Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I am female. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months. Last night I dreamed I was at his apartment — I stood in front of him and started to undress myself to arouse him. It worked! He asked me to sit on his lap and we kissed. Then we went to his bedroom and had the most incredible sex I have ever had. We are not having sex in real life now, we are waiting until marriage. What does this mean? Thank you.
Lauri: Holding off on sex is very admirable, in my humble opinion, because you are not only staying true to your convictions but you are exhibiting tremendous will power… so I salute you! The side effect, however, is often more naughty dreams than usual. You see, when we go through a dry spell, sex dreams tend to increase. Let’s face it, we are sexual creatures with sexual energy that needs a release, so if it is not released while awake, the body will release it while asleep when the conscious mind has fallen away and can no longer control the situation.
But that’s not to say that there isn’t a message within those dreams as well… so let us delve into yours so you can see what I mean. Since this dream takes place in his apartment, that means it is about something he is in more control of than you. I wonder, is he the stronger one in this abstinence? You undress in the dream. While undressing is often a critical part of having sex, it also represents complete and open honesty, having nothing to hide. This is needed so you can be sure that he is the one and that your relationship will remain firm and solid, very much like his aroused state!
And while kissing to the awake mind is part of the progression to sex, to the dreaming mind it is about communication. Again, another message you are giving yourself through this dream. Just as nudity and kissing led to the most incredible sex ever, so will open, honest communication lead to the most incredible relationship ever… and there is nothing more satisfying than that!