12/14/09
Dream Interpretation: Engaged But Dreaming of My 1st Love

engagement_diamond_ringphoto by stevendepolo

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I’m about to get married and I just dreamt of my first crush. I know he likes and loves me but he pushed me away because of the distance. In my dream he visited me, we had dinner together, we had a short chat and we went joy-riding. I never expected to dream of him.

lauri_loewenberg_100Lauri: Congratulations and Mazel Tov on the upcoming nuptials! Let me assure you that your dream is not anything to worry about, but rather is a good sign you are moving into the mindset of marital bliss in a very healthy manner. It is common to dream of past loves before stepping into that final frontier called marriage. It is the way your inner mind sorts through and comes to terms with all the men that came before THE ONE! All the previous men were lessons well learned, preparing you for the man you finally feel comfortable sharing the rest of your life with. And it is no surprise that your first love, or first crush, may run through your dreaming mind at this point in time. He was the first one to ever give you those tingly feelings within various body parts. He was the first one to bring out that inner desire and yearning that feels so good it aches!! He awakened you to those feelings that will forever be with you… and that is why he is in this dream and — let me warn you — may very well continue to make appearances in your dreams for quite some time.  

But keep in mind he is no longer playing himself. Nay, he is the personification of excitement, tingles, and bubbles, which means he will forever be a reminder to your inner mind that you need to continue to feed that passion within (hence the dinner) for as long as you journey down the road of life (hence the joy ride). In other words, as your marriage becomes more and more comfortable and more and more routine, don’t let the excitement and the spice fade… because when it does, Mr. First-Time Crush is sure to pop in to your dreams to remind you to keep the passion alive!

Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. Anonymity guaranteed! And don’t forget: you can get access to Lauri’s free Dream Dictionary on her site.