We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, about once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below — from a woman whose husband doesn’t go down on her anymore — by leaving your advice in the comments section.
We’ve been married nearly 20 years, together 25, and yet for much of the past five or so years, my hubby does not show any interest in giving oral. I have a husband who doesn’t go down anymore. I give him plenty of enthusiastic oral (I like giving AND receiving). I’ve stepped up my lingerie even though he swears he doesn’t care. I’ve tried to stay fit and am pretty good compared to my other middle-aged friends. When I ask, he demurs. I really, really miss good oral — and he used to do it. I’ve tried everything I can think of and am still left with my box o’ tools for when he’s at work and kids are at school. Advice, please!
Should she withhold blowjobs? Push his head down? Change her diet? Confront him directly? Just accept that, after 25 years of marital sex, he simply doesn’t want to do it anymore? Are people’s sexual preferences allowed to change over a quarter century?