Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:
Hi! I’m a 20-year-old girl who’s in a relationship with a great guy. The only problem is that I am very insecure about myself which is ruining everything. I don’t enjoy sex very much because of that. It’s gotten better lately, but I can’t call myself confident.
So I had a strange dream a while ago and it has disturbed me ever since. I was in an empty strip club, lying on the stage, naked. Then a girl approached me and got on the stage. I was very attracted to her but as she got closer to me I noticed that she looked exactly like me, from head to toe and she was naked as well. The only difference, she was very confident.
So she got on top of me and I noticed that I was wearing a strap-on. She was riding on it for a while and I was literally mesmerized by her. But then, in the blink of an eye, the scenery switched and she was wearing the strap-on and penetrating me. Then I woke up.
It was very disturbing to me because I love my boyfriend very much and I am bisexual so did this dream mean that I should explore new relationships? Perhaps with girls? Why was I having sex with a better version of myself? Was that a dream that I met myself from another dimension? I am very confused.
Lauri: Pink has a video where she seduces and makes love to herself. While some may perceive it as a shameless display of narcissism, it’s actually quite the opposite. The video is for the song “Sober” and the lyrics and the storyline of the video are all about her trying to love herself as a sober individual. Your dream is conveying the very same message to you… except for loving yourself sober your dream seems to want you to love yourself in general.
The strip club is all about you stripping away your insecurities. You find this other girl – who happens to be you – very attractive because you need to be attracted to yourself and your own unique and wonderful qualities. Notice how she gets on top of you first… what or whomever is above you in a dream usually represents what you aspire to. And in this case you aspire to be a more confident you.
Why the strap on? Well, it could be simply because that is how two women make love. But it could also be symbolic of how you may need to “put on” that assertive confident attitude in the beginning, even if – like a strap on – it’s fake. As they say, fake it til you make it! At the end of the dream, she penetrates you, showing you that you can bring this confidence into yourself. It is completely within the realm of possibility.
And in fact, it sounds like you’re off to a good start, which may be why you had the dream in the first place. So keep it at it, lass. Like a sexual encounter, the better you work it, the better the out – ahem – come.
Response from Dreamer: Oh my god thank you so much for replying to me, this means a lot. This is such a positive interpretation and it totally makes sense because deep down it’s like I knew what it meant but I needed the opinion of someone who knew more about dreams to motivate me and give me kind of a wake up call.
I have to admit that when I had this dream, I felt almost hopeless, like I had hit a point of no return and that I would never like myself because I was almost used to this. Well ever since this dream, I keep getting a little bit better. You even gave me a small confidence boost because at first, I was doubting myself and I thought it was not a message from my subconscious telling me to love myself and that I can actually find myself attractive just because I was so insecure. But knowing that now removes a weight off my shoulders and make me believe it is possible.
I almost feel like you know a small part of me now because that is how I truly feel inside. I feel that it is time for me to transform and be that confident girl and stop being in my shell. I’m only very uncertain as to how I am going to do this because it has become almost like a cycle, it is so natural to me now to be insecure, which is sad I know but you’re right, if I made myself insecure, I can certainly make myself confident. You are amazing and I really appreciate your time and effort. Thank you, you really made my day and gave me hope. Sweet dreams to you!
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