Dream Interpretation: My Boyfriend and I Had the Same Dream

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

My boyfriend, who lives with me, and I had the same dream last night. He killed me, but was possessed while doing so. I’m sure the details in his dream were different than mine, but it was the same content.

My dream was one I’d had before. In my dream, another man tries to save me from my current boyfriend, but is unsuccessful and my boyfriend stabs me. The dream was very dark and dreary and also involved a train and a train station and skips to a party scene on the train.

In his dream he was possessed and stabbed me like 20 times and after the fact that I was dead he realized what he did and started balling and hugged my dead body until the police came.

The fact that we both dreamt the same thing on the same night is rather scary. Any thoughts?

Lauri: Yes, two people can have the same dream on the same night. It’s called shared dreaming and it usually happens to two people who are very close: husband and wife, best friends, mother and daughter, etc. The reason why is because the two individuals are dealing with the same issue and their subconscious responds to it similarly by giving them comparable dreams.

Now, let’s decipher these dreams and see if we can pinpoint the shared issue. Being stabbed in a dream often means you have been the victim of someone’s hurtful and wounding remarks. Do you recall if you and your boyfriend fought that day? Did he take a lot of “stabs” at you by criticizing you?

The fact that you’ve had this dream more than once concerns me that he may have an anger problem. Just as he was possessed in the dream, does it sometimes seem like some angry person had taken over his body? Is he sometimes not himself?

The murder aspect of these dreams suggests he may be trying to force some sort of change on you. Death in a dream is a natural change or ending in waking life whereas murder in a dream is a forced change or ending. The unknown man that was trying to rescue you in the dream is most likely your own male, assertive self. Do you recall trying to “grow a pair” and stand up for yourself that day… to no avail?

His remorse in the dream shows he’s truly sorry in waking life. Nonetheless, if there are changes he is trying to get you to make, you may wanna tell him to lighten up a bit about it because it’s giving you nightmares!


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1 month 7 days ago

My ex boyfriend and I hadhad the same dream last night. He and my boyfriend came to see me and I refused to kiss my boyfriend then my ex came up to me and I kissed him when I woke up I had a nose bleed and he texted me about the same dream ad nose bleed. So this morning I txted my boyfriend and told him he got upset and scared. So I looked it up and a doctor said we have issues that were addressed unconsciously.

1 month 18 days ago

So me and my best friend had a weird experience and were just finding this out now. She told me about this scary dream some time ago where her grandmother (who had just died) was taking her to church. And she accidentally said hell instead of heaven and her grandmother started screaming and she literally heard like the devils screams .she said she had never been so scared in her life. Well I had never met her grandmother because we got close a good while after she died. Well I saw a picture of her the other day and recalled a dream I had where this lady was screaming at me to go save myself and leave. Well I did not think much of it until I saw this photo because I had never seen Her grandmother before and I told her and it freaked both of us out because she had almost the same experience at the beginning of the dream with her grandmother pointing just like in my dream the same way and its weird because this is not the only dream that lady has been in and the screaming dreams come frequent from different people plz help

1 month 25 days ago

Me and my sister had the same dream on the same night it was about my my brother and little sister and I went to a store they got kidnapped but I don’t remember I got kidnapped but if I did I escaped but my siblings were left behind my little sister got rapped and my brother got abusied what does this mean

2 months 20 days ago

Last night sleeping together we both woke each other out of a deep sleep screaming bloody murder grabbing for one another n kicking our feet wildly. We both talked ofsee the same lights, a door opening on my wall a man with a scary changing face. N hands grabbing for our feet to drag us in but we both started screaming n grabbing for each other as i stated before… needless to say it scared the hell out of both us n we didnt go back to bed. Also neither of us has had nightmares in nearly 10 years especially anything like this. Either we need a new house or i have no idea??!! And we both refuse to share it with anyone else so ppl dont thonk we are crazy.

2 months 20 days ago

My typos are awful sorry my screens cracked on phone

2 months 28 days ago

I was at home last night and my bf was at his aunts house. We both had dreams about zombies. I was in a city that I have never been to but in the dream it felt familiar, and was trying to get away from the Zombies. They were fat and alien like. I was beating them with a shovel and then suddenly I was in a really high elevator that was going up really fast and it lead me to a hospital like place with a little girl in a room. She was coughing up blood and was sick. Then she changed into a zombie in front of me. My boyfriend on the other hand had a dream that he was in the forest or someplace swampy, he also was trying to get away but said that he had a different partner with him. Could it be possible that we are both trying to escape our pasts in reality?