Question of the Week: When Do You Leave the Bathroom Door Open?

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Occasionally on this site, we ask you guys an impertinent question and you can share your answer in the comments section below. Feel free to share your age, gender, relationship status, sexuality, etc., if you feel that it’s relevant to the answer. This week’s burning (in a good way) question:

When in a relationship do you start to leave the bathroom door open — after the first sleepover? First sex? First anal sex? After you’ve met the parents? Never? (And yes, we know it depends on what’s happening in said bathroom… feel free to make a distinction in your answers!)

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I’m a college student at a school with a large number of unisex bathrooms (which is pretty nice, since I identify as genderqueer and my sweetie is bigender). Since I’m dating someone who lives on the dorm floor directly below me, we shared bathroom space almost immediately after getting together. Stalls mean there’s still a degree of privacy for certain functions, but we’ve brushed and flossed and applied zit creams in front of each other many times.


It is a must to leave them closed while any of us is using the toilet. I’m not comfortable with him seeing me that way and seeing him also 🙂 But on all other occasions I don’t mind leaving them open. Especially if I’m taking a shower and he pops in to help me soap my back 😉 or the other way round.


Never. To me, there are some things that should just always be private.

I wouldn’t stay in the room for an extended period of time while my S.O. is pooing, but if I need something in the bathroom I’ll just go get it. I come from an open door kinda family, where I frequently had convos with my parents while they were peeing. My boyfriend’s from a closed-door home, so he has trouble peeing in my presence. But he tries really hard to prove that he is comfortable around me. No problem with toothbrushing, though he always laughs at my technique…(apparently I move my entire head during the brushing). For the poo I… Read more »

My husband teased me for years that if I ever came in the bathroom to poo while he was in the shower or something like that then the honeymoon was over. I feel like some things should be private and that’s one of them. Twelve years in we still both shut the door, so never is our answer.


On holiday when the ensuite was right next to the bed anyway so I figured it wouldn’t make any difference seeing as how he could hear me peeing anyway


I’ve been married for 2 years, together for 8.5 and similar to April we leave the unlocked or door open for everything except for when we need to poo/wipe.
Toothbrushing is no problem.