness towards guys because of the way they were born have no character. These women have gotten away with this far too long without receiving any kind of backlash from their atrocious attitudes and behavior. Until the recent couple of years, I stayed silent and didn’t speak out on this issue. Then, I decided I wasn’t going to just let this issue slide. I have become an activist speaking out against women who hurt and discriminate against men because of penis size. It’s toxic masculinity that these women engage in and I will verbally rip it apart in my comments whenever I encounter it. In fact, I found this youtube video discussion on does penis size matter. It was done by a group called bettersexed. I thought, for a change, it would be a sex-positive video. I was wrong. This group was a fraud. The video discussion was dominated by a woman size queen that constantly praised large penises while totally condemned small penises. I was disgusted and outraged. So, I completely flooded the comments section verbally attacking the video and especially the size queen that had a terrible attitude towards penis size. Later, I found that the video was completely deleted and removed. i told them how insulting their video was and told them to shut it down. Proudly, in this case, my activism worked and was successful. That’s an example that activism can make a positive difference. All of these women that are guilty for hurting men with small penises that I have verbally confronted probably hate me. That is fine with me because I would never want to be friends nor associate myself with women who commit this ultimate cruelty against men while being totally heartless and showing no remorse for their abominable actions. I will continue my activism against these type of women whenever I see it on the internet (whether it be on this site or other sites) I am a very moral person and know it’s the right thing to do. After all, somebody should do it and try to make a difference.

    1. You’re a very sick man. Do you think being a virgin has any connection to your job? Being a cart pusher is not really a career that attracts the interest of many women.

      1. You have proved your sick, twisted, mentality right there. I NEVER mentioned my job occupation. The only way you would’ve known that is to look up my personal information. That proves you are obsessed with me and an internet terrorist. That makes you a sick man. Also, I don’t get jobs to attract women. I get jobs that make me happy. If women judge guys by their occupation, than that is yet more proof as to how shallow and superficial they are. I’d rather do jobs that I am comfortable with, happy with, and enjoy. I would never degrade someone for their occupation. I believe every job has value and should be respected. Unfortunately, looking down on people for their occupation is yet another discrimination attitude in your long list of discrimination against others. If these shallow, gold-diggers have a problem with what I do for a living, their attitude is the problem, not my occupation.

        1. Easy to find info on you. You’ve spread your name all over small penis forums and posts attacking women. Cart pusher is a job you set your sights on? That what you went through school to obtain? No. You’re a cart pusher because it was easy. Everything you’ve done in life you took to easy route, or cowards route. Always afraid to challenge yourself. Always afraid to try and fail. And now you’re an old and angry man because your life has amounted to nothing. But this is what you freely chose for yourself. A virgin cart pusher. I’m sure you also still live at home.

          1. No, you are obsdeesed with me because you’re an internet terrorist. I have always worked hard at everything I do and there is value in all jobs. You have a pathetic superiority complex that looks down on everyone. You judge others harshly when you have no character, no heart, no morals and are a total failure as a human being. You think you are a better than everyone when the truth is you are better than nobody. If you dropped off the face of the earth, there would be no loss. An inhumane scum like you has no positive place in the world. You will eventually enter hell where you belong

          2. Oh, and one more thing. Nobody deserves to be attacked for their job occupation and nobody deserves to be attacked for being a virgin. I’ve never seen or heard anyone display such atrocious, abominable behavior. You are a sick twisted, evil person who should be locked up in a mental institution until you die and burn in hell forever.

          3. your opinion of me means absolutely nothing. I just consider the pathetic, hateful source it comes from which I completely dismiss and disregard as garbage.

          4. You are a pathetic person that thinks he has the right to sit in judgment of others. You have a narcissistic personality disorder and have a mentally disturbed superiority complex. Most people in the world are religious and you definitely test their faith. People probably wonder why God allows evil like you to exist in this world. In the Bible it says that “God is created evil, he creates all things.” The good news is that extreme evil like you Dave eventually dies. You think you can arrogantly judge and look down upon others? Wrong! There is only one individual who is the supreme judge of the universe and that is God. When you die, He will deservedly judge you harshly. You will be severely punished for ALL of your sins and harmful behavior towards others. Your ice cold soul will be hell-bound as you will burn in hell for all eternity. Neither I nor anyone else needs to get revenge on you for your extreme cruelty. “Vengeance is mine, says The Lord.”

          5. Actually, by finding out about my job, it shows even more your mentally disturbed, twisted and perverted attitudes. A person who does an honest day’s work and works hard does NOT deserve to be ridiculed. Whether someone is flipping burgers at McDonald’s or a janitor/custodian, honest hard work deserves to be respected. Unfortunately, when there is an obnoxious, judgmental snob, like you Dave, who has a perverted superiority complex disorder that likes to look down on others, your opinion is totally worthless, foolish, and has no credibility. So, by all means, continue attacking people for their job occupation and their virginity. You only prove to anyone reading your comments what a low-life-scum and moronic idiot and fool that you truly are.

        2. Lol…A woman is not a gold digger because she doesn’t want to date a cart pusher…too funny! Every woman wants to feel proud of the job her husband/boyfriend does. She also wants to know he can provide for his family…and every self respecting man wants to be a provider. The fact that you set cart pushing as your career goal speaks volumes about the pathetic life you’ve chosen. Enjoy it!

          1. What speaks volumes about you is that you degrade anyone’s occupation. You have a narcissistic personality disorder and have a mentally disturbed superiority complex. I so not get jobs looking for women. That is not the goal of a person getting a job, you moron. You are a pathetic snob that looks down upon others but good has a special place in hell reserved for evil scum like you. You will be roasting in hell for all eternity with your friends Adolph Hitler and Osama Bin Laden. Enjoy fire and brimstone, forever!

        3. When you pass from the other no one will miss you. You’ve produced nothing. You have no family. I have great kids and great grandkids that l will leave behind….children l have provided wonderful lives for. And you? You’ve just been marking time between birth and the grave…a pathetic, meaningless life. Enjoy!

          1. What speaks volumes about you is that you degrade anyone’s occupation. You have a narcissistic personality disorder and have a mentally disturbed superiority complex. I so not get jobs looking for women. That is not the goal of a person getting a job, you moron. You are a pathetic snob that looks down upon others but good has a special place in hell reserved for evil scum like you. You will be roasting in hell for all eternity with your friends Adolph Hitler and Osama Bin Laden. Enjoy fire and brimstone, forever!

          2. Low-life-scum like you will not be missed when you die. In fact, there will be a parade knowing that God got his hands on you and sent you to hell. Knowing that your evil is gone, the world will be a much better place, I’m sure your kids and grandkids are monsters just like you. Evil runs in your pathetic family. Your kids and grandkids will know that daddy and grandaddy is burning in hell forever and someday they will join you there. Guaranteed.

        4. Stephen…so now you’re going to invoke the name and power of God to attack me. So funny! Religion is the greatest con job/myth that has ever been perpetrated on humanity. It figures you’d be sucked into it. Your life here on earth is so pathetic you hope you’ll be rewarded in heaven. Sorry pal…no heaven and no hell. This is the only ride we get.

          Funny how you say God will judge me. All religious nuts say the same thing. Yet they never just leave it to God, they always have to sit in judgement as well. The truth is…you don’t truly believe, otherwise you would leave it to Her/Him. But the truth is….this is all about CONTROL. You use your judgement to try and control women or those who don’t agree with you. It’s not up to you to cast judgement, just like it’s not up to you to cast judgement upon women.

          As to your job…my point is not the job you do…it’s that you’re so fearful, so weak, that this is the only job you’ve sought to obtain. Most normal people set goals and challenges for themselves. But you seek the path of least resistance because you fear rejection. Get to a qualified therapist and get help for your illness.

          Now go back reading your Bible and watching porn and jerking your little dick.

          1. Stephen…so now you’re going to attack my children and grandchildren? You’re really coming unhinged my friend! You’ve got a serious mental illness. And your preoccupation with vengeance and burning in Hell….this makes you dangerous and unstable. For certain your employer needs to be contacted and made aware of these things. It’s very possible your co-workers are in danger and at risk. At the very least your woman hating beliefs are grounds for your dismissal.

          2. As the bible says, “Only fools deny the existence of The Lord.” So, the Bible conformed that you are a fool. Of course, anyone who has read your comments already figured it out. The word of God confirmed it. You are a fool. I know I’m going to heaven. I also know your evil soul is going to hell. You will pay for your sins by burning in hell for all of eternity. That is not my judgement of you. It will be God’s. You will not escape this world without experiencing God’s eternal punishment. In the meantime, I will be in heaven the true paradise.

            You being an atheist is telling. You have no moral authority so naturally you would harrass and stalk me. No moral religious person would do that. Also, the religious community respects virginity. You attack it. You are prejudice against it. The religious community values all jobs and respect honest work. You attack it. You are prejudice against it because you are an arrogant asshole snob.

            You have a severe case of narcissistic personality disorder and a superiority complex. So, continue to sit on your lazy ass and contribute nothing positive because you are pure evil.

          3. If your children and grandchildren have been influenced by you than they have the same hateful, evil characteristics that you possess. The legal authorities need to be made aware of your harrassment and stalking. You need to be prosecuted and sent to jail for the rest of your life until you finally die and are sent to hell to burn for all eternity.

          4. LOL…you sound like every religious zealot…condemning and judging others and threatened eternal damnation. It is weak minded people like you that fall for this shit. You’ve wasted this life and you’re counting on being rewarded in heaven…I guess it helps you sleep at night. I wonder why God hasn’t answered any of your prayers? Gave you a small cock, made you undesirable to women. If he exists…he has a sense of humor! LOL

            You attack my innocent grandchildren…this shows how twisted and hateful you are.

            As for your employer…we’ll see how it all plays out after I show all your attacks and hate speech against women on this forum. Fortunately you’ll be able to find another cart pushing job fairly easily. I will be sending links to your employer and they will fire you…they cannot have your sick views reflect poorly on them.

    2. Stephan, you need to be careful what you post. If your employer was to see/read all the angry, violent attacks you’ve posted about women on this forum and on other forums…I’m pretty sure they would fire you pretty quickly!

      1. Nope. I have a very good relationship with my employer. They would condemn you for harrassing and stalking me and and would want you reported to the legal authorities for prosecution. They would want you jailed!

  3. Since this topic is about millions of men like me, I’d like to address Em&Lo’s 4 suggestions for dealing with late-life virginity:

    1) Therapist. Going to a therapist can be helpful in regards to self-esteem issues. However, what a therapist can’t help a guy with is to give him the superficial qualities that so many women desire. Those things can never be “fixed”. So, overall, I consider therapy in regards to this issue a complete waste of time.

    2) Prostitution. I personally am very much against prostitution. They charge astronomical prices and take advantage of vulnerable, insecure, lonely men. It is all about objectifying bodies. The majority of guys who seek out these prostitutes are desperate guys who just want to know what sex feels like just once during their lifetime. Those are the guys these prostitutes take advantage of. There is no emotion, feelings, nor compassion involved. The entire sex industry is sleazy, degrading, and objectifying. From prostitution to pornography, those businesses are destructive and harmful on all levels. I, personally, would want nothing to do with contributing any money to such an industry.

    3) Virginity/celibacy This is really the only good option that makes the best sense for the many guys like me. Divorce and break-up rates are very high. When you have all of the disadvantages that I do (many body flaws such as having a smaller penis, not having much money, no experience, etc.) the best choice is celibacy/virginity and just never getting involved with a woman. Here are the most important things that a guy like me should do: Just try to do the things I enjoy and that make me happy. Try to do the things that make me feel good about myself. Don’t hurt myself by putting myself out there where I make myself so vulnerable to women resulting in a woman rejecting me, tearing me down, and making me feel like a worthless piece of garbage. I don’t deserve that. Nobody does. Although it can be very lonely, just try to live my life as best as I can.

    4) Dating. As I said previously, when you don’t have qualities like a large bank account or a large penis plus other body flaws, attempted dating can be toxic and destructive with rejection chances are extremely high where the chances for happiness are extremely low. I don’t have what most women want. That is just the sad fact. Millions of other guys are in that same boat as me. So, I strongly suggest avoiding the kind of severe emotional and mental pain that putting yourself out there can most likely bring. That’s how I feel on the matter of attempted dating for myself and others who are similar circumstances.

    So, out of all of the suggestions, celibacy/virginity is the only viable and sensible option for guys like me who are later-in-life virgins. I give credit to Em&Lo for including that in their suggestions. They said that sex and relationships are not for everyone and can be really messy. They said that that celibacy/virginity can be a fine issue. I agree. So, while I’m at peace with my own life choice, I will still speak out against women who are size queens and reject and ridicule men due to penis size. As I said before, it is the cruelest thing a woman can do to a man and is the reason that millions of men like myself have made the virginity/celibacy choice that we have. When I read about people here like the Sizeists who want nothing to do with a guy because his penis size is 4 inches or the Kristen’s who posted the most vile, hatred against men with smaller penises, I’m going to verbally attack them and call them out on their cruelty. This is an issue that has plagued me and millions of other men throughout our entire lives. I decided I wasn’t going to suffer in silence anymore. I will continue to speak out on this issue. I feel that is very important.

    1. Although later-in-life virginity is my issue and my reality. what brought me here was the Sizeist topic of a woman who was used to having sex with a guy who has a large 8 inch penis and couldn’t accept nor be happy being with a man with 4 inch penis. Now, some may consider this off-topic and belongs on the other topic thread but I don’t agree. It totally ties into the later-in-life-virginity topic here. There are just too many women who have the same attitudes that sizeist has in regards to penis size. Whenever there is a discussion of penis size, the conclusion always is that bigger is better and smaller is inferior. It’s been that way since I was in my teens to my 52-year-old age now. Women brag about their boyfriends who are “well endowed” and their favorite negative put down is telling a guy he has a small penis. Nasty small penis jokes are everywhere in the media. It is the only body-shaming that is still very acceptable in our society. That’s the uphill struggle that men with smaller penises face and the odds are so much against us finding a loving, caring. girlfriend who wouldn’t be bothered by a small penis and it wouldn’t be a deal-breaker. That’s why there are so many insecure lonely men. Some of them have even gone to the extreme suicidal route because they have been made to feel so worthless by women like sizeist and society. My smaller penis isn’t the only factor why I chose to avoid relationships with women throughout my life, but it is a major factor in that decision. When you have the likelihood of being judged so harshly by the sizeists of the world over a body part you were born with, then it understandably scares so many men to attempt to get involved with a woman. While that topic thread was so disturbing on all levels and women like that deserve condemnation for treating a boyfriend in that manner, it is reality of how so many women view men and treat them today. And this has been going on for decades. So, when women like that are so prevalent and in abundance, male virginity in all age groups has never been higher. They just feel that their chances for happiness with a woman are slim. And the sad fact is that they indeed are extremely low and most men realize this. That’s why the expression “it’s better to be safe than sorry” so much rings true that I have always applied to my own life. Due to the hazardous dating conditions foe men that we’ve had for several decades, celibacy/virginity is a fine choice and the best choice.

      1. Everyone needs to decide how best to live their life.
        But if people are not happy with their life, or with the choice they have made then they need to make some changes.
        Change is difficult for many people. It can take people out of their comfort zone, force them to change thoughts, behaviors, or actions.

        There is NOTHING wrong with a woman preferring a larger sized cock. If that’s what she needs or wants then she’s got a right to seek that out. This is nothing more than what I said at the start…everyone needs to decide best how to live their lives.

        The internet is a world of fakes and frauds. I would not be so quick to condemn women on the net because they are putting down men with small cocks. My guess is that many of those “women” are actually men pretending to be women in order to satisfy their own strange kink. Internet forums are THE worst place to go in order to seek help or solace.

  4. I am a 38 year old Virgin who’s scared to have Sex cause I am very small i.e 3 & 1/2 Inches Hard

    1. Aaron, my heart hoes out to you. We both have had a lifetime of similar fears. I happen to be a 52-year-old virgin that has never had a girlfriend. Why? Because I have always been afraid to get involved and get close to a woman. The sad truth is that so many women out there are size-queens and gold-diggers. Those women can’t love a man for who he is and the person he is inside. They just care about what a man can give her. All over the internet, I read such sad stories of women breaking up with men and rejecting men because of penis size. My heart goes out to every man who has ever been hurt by a woman for that cruel, obnoxious reason. Although my penis size is not as small as yours, it is not large and nowhere near porn-star-sized. I never gave a woman a chance to hurt me like that and commit the ultimate cruelty and mental and emotional abuse against me. If that had happened to me (like so many other men), I would’ve committed suicide and wouldn’t be alive today. That is the potential harm these women cause. In fact, suicide rates are much higher among men than women and rejection for penis size by women is a major factor and partly to blame. Anyway, Aaron, I totally understand how you feel. Millions of men can relate to it because it is also their story. You are not alone.

      1. Spouting utter bullshit. Please post a link where penis size is the major cause of suicide in men!
        And it is not true that many women are size queens. You spend too much time on the wrong kind of forums (sad sack, whoa is me type of forums).

          1. Ugh, not again. Look darlings, we encourage thoughtful debate around these here parts. If you decide to comment on this public forum, you should expect people who disagree with you to challenge you. If you don’t like that, don’t make any comments. And please refrain from any name-calling. Now, as we say to our kids, don’t make us come in here again!

          2. This guy has deliberately made things miserable for me here. Sorry, but the truth is that he is the most obnoxious, insensitive, jerk I have encountered. I saw a friend here posting, Aaron Spencer. He is a life-long virgin like me who has avoided getting involved with women because of penis size. I have had excellent conversations with him on other sites. I was pleasantly surprised to see his name here posting and wanted to talk to him. Once again, the antagonist Dave just couldn’t stay out. Aaron and I belong on this thread since it’s our issues. Dave does not! All he ever does is judge and ridicule. For a sensitive topic as this thread is, that’s completely inappropriate.

          3. I have every right to join in on any topic/conversation I want. This is an open forum. You do not get to pick and choose who can post and who cannot. You’ve got a great many issues that you need to deal with…and you can add a controlling personality to that list. Please go seek professional help.

          4. You provide nothing but ridicule and judgments. You deliberately antagonize and hurt others by your obnoxious, insensitive posts. I have repeatedly told you that I do not wish to have any dialogue with you whatsoever but you continue to seek out my posts and respond. That is the behavior of a troll and that is totally inappropriate for this or any other site. You have the coldest and blackest heart of anyone who has ever commented to me so go get that heart transplant because you desperately need one.

        1. Aaron’s posted his full name right here. In fact, every website he goes to he always uses his full name. It is not a secret. He is a friend of mine and he would have absolutely no problem with me addressing him by his full name. There is no intent of harming him on my part. As I said, he is a friend. Only a moron, idiot, and imbecile like you Dave would take it that way and make it an issue when it is a non-issue. Of course, that doesn’t surprise me. You have a twisted narcissistic personality disorder with a mentally disturbed superiority complex that makes you nothing but Dave the internet terrorist asshole.

    2. Aaron, I was pleasantly surprised to see your name and post here. We’ve talked before on other sites. We have agreed on everything and it’s been a pleasure communicating with you. You and I are definitely on the right thread on this site. We’re both in the same boat and we understand each other. This thread is about virginity and how to deal it. Unfortunately, I don’t recommend you posting here. There is an antagonist by the name of Dave. From our conversations, I know you will not agree with any of his garbage (just like I don’t) . I know his extreme heartlessness and cruelty would upset a sensitive guy like you (just like he does to me). So, even though this is a totally appropriate thread for you to post on, for your own best interests and not be unnecessarily upset, I don’t recommend you posting here. Dave seems to feel that he can go around and spout off his extremely insensitivity and cruelty to anyone here he wants. Unfortunately, nobody will stop him. Antagonizing others is what makes him tick. Aaron, we can still continue to talk with each other about our virginity and our penis size insecurities freely (like we have been doing) without the rude, nasty, insensitive, antagonistic Dave. So, Aaron, I know what sites to find you on so don’t worry. We’ll talk again in peace at other locations.

    3. I want to give a warm shout-out to my friend, Aaron S. Aaron and I met on other websites. He thanked my for my kindness and invited me to facebook. We are now facebook friends. His story literally makes me feel like crying. I can’t even imagine the mental and emotional pain guys with micropenises go through. They know that a love life and a sex life is not possible. They know that because of the way they were born that no woman will ever want to be with him or have sex with him. To go through life knowing that painful reality must be so hard. Like Aaron, the guy with a micropenis could be a terrific guy. Unfortunately, that won’t matter to the cruel, shallow women in this world. All these women will care about is that he has a micropenis so they disqualify him from ever having a relationship with them and having sex with them. They are incapable of loving these men for themselves. So, throughout their lives, these men with micropenises avoid women and hide their embarrassing secret. It breaks my heart that anyone has to feel this way. I’ve told Aaron that he is extremely valuable as a man, his micropenis does not define him and that he is a really good guy that deserves happiness. I told him just be involved with hobbies you like to do, get involved with things like work that make you feel good about yourself , be the best person you can be, and live your life the best you can. Love yourself and don’t focus on what shallow women (who will only care that you have a micropenis) think of you. He hasn’t been back to this site ever since he posted his only comment above. I would never recommend him ever come back here for one important reason. The vile internet troll terrorist, Dave, will attack Aaron with the extremely obnoxious, toxic cruelty just like he has consistently done to me. And nobody deserves to be confronted with scum like Dave. I’m simply warning Aaron about internet terriorist Dave because he is a good guy and a friend that I care about.

      1. Stephen…you are a whimpering, simpering , excuse for a man. MANY, MANY men with micropenis’ get married and have good sex lives. The last thing Aaron needs is a friend like you. Instead of encouraging him to put himself out there and try you want him to retreat into the same kind of life you’ve created for yourself…a bitter, angry, lonely life.

        Every choice you’ve made in life is based upon your deep seated fear(s). And rather than confront and overcome those fears, you let them control all the choices you’ve made in life. And what’s worse is that you seek to make others join you in your fearful, wasted life.
        Just because you’ve chosen to be a LOSER does not mean others need to follow your same path.
        A mean, come on man…a 54 year old cart pusher?? The only people I know who do that job are young teens working while in school and mentally challenged adults. In both cases I see nothing wrong with them. But for a grown adult of average IQ it absolutely shows you fear challenges and failure. THAT is the true problem you need to overcome. You choose cart pushing because it’s impossible to fail at, impossible to do a bad job. In other words it’s SAFE. Perfect job for a coward!

        1. Nope, I tell Aaron the truth. He knows no woman wants a man with a micropenis. Women have told him this. I’ve also spoken to several other men who have micropenises. All of them have been rejected by women because of it. So, as usual, you don’r know what your talking about. Aaron does. He lives it every day. He is a 39-year-old-guy with a micropenis that is a virgin. I have reached out with my heart to him. He thanked me for the kind words. It was him who invited me to facebook to become his facebook friend which I gladly accepted. He is a terrific guy who also works in a supermarket like me and loves his job. The two of us formed a common bond of friendship based on empathy and kindness to one another which is something that you know nothing about. Oh, by the way, at my work, there is a guy who I work with in carts who happens to be my best friend. He happens to be ONE YEAR OLDER THAN I AM. The other to cart people at my work are IN THEIR FORTIES. So much for your foolish theory that job is only done by teens. Wrong, again stupid moronic Dave. One guy is a year older and the others are in my age group. NONE of THEM ARE TEENS. Also, I do a lot more than just carts. Of course, your too ignorant to figure that out. If you want to see a true coward who sits on his lazy ass all day and pathetically judges others you start by looking in your own mirror, asshole!

          1. I said it’s teens, or MENTALLY CHALLENGED adults, that push carts.

            As for men with micropenis’….sure it can be difficult. But all you’re doing is teaching this guy to hide from life, just like you’ve done. As they say…misery loves company. You encourage other men to join you in your miserable life.

            I encourage Aaron to go to therapy to deal with his fears or lack of confidence. Don’t live your life in fear and shame. There are many, many fine women out there who you could have a good life with. And there are many, many ways for you to sexually pleasure them. IF you follow in Stephen’s footsteps you’ve doomed yourself to a life of being alone.
            Break free of this “friend” who will ultimately destroy your life.

      2. Em and Lo…good job on editing the last name of Aaron out of Stephen’s post. Stephen is such a moron that he included Aaron’s last name in his post…..great job Stephen!!!

        1. Well. you’re 100% wrong. My best friend at my job is 55 years-old and does carts. The other two cart people are in their 40s. NONE OF THEM ARE MENTALLY CHALLENGED NOR ARE TEENS. SO, why don’t you quit telling lies. IN my experience, I know the truth because I live it every day.

          As for Aaron, you are the reason why he only made one comment and then disappeared never to come back, He told me that he has never encountered such an evil, hateful individual such as you Dave. Also, from talking to Aaron, I discovered he constantly talks about The Lord and is deeply religious. He also believes you are going to hell. He also knows your advice is total 100% filled with lies and garbage. I have encouraged him in a more realistic, honest direction than your foolishness. He is very grateful for it. With friends like you nobody would need any enemies. Your narcissistic personality disorder and superiority complex is harmful and dangerous. Aaron will never get into dialogue with trash like you. I’ve save him from that.

  5. You need two things: a hooker and a therapist.

    Do yourself a favor and lose your virginity already. This isn’t something I recommend normally, but late life virgins are an exceptional case. You’re way behind the curve as it is, and finding a partner is tricky. It often takes many tries. I suggest you fast-track this process by at least experiencing the female anatomy. Find a well-reviewed sex worker and go for it. Think of it as training wheels.

    The therapist isn’t for talking through sex technique (that’s also something a good paid companion will be happy to work through with you). The therapist is about the emotional fragility you mention.

    If you’re worried about getting hurt emotionally, those things WILL happen to you if you get romantically involved with women. Some lady will laugh at you for hitting on her. Another will ghost you when you thought things were going well. Others will dump you after you’ve fallen in love. Another might say something especially nasty in an argument. Even good relationships have ugly moments.

    Therapist and hooker.

    1. Hmmm, good point about the emotional devastation & suicide talk. Another point we should have probably made is the fact that celibacy can be a fine choice too for some people; the messiness of sex and relationships may not be for everyone!

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