Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I have had numerous dreams of my husband cheating on me, but none quite as realistic as this last one. I dreamt he was cheating and I had found out just by asking if he was cheating and he said yes and proceeded to tell me that it was with his assistant. What do I make of this? It feels so real!
Lauri: Cheating dreams do feel extremely real, and because of this, countless men are slapped in the face first thing in the morning! It’s such a common dream that it’s practically an epidemic.
Getting the obvious out of the way, has he cheated before? If so, this dream could be your intuition at work, alerting you to the possibility — or it could be a sign that you have a big old fat trust issue in the relationship that needs to be addressed and not ignored. This could also be the case if you had been cheated on before, but not by him.
If there are no trust issues and this dream seemed to have come from left field, then it is most likely connected to a waking life feeling of being left out. Something is causing you to feel “cheated” out of the time and affection you really want with your husband. So ask yourself, of all the things he spends time doing, what is it you wish he could spend less time on? Fantasy Football? Hanging with his buddies? Work?
Whatever it is, it is something that he is very open about since he came right out and told you in the dream. Since he said he was cheating with his assistant, my money is on work being the culprit. Hopefully that is all it is, and that you aren’t jealous or suspicious of the assistant in real life. Because if that is the case… oy!
If it’s simply that work — or some other project — is taking up so much of his time, use this dream as a conversation starter to let him know you’d really love for him to find a way to spend more quality time with you… and promise that you’ll make it worth his while!
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