Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about love and sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
My husband had the following dream: He comes home and I tell him I have friends over. I take him by the hand and lead him down a hallway where people are having sex. When we get to a bigger room, I have sex with different people in front of him and basically just flaunt it.
Eventually I come over to him, climb on top of him and start teasing him. Then I just get up and walk out. He doesn’t have a clue where I am going. He woke up panicked and has talked about it constantly ever since because it’s had such an impact. He said he couldn’t tell who anyone else was and that I was just flat out mean. This is not like me at all, nor is the situation. Any insight would be helpful.
Lauri: Aw, poor hubby. Let’s see if we can’t make him feel better about your tawdry ways! The first thing you’ve got to remember about sex dreams is that they are rarely about the actual physical act of sex but more about the merging or uniting of it. That being said, it seems to me that hubby must feel that you have been uniting with quite a bit of either extracurricular activities or you have merged with a more male, assertive energy lately… that is assuming that all the people you were shagging were men.
You are doing this in front of him in the dream which means this is something you are doing in front of him in waking life, and in fact, may be something you are proud of. So have you been really busy lately, committing yourself to many projects or things that take your focus and attention away from him? Or have you taken on a more “ballsy” attitude that’s causing you to be pleased with yourself and causing him to be a little wary?
The meanness you display in the dream is most likely waking life unawareness of how he is feeling (our dreams will exaggerate our feelings quite a bit because the emotional centers of the brain are highly active when we dream). So his concern about your behavior in the dream may be at a 10 when in real life his concern is maybe at a 5.
Nonetheless, the dream does point to something going on that is bothering him enough that the two of you ought to have a nice little chat about it. Hopefully I’ve given you enough to work with here so you can pinpoint the issue and work it out. The main thing you want to focus on is what waking life activity or behavior are you engaging in that has him feeling left out or even a teeny bit jealous. Let me know how it goes!
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