Is Cuckolding a Real Trend, Or Just Another Internet Meme?

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Dear Em & Lo,

A lot of erotica & porn is devoted to cuckolding (either interracial or less racially oriented). Observers claim that many women are happily liberating their “inner slut” by freely exploring their sexuality, mostly via fuck-buddy-style sex with partners outside their primary relationship (boyfriend or spouse), & often with BF or husband’s permission, encouragement or participation.

Is all this supposed increase in women being free to “fuck around like men do” just another internet meme or popular theme in porn — or is such a phenomenon truly occurring to any significant degree? The blogs (tumblr & elsewhere) that flaunt amateur pics & video are quite numerous, so I wonder if this might in fact be a growing subculture, in the US & Europe. Any insight you can offer?

— Cuckold-Curious

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12 Comments on "Is Cuckolding a Real Trend, Or Just Another Internet Meme?"

Guage H.
2 months 8 days ago

I honestly didn’t believe any of the cuckold stuff at all . It looked so rehearsed in what they filmed that I couldn’t believe what I saw . Besides how can a man who loves his wife allow her to be with another ? If I were invited to just watch it happen I would be a believer then . I would like to just meet the couple and see for myself that they are an actual couple and then wait for a door bell to ring and watch another man come into their home . Then I would believe it . It is so easy for the folks in adult film industry to fake it because you have lights all over , you can hear camera shutters going off in the background so no as Of now I don’t really think its true . If any couples in this lifestyle would allow me to watch , I would love it and would be respectful of course . I’m not even sure I would watch the whole act unless they said I could . If I just saw permission from the couple for the couple for another man to touch her how ever he wanted may be enough for me .

2 months 8 days ago

The cuckold porn you see is contrived, and those are paid actors. Real people do it though. I would, in theory.

Hannson III
3 months 26 days ago

Let me ask this question to you that are into this , when I see all of it online much of it looks like Porn with Porn Actors in it . But you guys say you do it so how does it begin for most of you ??? Is it watching your Wife with another man right in front of you ? Why is that a turn on for you , is he bigger or what ? I am asking because I am trying to understand and not judge . I am just asking , so please help me understand your lives . Someone said in an article I read that ” You are only One experience or swap away from the end or your Marriage or Relationship ” ? Is that true and if so do you at all worry ? What about Rules , lets say it’s Thursday night and its your day to do it , what about those other Days Is your spouse allowed to go and see them or does it have to be on THE day . Thank you for your time and effort with this .

1 year 1 month ago

My husband got me into “hotwifing” which was weird before I learned to enjoy it. The variety was great and some were just much better than my husband.

It became more of a cuckolding thing when I started doing it more often and for my own pleasure rather than for hubby’s kink.

The cuck aspect was more intense as I would lose interest in sex with my husband when my needs were better met from a lover.

I have two married friends that are involved in the Hotwife / Cuckold fetish. I would think that it is indeed on the rise.

1 year 9 months ago

I would say it is both. But, and a very important but. I think the fantasy is the powerful thing and most men, if they want to live this fantasy out, they do so in a Pseudo fantasy way. Meaning they usually would go to say…a dominatrix, in which he would be cuckolded by the dominatrix instead of his actual wife. As for this in porn, it is quite common and becoming much more visible and popular in the Female Domination/Fetish scene.

1 year 11 months ago

I was in a pseudo cuckold relationship and loved it.
I say pseudo because we cuckolded each other from time to time. She did most of the activity but once in awhile I’d bring another girl home. She was Bi.
She loved “catching” me in the act with another girl and then joining in.

90% of the time it was her with other men either in front of me or just before I got home.

There was never any interracial stuff or bisexual acts by me ever. That would’ve been a turn off for her although I was open to be orally giving but that’s it.
I DID however eat creampies on the occasion when it was safe to go bareback.
That was as far as our humiliation ever went. Well, it went further in the sense that she would pick up guys at the club I worked at…so I could see things progress and so could my coworkers…Often they would tell me they saw my GF dancing/making out/leaving with another guy. I just casually said we have an open relationship and would play off as super confident….truth is I liked that humiliation. I liked knowing that everyone knew my girl was going to get fucked by some dude at closing time and that I would be going home to her after I clocked out. She always had between an hour and an hour and a half to get home and get fucked…often she’d time it so that I’d see him leaving and going to his car as I was pulling up. I would text her when I left work so she could do that. I loved knowing I was getting fresh seconds!

The range of emotions though was the real high…being trapped at work yet seeing her do her thing and knowing she was going to get fucked before I got home was very intense…it was a turn on but also there’s fear, jealousy, humiliation and I would often get a knot in my stomach and feel like I was in a bubble…

I would never want to be a feminized or denied cuckold though…I like to get seconds…although SOME chastity play, would be fun I in no way would ever want that as a lifestyle.