Advice
How To
How to Create a Sensual Environment for Good Sex

Sometimes sex is no more than a mood you create. The space you find yourself in, the air you breathe, the lights you dim, the furniture you lounge upon, the music you choose to play (no Barry White or his ilk, please) — all these things can serve to ignite your passion…or snuff it. So […]

How To
10 Rules for Surviving Your In-Laws This Holiday Season

You may tie each other up every Monday and feel completely comfortable exploring each other’s less traveled orifices, or you may consider doggie style to be “experimental” — but when it comes to the holidays, we’re all just a bunch of overgrown kids hoping to survive extended time with the in-laws (or potential future in-laws). […]

How To
How to Navigate the Crappy Holidays When You’re Single (Video)

Feeling down in the dumps because you’re going to be single for Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s? You’re not alone. Well, sure, you’re alone in the sense that you don’t have a cutie to go ice-skating with while clad in matching striped scarves from the Gap. But you’re not alone alone. Despite the onslaught of […]

How To
10 Steps to Surving a Holiday Dinner with Family Who Voted for Trump

Chances are you’ll have to spend the holidays with a few family members who voted for the human candied yam. You could always just cancel holiday plans all together, hole up in your house, and binge watch some light fare like “The Walking Dead.” But if for some reason you’d like to remain on speaking terms with […]

News
The Power and Pitfalls of Consent

A lot of strides have been made in educating people, especially college students, about consent. Many now understand you have to ask for it throughout a hookup, it must be given enthusiastically and verbally as you go, it can’t be given by people impaired by drugs or alcohol, and it can’t be given by minors. […]

News
Is What Louis C.K. Did Rape?

This past weekend, over takeout and then later texts, some friends and I were discussing the Louis C.K. allegations. (Talking about sexual misconduct, assault and rape has become regular cocktail party conversation these days, which is a good thing.) One friend shared the following social media post by the writer Emily Bracken: As a feminist […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! The Pre-Sex Massage

We regularly post quick and easy tips you can take home with you and try out on any given night. Whether you’re a newbie, a playa, or a committed monogamist, you have no excuse for not putting a little effort into your lovin’ every now and then, like with a pre-sex massage. The Pre-Sex Massage […]

Pop Culture
Thanks to You, We’re Sex Blogger Superheroes!

Thanks to everyone who nominated us for Kinkly’s Top 100 Sex Bloggers list! We made the cut, along with a lot of other cool sites we’re honored to share the space with. Like Kinkly says: …it’s easy to take for granted how much the internet has done for sex education. No matter who you are […]

How To
7 Tips for Determining Who Pays on a Date

Do people even go on dates anymore? It may be a dying tradition, but they still happen. And while they may be cheap, they ain’t never free. So who pays on a date? This is the 21st century: the old assumption that the man always coughs up doesn’t fly anymore. There might not even be […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Boyfriend Masturbates to Facebook Friends — Is That Normal?

Dear Em & Lo, My ex and I were in a relationship for just over 2 years. We broke up recently as he preferred to masturbate to his friends Facebook photos than have sex with me. I had known about it all throughout the relationship and tried to get him to stop. It really killed […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate, Does a LEEP Procedure Increase My Risk for Contracting STDs?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com — this week, it’s about a LEEP procedure for HPV. To ask her your own med question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, What […]

Dear Em & Lo
10 Steps to Orgasming WITH Your Partner

One of the most common questions we receive from heterosexual women is, “How can I orgasm in bed with my partner?” The really demanding ones want to know how to orgasm simultaneously, during penetration, every time. If this is you, then sorry, you’re out of luck; if we knew the answer to that question, we’d […]

Dream Interpretation
What Does It Mean When You and Your Partner Have the Same Violent Dream?

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri about a having the same violent dream as her spouse: My husband and […]

How To
3 Easy(ish) Steps to Sharing a Fantasy with a Partner

Sharing a fantasy with a partner can be a cheap and easy way to foster intimacy, build trust, and kink things up. But it takes a lot of courage to do. What if you think yours is too mundane to put into words (remember Meg Ryan’s faceless stranger fantasy in When Harry Met Sally?). Or what […]

How To
Em & Lo’s Glossary of Female Sexual Anatomy

There’s a lot more than meets the eye when it comes to female sexual anatomy: the waters of that pleasure system run way deep. These parts are not inferior, miniature versions of the male sexual anatomy, but rather equitable, albeit more internal, sexual structures that enjoy stimulation just as much. They simply need the right […]

How To
“I Effed Up” — 7 Steps to Righting a Relationship Wrong

You didn’t mean to do it, but effed up! David McFadden walks you through the 7 steps to making it right. As you know, relationships take a lot of work. And at times, they’re downright HARD. According to a UCLA study on commitment in marriage (which followed 174 married partners for their first eleven years of marriage), couples who actually lasted […]