Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri about a mystery groom in her dream:
I had a weird dream where I was getting married. In this dream world, I was in love with the guy and was happy to marry him. I saw his face. In real life, I haven’t really seen anyone like him nor know anyone who looks like him. The wedding was kind of a mess because it had a lot of problems (shortage of flowers, etc.). But I was happy and looked happy.
Lauri: This is actually a fairly common dream for women: “The Mystery Groom” dream, as I call it. It’s fun to think that it could be your subconscious or the universe showing you your future husband but the truth is, dreams are symbolic, not literal, and they show you the here and now, not the future.
Unknown men in women’s dreams often symbolize her own energy that’s typically considered masculine, i.e. her ability to stand up, “grow a pair,” be assertive, etc. (“Female” qualities/energies are typically considered to be sensitivity, creativity, intuition and nurturing). Anyhoo… You are marrying this dream man and are in love with him because your subconscious is urging you to unite with and “commit” to your assertive side. What is going on in your life right now where you could utilize this energy for your benefit?
Next, the problems at the wedding are directly connected to current waking life problems. See if you can correlate the different wedding problems to your current waking life problems. For example, the shortage of flowers in the dream may reflect a shortage of happiness in real life.
Bottom line, this dream came at a time when you need to take charge and handle a particular issue… and commit (hence the wedding) to seeing it through.