Question of the Week: How Do You Define Sex?

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Occasionally on this site, we ask you guys an impertinent question and you can share your answer in the comments section below. Feel free to share your age, gender, relationship status, sexuality, etc., if you feel that it’s relevant to the answer. This week’s burning (in a good way) question:

How do you define sex? (Intercourse only? Do you include oral? Anything that ends in an orgasm? Anything past third base?)

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Oh dear, once again I’m out on a limb. I should build a nest or something. 😉 Because the first thought I had when I saw the title was: “Anything that gets you off.” So, to me, that includes kissing, oral sex, anal intercourse, rimming, vaginal/penile sex, masturbation, mutual masturbation, cyber sex, phone sex, erotic email exchanges, group sex, porno, etc.


Yeah, figleaf and Johnny, I almost phrased it something like that in my response, too, but figured kissing made it too broad. Huh. Interesting.


To me sex is anything that results in me getting my rocks off. But that excludes masterbation there has to be another participant and my right hand doesn’t have a name. Cyber sex is only good at leading to masturbation.


Man, if these definitions all count as sex, I’ve done it with, like, ten times as many partners as I previously thought. And the expanded definition means I lost my virginity in 7th grade, not 11th! Awesome!


^Holy shit, Figleaf, I actually included that exact std-or-pregnancy thing in my initial answer. I deleted it on technical grounds because a kiss – which doesn’t count as sex in my book – can transmit an STD. I had no idea an actual, real-life sex writer agreed with me.

Matty Blue

pretty much any appearance of the genitalia.