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How do I convince my husband to get a vasectomy? We have two kids; we don’t want to have any more. We have a strong, loving, supportive relationship (i.e. divorce seems highly unlikely). He was ready to do it, though he’s always been very worried about the pain (overly so, as far as I’m concerned), but when he went in for the consultation, the doctor said, “So imagine your wife and kids are killed in a car accident. Are you sure you’d want to be infertile then?” Thanks, doc. That was 5 years ago, still no V. I don’t want to go on the Pill (too many hormones), I don’t want an IUD shoved up me (it skeeves me out), and I’m sick of condoms and the stress of withdrawal. I carried two children to term, I had a C-section, I’ve done my part — I think it’s his turn to step up. How can I convince him? P.S. He’s in his 40s so it’s not like his sperm are all fresh and pristine. And freezing is not an option, unless there’s a discount way to do that that I don’t know of.
— V Is Not for Victory