1/30/18
How to Have Phone Sex in 10 Easy Steps

You’re away on business, you don’t know a soul in this town, you’re holed up in your hotel room, alone and lonely (read: horny) and because you are a not a cheating scumbag and this isn’t Up in the Air, you pick up the phone to call your honey at home in the hopes of a little cellular nookie, a.k.a. phone sex.

But it goes something like this: “I just called, to say, I� um� uh, I was thinking that we could, you know�oh, never mind. How’s the weather where you are?”

There’s nothing like phone sex to make you feel like a gawky teen all over again. Regular sex, you’ve got down cold: pour two glasses of wine, play smooth soundtrack, get naked, get busy, orgasms all around, rinse, repeat. But fiber-optic relations? The person on the other end of the line could be fully-clothed and watching “Top Chef” on mute for all you know. They could be faking, or smirking at your clumsy attempts at dirty talk. If you wanted some more experience with dirty talk, it might be helpful to learn from 35p Cheap Phone Sex. They are experts in the field and know exactly how to loosen anyone up into a good time.

Without being in the same room together, performance anxiety is practically inevitable. It can feel like auditioning for a casting director who demands, “Say something sexy!” So here’s how to “reach out and touch someone” successfully:

  1. Plug in your headset to free up your hands and avoid neck cramps.
  2. Hold all calls. Answering call-waiting while tele-sexing�even during tele-foreplay�suggests you’ve got better things to do, or worse, better people to do.
  3. Once you’ve dialed the digits, use the “I wish you were here” line as your “in.”
  4. Don’t immediately break out into your best phone-sex-operator impression. If your partner knows you as the quiet type, suddenly spewing forth a string of obscenities that would make the Osbornes blush might not have the erotic effect you’re going for. You also want to assess how in the mood your partner is first — them being on deadline or elbow deep in diapers definitely won’t align with your current sexual aspirations. As with any lust-driven encounter, getting enthusiastic consent is essential. In other words, DON’T pull a Louis CK!
  5. Dead air during phone sex can dampen the mood, but some heavy breathing, the occasional moan, or simply whispering their name can fill the awkward silences. Whatever you do, make some noise! Otherwise your partner will think that you’re watching TV or doodling on the hotel notepad.
  6. If you’d like to graduate to full sentences but don’t know where to start, try reading something sexy over the phone. Tell your partner, “I read this today and thought of you.” Then, as long as they’re into it, start articulating your desire. The most basic approach is to think of this articulation as narration: you’re simply talking about what you’d like to do to them or what you’re doing to yourself while you’re doing it.
  7. Start with the most basic of terms for each other’s genitals and gradually up the ante. Don’t worry about creative vocabulary, at least not at first. Once you become more fluent in the language of love, you can get more colorful. As a general rule, the more words a term for the genital contains, the more likely it is to induce giggles or a wince.
  8. To get your partner in on the action, ask them what they’re doing. Ask exactly how it feels. Ask what they’d do to you if you weren’t a thousand miles away. If your partner is on the shy side, get them talking with a few yes or no questions: “Are you undressed?” “Does that feel good?”
  9. Whatever you do, don’t laugh at anything your partner says, ever; not only will it ruin the mood, it will make them forever self-conscious and inhibited in the verbal sex department.
  10. Whatever you end up saying, say it with confidence and don’t censor yourself: If you’re embarrassed, then your partner will be embarrassed for (and by) you. Commit to the dirty talk, and you should have an eargasmic experience.

Dear Em & Lo,
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56 Comments

  1. this gotta be one of the best guides on the topic. phone sex can be very intimidating at first but as with most things with practice it get’s so much better.

  2. If you want to get good at phone sex you practice your phone sex skills. Call any of the chatlines and get a free trial. There is a good list of phone sex chat lines at the chatlineguide website you will probably find useful. Apply all the tips from this article and become a master of phone sex.

  3. I liked this article a lot. Good phone sex should always include questions, and descriptions about what each person is doing!

  4. It helps to set the mood. Going into phone sex mood like a robot doesn’t help. Be romantic, empathic, caring. Be who are when the two of you are together. Ask about each others day, tell him/her how much you have missed his/her… Her kisses, his touch… What you miss right now… How you wish he/she was there with you etc… Flirt, play, seduce. Have fun! Phone sex doesn’t replace the real thing, but it sure is a great way … to do… it…

  5. Great advice. I have been in this business for over 15 years. Sometimes callers are shy and need gentle guiding and other times they go right into action mode. I always tell me girls to listen first. Even the shortest silence can speak volume about a person’s comfort level. To potential callers who have never done this before, just know that in general, nothing you say will ever shock us. So don’t be shy. ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. I’ve been having a distant relationship for 7 years now, the reason I can’t be with my lover is because I’m married and I refuse to leave my kids as they adore their father…So me and my lover have phone sex often, we are so good together and having phone sex remind me of the times that we’ve been together secretly (he lives 700km) away from me. I am very noisy when I cum and it makes he squirt when I have a orgasm. This is what keeps our love strong and our relationship steaming hot!

  7. I must say, this is an awesome guide.

    I own a website on the subject and I’ve been using phone sex services for many years now so you can trust my opinion. ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. Ah I seee Cx well, going to be having phone sex with my boyfriend later. I got my “sexy clothing” on. Lol so I’m looking up phone sex xD I want to have the best phone sex!

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