Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I’ve had this dream twice now that my husband is cheating on me with a girl that we grew up with but we don’t even see or talk to or anything. Last I heard, she had a boyfriend but I don’t know why I keep having this dream. I do not like her and he used to be friends with her. Is that why? Or is it just because I’m jealous? I don’t know.
Lauri: To keep getting the same dream or same dream theme over and over again means there is a constant in your life, some sort of issue that has been going on for as long as the dream has.
The constant in your life is illustrated by this cheating dream. That tells us that you feel there is some sort of third wheel in your marriage but it’s not necessarily another woman but rather another thing… something your husband is giving his attention to or something your husband does that is taking up too much space in your relationship… as far as you are concerned.
The “mistress” in the dream is a big clue. She is someone you both grew up with but that neither of you have contact with today. That may be an indication that this could be a constant issue where you feel your hubby is being childish and needs to grow up. She is also someone you don’t like and that may simply reflect that you don’t like — what you perceive as — his childish behavior.
But you should also ask yourself what else stands out about this woman. What are the first three things that come to mind when you think of her? Of those three things, at least one of them will most likely apply to your husband and/or his current behavior as well.
Your dream is using this woman to illustrate that which bothers you about your partner lately. By showing you this issue in the form of a woman you do not like, you should be able to better understand the issue and your aversion to it and THAT should enable you to have a more open and sincere conversation with your hubby about it. The dream keeps happening because the issue keeps bothering you. Once you clear the air on this issue, the dream will stop.
