3/28/11
Dream Interpretation: I Expose Myself to My Imaginary Crush

photo from the Guardian UK

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

Here’s my dream: I’m married to a very old and wealthy man that I do not love, and his children (my age) hate me. I have a crush with a much younger, very hot guy, and am so passionate about him that I expose my (red) genitals. I’m very impressive, dressing and acting like a movie star.

Here’s real life: I am getting a divorce from a man I loved like crazy, but felt cheated and hurt by for too long — and now I just feel emptiness.

Lauri: Your dream is trying to help you through this very tough time. You’ve obviously had your doubts about ending a marriage to someone you are crazy about so your dream has stepped in to reassure you.

The cheating and the pain in your marriage has really gotten “old,” so your dream is showing you that unhappiness in the form of an old man. His children that hated you are really the parts of yourself that are angry with you for being in your unhappy marriage for as long as you were.

The man you are attracted to in the dream may simply represent the fact that there is someone else out there that will treat you better. But on a deeper level he is standing in for your own male energy, the part of you that grew some balls and finally got out of your marriage. He is very hot because your inner dreaming mind wants you be attracted and pleased with the part of you that “manned up” and took action. You expose your genitals to this man because your inner self wants to invite this assertive, standing-up-for-yourself energy into your life just as you would invite him into your body if he were real.

Your dream is giving you even more encouragement by portraying you as a movie star. This is to remind you that you are fabulous and deserve applause for a job well done. Yes, it’s awfully painful right now but, in time, you’ll recognize that you did right by yourself and deserve a standing ovation.

Response from Dreamer: WOW Lauri, you’re awesome !!!!!!!!! I agree with every single word you said, and the part of this other guy is truly the part of me that I want to take over my life. Thank you SO MUCH, IT’S AN HONOUR HAVING YOUR RESPONSE.

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! And don’t forget: you can get access to Lauri’s Instant Dream Decoding Dictionary on her site.

The photo above is from a Guardian UK slideshow of Bonobo apes in the Democratic Rebuplic of Congo