The following is the kind of fun advice you’ll find in our new book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink:
Sensation play might as well be called sensational play. After all, sex shouldn’t always be rub, climax, rinse, repeat. Add a little subtlety to your sexuality and you get sensuality, the driving force behind sensation play. It’s notoriously been the domain of sensitive ponytailed men and earnest granola chicks who own speculums, but it doesn’t have to be. No matter whether you have a sense of irony or not, experimenting with different textures and temperatures, both on and around your erogenous zones, wakes up your body to new experiences and surprises your nerves with the unexpected: the chill of an ice cube, the warmth of candle wax, the thud of a paddle, the pinch of a nipple clamp, the crack of a riding crop or whip, the tickle of feathers. Even better if your partner is blindfolded so they don’t get any visual clues before experiencing the sensation — you can then alternate sensations to really drive them nuts. Just make sure safety comes first when you’re dabbling with different sensations: Ice cubes should be used externally only, lest they tear delicate internal linings.