Naked News: This Week, Sex Is Effed Up

A new book called Hard to Get says young independent successful women need more guidance about sex than their elders did, thanks to so many conflicting messages. One Jezebel article kinda proves that point by questioning why so many women willingly engage in orgasm-free casual sex.

Jumping on the “sex is ruined” bandwagon is this Atlantic article about online dating being the end of monogamy, since it offers an endless supply of dates and sex. Hogwash, says this response in the same mag: “online dating is, in fact, irresistible.”

What’s really the problem? Porn. (Bet you guessed that was coming, as it were.) One unscientific survey by Cosmo of sex therapists and experts revealed that porn-problems abound: performance anxiety, low self-esteem, body image insecurities, addiction, the list depressingly goes on and on. One study on porn had to be trashed because they couldn’t find any male subjects who’d never seen porn!

On the brighter side, there was this argument this week for how porn can be a catalyst for spiritual growth. Aw. And you can also now pre-order the book, Making Peace with Porn (i.e. if you can’t beat ’em, join ’em). And finally, the founder of Kink.com defended his company on HuffPo (and promoted the James Franco documentary about his biz called “Kink,” premiering at this year’s Sundance Film Festival – see trailer below).

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Kink at Sundance and I missed it. What a shame. next time I geuess.

Online dating has changed nothing. I remember the earliest days of online dating (thanks, Em and Lo, for authoring the Nerve profile page that brought me such romantic success! Now you know why I’ve always loved you.). At the time, yes, online dating threw the equilibrium of the sex world way off. A regular guy like me could get laid like crazy just by throwing up an online profile. That’s because online dating was new territory, it was considered weird, and anyone participating in it was a bit of an adventurous type. It was new territory, and that was exciting.… Read more »