Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a woman asks Lauri:
My boyfriend of four months is a great guy: sweet, caring, considerate, good chemistry. We live about an hour away from each other and rarely get to see one another more than once a week. Recently, I’ve started introducing him to my sisters (I have five). My sister (who’s two years older) and I live together along with her son. We’ve spent a few evenings with all of us just hanging out, letting everyone get to know each other, and my boo has gotten the verbal approval from most of my sisters.
The dream that’s been plaguing me for the past three weeks involves the sister I live with: I am at work, and call my sister to remind her to pick something up at the store for me, but my boyfriend picks up her cell phone. I’m surprised but not suspicious until I start hearing water splashing and my sister in the background asking if he’s ready to wash her feet. I ask him what they’re doing. He tells me that he can’t talk with me right now, and hands the phone to my sister. She gets on the line and asks me what’s up. I mention the item that needs to be picked up and ask what are she and my boo doing. She confirms that she’s already taken care of my request and that they are in the tub (i.e. naked) in my bathroom and that he is now proceeding to wash her feet. (My sister in reality HATES feet, and to a degree so does my boyfriend.) I ask her “When did he arrived, and why didn’t he tell me?” She puts her phone on speaker and he says he’s waiting for me, but he really can’t talk as he’s washing her feet. We all say goodbye, I finish my work day and when I get home, my sister is happy to see me and we discuss our day. She mentions the bath and that my boo is still here waiting for me in my room. I walk into my room and he’s is in my bed, asleep. When he wakes up, he’s extremely happy to see me and proceeds to tell me that he drove up to spend time with me. I attempt to pick an argument with him about driving up and spending the day with my sister, but I’m not bothered by the fact that they were both naked in my bath tub and he was washing her feet! I always wake up right before he tries to explain why he drove to our apartment when I wasn’t home.
I trust them both and have no fear of either of them betraying me. It’s just so weird. What does it mean?
Lauri: In real life you have “called” upon your sister to do you a solid and open up her home to your boyfriend, which she did. She even went a “step” beyond and gave him her seal of approval. This must have eased your mind and been very “cleansing” for you. Do you see how I put quotations around certain words? That is to show you how the real life events are directly connected to the dream events. In the dream you “call” your sister and ask her a favor, which she does. She and your boo are in the tub “washing” each other’s “feet.” Washing of the feet in biblical days was a sign of hospitality, as folks wore sandals back then and tread through dusty lands and when guests came a knockin’, it was polite to wash their feet for them. This doesn’t bother you in the dream because this is about a waking life event that you are pleased with… your sister’s hospitality.
Interesting, though, that you were upset about your boyfriend driving all that way to see your sister. The frustration you feel in the dream is directly connected to a waking life frustration… and it is very likely a frustration your boyfriend is blissfully unaware of. I say this because whenever someone is asleep in a dream it means they are unaware of an issue they need to “wake up” to. What has been bugging you about him lately? Maybe when he does drive all that way to visit, he gets along too well with your sister, leaving you out of certain conversations. Or perhaps, deep down, you are upset that he travels all that way and is actually staying in yours and your sister’s house rather than just YOUR house. Hmmm…
And here’s a response from the dreamer:
Hello Lauri, (Hi Em and Lo!)
Your answer actually struck a few chords with me. I am extremely happy that my sister and boyfriend hit it off. Both of them are eccentric with strong personalities and I wasn’t 100% sure that they would like one another. But my sister thinks he’s awesome. He thinks my sister is just the bee’s knees and enjoys hanging out with her and my nephew as much as I do. It makes my world much easier because they like one another and are friends, in that aspect I couldn’t be happier.
However, my sister and I are actually currently discussing moving into our own individual places. I have been in desperate need of my own space since we moved in together and it’s time for us to change a few things and/or separate our living arrangements before living together starts damaging our relationship.
My boo and I are still enjoying one another’s company. He and I actually just had a long discussion about his sleeping habits… he sleeps A LOT and it does eat into our quality couple time. Because we spend so little time physically in each other’s presence, it was very frustrating for me that he would sleep for so much of the little time we actually get to spend together.
You totally hit the nails right on the head. Thank you so much!!!
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