Introducing "The Virgin Diaries"

photo by Rafael Acorsi

Perhaps you’re familiar with our regular contributor, Katherine Chen, a sophomore English major at Princeton University. She’s written several thoughtful essays on topics like porn and puberty. What really sets apart her involvement with our site about sex, however, is the fact that she’s never had any. But just because one may not have that much experience getting naked with a partner does NOT mean they won’t have a developed sense of sexuality or interesting things to say about it. So check out Katherine’s previous installments of what we’re now calling “The Virgin Diaries” below, and stay tuned for her next entry tomorrow, on how video games have informed her idea of sexiness.

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Aunt Flow
5 years 7 months ago

Me likey. Too often heterosexual penetrative intercourse is the gold standard by which all other sexual activity is measured, as if it’s the be all end all. But where would that put lesbians? Or a quadriplegic who can’t have traditional sex? Or how about someone who has had sex before but isn’t engaged in it now — would that make them unqualified to talk about their current sense of sexuality which involves fantasy, masturbation, future hopes? Those kind of different perspectives are interesting. And why does Ms. Chen need to rush things? She’s young! To hurry up and get it over with seems so American, and so “American-Pie”-ish. And it’s not like she’s a prude preaching abstinence til marriage (or she wouldn’t be writing so openly on this kind of site). Also, why NOT call it the Virgin Diaries? That’s the author’s perspective from which she experiences various things: masturbation perhaps, fantasy, desire. If they called it Masturbation Diaries, ANYBODY who masturbated could fall in that category — the current title is just more accurate and focused. Basically, one’s sexuality exists whether there’s a partner involved or not, and it’s nice to hear from someone who’s focused on herself and what she wants rather than someone who’s focused on what everyone else is doing (which is probably the majority of college-aged women).

5 years 7 months ago

This sounds fantastic. I am currently in the same boat, almost a sophomore, interested in sex and very sexual, but still a virgin. I also don’t have the excuse of religion to explain why I haven’t had sex. It is a very difficult place to be, most people just don’t get it. Hopefully these ‘virgin diaries’ will be a breath of fresh air.

Madamoiselle L
5 years 8 months ago

Well, I’m willing to be open minded and give it a shot. Y’all haven’t let me down yet with the content. :)

Julie S.
5 years 7 months ago

I like this concept and find it really interesting. Not enough emphasis is placed on the subject of virginity on other sex & relationship websites. Bravo for coming up with this idea!