Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:
There is no eloquent way to put this dream but here it goes: So, a new guy spent the night with me recently. We’ve had sex in the past, but didn’t on this particular night. While I was sleeping, I dreamed that we were having sex. When he finished, he pulled out and came on my face, but the amount of fluid was way more than would occur in real life. It got in my eyes and it burned like crap! It was like I was suffocating on his man juice. Gross and probably one of the stranger dreams I’ve had.
Lauri: Interesting! As you may know, if you are a regular reader of this column, dreams involving sex are usually not about sex at all. SO let’s have a looksy and figure this out.
My first question is, why didn’t you two have sex that night? Typically, in a new relationship, it’s damn near impossible to keep your hands off each other. The symbolism in your dream makes me wonder if you had a disagreement or that perhaps he said something that didn’t sit well with you. He pulled out in the dream. In real life did he pull out of some obligation or plans you two had made?
He also came – a lot – in your face. In real life did he really unload on you in some way? Or do you recall him
doing or mentioning something that brought him great satisfaction? The fact that gave you a “facial” makes me think that something must have happened that day that made you “face” some sort of reality that maybe you had been turning a blind eye towards until then.
And speaking of eyes, let’s talk about the burning you felt in your eyes in the dream. I have discovered in my research that physical pain that is felt in a dream can almost always be connected to emotional pain in waking life. Do you recall him upsetting you that day or evening? Burning pain, in particular, is usually about anger in real life, something that really burned you up. And since this burning was in your eyes, I wonder if something opened your eyes and gave you a new perspective about this guy or about your relationship… or perhaps it was a new perspective on something else entirely but that he is the one that caused you to change your perspective.
The end of a dream is where you can find the most important part of the message, kind of like how the moral to a story is always at the end. The way you say “suffocating on his man juice” I think is pretty telling. Did he behave a bit too macho or arrogantly? Did he put you down in some way because of your gender? The suffocation suggests you were feeling stifled or crowded in some way that day. Since it’s a new relationship, perhaps you were trying to overlook it but it seems your inner self was upset about something. Your dreams will never lie to you!
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Hmm, this is very interesting. Honestly, the guy who I was hanging out with is a very new, casual thing. That night when we were hanging out, I realized that I’m not over someone else and that I didn’t think things were gonna work out with dream boy. And there was a lot of emotional pain associated with that whole thought process. But, everything you’re saying makes total sense! Thanks for the input.
As a funny aside, the boy in the dream told me later that he had a dream the same night in which I cut his balls off at a restaurant. I think both of our subconscious minds might be trying to ax this one haha.