Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I had a dream that I was in the living room and had taken some pills and I was getting real dizzy. Then when I was walking towards the bathroom I went into the bedroom and saw my fiance having sex with a blonde chick. Then I started throwing up. Next thing I know he was trying to help me throw up the pills. Then my phone rings in real life and it’s him calling me! What the hell?!
Lauri: Something must have happened recently that was “a hard pill for you to swallow.” The dizziness in the dream is connected to uncertainty in waking life. This issue is making your head spin! And it probably does not have to do with your fiance. But let me assure you that just because you see him having sex with another woman in your dream, doesn’t mean he is getting his pleasures elsewhere in real life… unless you have good reason to suspect him! Most likely, he is giving his time and attention to something else and it has become a third wheel in your relationship, to the point that he isn’t by your side as much as you would like while you deal with this issue of yours that has been hard to swallow. You begin vomiting in the dream because this issue of yours is very unhealthy for you and you need to purge yourself of it immediately, and doing so may involve getting an awful lot off your chest. Your fiance finally comes around at the end of the dream to help you out, which means he was likely a “Johnny come lately” in real life. He finally came to your side to help you rid yourself of the unpleasant issue. Better late than never! Oh, and the fact that he happened to call in the midst of the dream? Most likely coincidence.
Dreamer’s response: Wow, thank you, I really like this interpretation! There is a lot going on in my life: I recently found out my real father’s name; I have a six month old and I have a stepson who is seven; my fiance was a cheater when I was pregnant and he proposed to me when I told him that I was tired and I wanted to leave him. A lot has changed. He has stopped being selfish and he finally apologized for everything one day when I was intoxicated and let it all out. The wedding is set for June 2010. But I still have cold feet — I am scared of getting hurt.