Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
So I’ve been having a lot of wet dreams lately. That fact I find normal. But it’s who I’m having them with that I’m curious about. For some reason they are always with women. Recently I’ve even had a dream about a steamy encounter with one of my best girlfriends. Does that mean I am bi-curious or is that normal?
Lauri: If having a naughty dream about the same gender meant you were bi-curious, why we’d all be AC/DC! So to answer your question, yes. T’is quite normal indeed. In my research, it is not uncommon for same gender sex dreams to come in waves or spells such as yours. This is not unlike having a wave of say, falling dreams. In fact, I’ve personally been having a wave of fire dreams! The reason dream themes sometimes come in waves is because the issue or behavior they are connected to goes on for as long as the dreams do. That being said, let’s see if we can’t figure out what is triggering these girl-on-girl dreams for you.
The first thing you have to keep in mind is that sex dreams are not usually about sex at all but rather a uniting or merging of ideas, mindsets or energies. Random or unknown women often represent female or yin energy, which is typically creativity, sensitivity, the ability to nurture and to be a good listener… the qualities generally associated with women. Lesbian dreams are VERY common with pregnant women, for example, because there is nothing more “feminine” than being in incubator mode. Have you been particularly creative, nurturing or sensitive lately?
Now let’s look at your friend. Only you know for sure if you secretly desire her lady garden, but odds are this dream came at a time when the two of you had some sort of meeting of the minds, when the two of you really “came together” on some level, or perhaps put up a united front about something. You may have even recently taken on one of her behaviors or qualities as your own, you may have merged a part of her into you. Whatever the case, the dream is a really good sign that you two are definitely on the same wave length!