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Confessions
How to “Open Up” to Your Wife

Enjoyment of and fascination with one’s own butthole can get a bad rap. Freud deemed it one of his psychosexual “stages,” thereby guaranteeing negative societal judgment of it for about a full century now. And if you’re a straight dude? Forget it: all the narrow-minded sexist homophobes will call you gay and girly (as if those were […]

How To
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (Trump’s First Week in Office)

The cast of The Bachelor left the freezing cold of Waukesha, Wisconsin — hometown of Nick and the two little girls who stabbed their best friend 19 times in a delusional Slenderman ritual — and traveled to the swamps of New Orleans to continue their journey to find out how long their hair extensions could hold up […]

Personal Essays
Why You Shouldn’t Be Offended by the P-Word Anymore

At Least When It’s Uttered with Love A friend’s middle school daughter wore a hat to school the other day. You know the one: pink, hand-knit, with two points resembling cat ears. An adult at her school asked her to remove it because she found it “offensive.” Later in the day this person, most likely encouraged […]

Toys
Get Up to 59% OFF LELO Gift Boxes for Valentine’s Day!

  There are some ridiculous deals going on at LELO.com right now. All their lovely luxury gift boxes — some new, some classic — are on sale for Valentine’s Day: get anywhere from 27 % to 44 % off! Plus, they’re offering Em & Lo readers an additional 15% OFF* with the code “EMANDLO17”! Order before February 8th to […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate: What Should I Do About a Vaginal Tear from Rough Sex?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, Hi, I recently had sex with a friend (with benefits) and he was going a […]

How To
10 Journal Prompts to Help You Get Over a Breakup

Two articles in the New York Times (here and here) discussed the benefits of writing things down to help you move on from a difficult situation. An aversion to exercise, for example, or trouble fitting in at a new job, or — the situation we hear about most often at EMandLO.com — inability to get over […]

TV
Bachelor Contestants Are Like Trump Voters

After the historic Women’s March this past weekend (and that little, tiny thing called The Inauguration), we couldn’t help but watch this week’s Bachelor with a sense of depression — or should we say, an even greater sense of depression than normal? The women on this show (except for maybe the reasonable Rachel this season) don’t […]

News
Our 45 Favorite #GirlPower Signs from the #WomensMarch

View & share video via YouTube here. I hope someone keeps documenting these signs. Some real gems. #WomensMarchOnWashington @mkr_ultra @catehamm pic.twitter.com/wCCJEWZe7d — Joe (@ImmortanJo3) January 21, 2017 We still haven’t reached parity. This is why #wemarch. #Sfwomensmarch pic.twitter.com/sZaChZXECH — The Bold Italic (@thebolditalic) January 22, 2017 I love this sign @SarahLerner made for the #WomensMarch. […]

Confessions
Top 10 Ways to Make Oral Sex More Fun for Both Partners

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studied Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz. She has some words of wisdom to share about oral sex… Going down on someone is no easy task. And letting someone go down on you can be quite nerve-racking. Despite these potential oral sex setbacks, the experience can be, well, […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Why Monogamy, Not Polygamy, Is the Norm

Reader Charles recently posted his theory as to why monogamy rules in the comments section of our post “Top 10 Reasons to Be — and Stay — Non-Monogamous.” Jump into the debate in the comments below: To be blunt, the most effective method of doing something dominates. As a central economic tenant states “A firm that […]

How To
How to Bridge the Erotic Chasm in a Sexless Marriage

by Dr. Margaret Paul for YourTango Don’t give up. Research indicates that over 55 percent of married women are not interested in having sex with their husbands. I’ve worked with many men who also are not interested in sex with their wives. The problem is generally not a lack of sexual desire in the marriage […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (Whipped Cream)

It’s tempting to turn this Bachelor column into an ongoing tutorial on how not to be an adult-baby like Corinne. For instance: don’t brag about being a 24-year-old with your own personal live-in nanny*; don’t have a nanny, period; don’t make fantastic claims about the happiness of those in the service industry (especially those paid to serve you); master […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate, Did Masturbation Cause My Labia to Look Like This?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, My inner labia protrudes out a bit and is a bit large but […]

How To
The Art of “Everything But” for Straight People

Many, many, many, many women don’t climax from intercourse, so why rush to get there when you can spend time on more rewarding acts? Here, the how-to tips for everything from soul-stirring kissing to mind-blowing oral sex, guaranteed to improve both partners’ non-intercourse sex life. 1. Talking Whispering dirty nothings to each other is one of the […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (Corinne IS Trump)

Last night’s episode of The Bachelor saw the first of the dreaded group dates — harem outings in which contestants are forced to humiliate themselves publicly while often scantily clad or even naked. Think city-street tractor-racing in bikinis, or mud wrestling. People with stage fright, body self-consciousness or healthy self-respect usually have a difficult time […]