Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I had a dream that I was marrying a complete stranger. In my dream I was preparing to walk down the aisle but I forgot my shoes. As I was putting on my shoes I looked up to see the groom and realized I didn’t know who he was. As I walked to him I noticed my legs getting weak, I had to get help from one of my aunts to walk down the aisle. When I got closer to the groom my father, who has been dead for 7yrs, was there to give me away. There wasn’t a ceremony, my mom just had us sign some paperwork and then we were married. I felt nothing for this man. We didn’t even kiss. The whole time all I could think about was one of my close guys friends and wishing he was here. I’ll admit I’ve always loved him but we were only friends. After the reception I keep wondering if my friend was mad at me for getting married. So I decided on my wedding day I didn’t want to be married to my husband anymore.
Lauri: You have had the classic “mystery groom” dream that so many women before you have had and so many women after you will have. It is such a common dream because we, of the fairer sex, often struggle with utilizing our balls, to put it lightly. That’s what the unknown groom is in your dream… your metaphoric ballsy self. He is unfamiliar to you because you may not feel comfortable utilizing this side of yourself or you may not even recognize this part of you. But in the dream you are about to be united with it in marital bliss! What this means is that, at the time of this dream, you were considering making a commitment to this side of yourself.
You have a couple other symbols in here that point to a need to be more assertive.
Your lack of shoes = not feeling sure footed or not feeling comfortable “putting your foot down” and your weak legs = not feeling strong enough to stand up for yourself or not feeling strong enough to move forward with a decision.
I can’t help but have this sinking suspicion that your struggle to man up is connected to your feelings for your friend. Have you been thinking about telling him your true feelings? That would certainly take some balls. I understand your hesitation. At the end of your dream you made a decision that you did not want to be married anymore, which likely means in real life you decided not to pursue a romantic relationship with your friend. You may have chosen the best course of action. I can’t say for sure though. Maybe people can give you their thoughts in the comments. But just remember, if you have decided not to pursue a relationship with this friend, don’t allow your feelings for him to crowd out any other romantic possibilities for you.
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