Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about love and sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
My mom is having a get-together with a whole bunch of people. I participate in the event and meet a girl. She’s really pretty and I end up befriending her. I invite her to my room and we end up making out and getting it on in my closet in case my mom walks in trying to look for me. My mom does walk in so I come out of my closet while the girl remains in there. As soon as my mom leaves I go back in the closet and go back to what we were doing. My mother comes in my room again telling me that I need to come out and help her with the event and so I tell her that I will. She also asks me where the girl is (she doesn’t know that she’s in the room with me) and so I tell her that she probably went outside for a little walk.
The girl that I’m with doesn’t want to be seen leaving my room so I tell her to sneak out of my room through my window. I open the window and pop out the screen for her so she can sneak out and come back in the house through the front door so nothing looks suspicious.
That’s the end of my dream. I am a woman who is attracted to men and I do kiss other women once in a while, but that’s only when I’ve had a few drinks and those women are usually close girlfriends of mine. What could this mean?
Lauri: Dreams of nookie with the same gender can certainly cause us to scratch our heads upon waking… especially if we’re certain that we’re not playing for the other team. I’m sure this dream has indeed got you scratching away, especially because of all the “coming out of the closet” references. I’ve counseled many LGB folks in my career and they all were very certain of their orientation at an early age, and since I don’t have you here in my office, I am going to go by your assertion that you are attracted to men.
That being said, you must then ask yourself what it is you are hiding. What is it that you don’t want others to know… that you don’t want even Mom to know? The girl you’re mackin’ on is a clue. Unknown females in dreams are often one’s own sensitive, creative and nurturing energy personified. You were attracted to this girl so she also represents a personality trait of yours that you like and that you are merging with and getting to know a little better, hence the “getting it on.” But you are doing this privately and you are getting away with it, according to your dream.
So what gives? Are you taking some sort of art or dance class you don’t want anyone to know about? Are you actually far more sensitive than you let on? What talent or opinion are you hiding? Just as you open the window at the end of your dream, I believe your dreaming self wants you to open up about what’s really going on with you. As they say, “Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.”