Advice
Toys
Do It Tonight! Get Speakers for Your Sex Life

No, we’re not talking about broadcasting the dying-cow sound of your orgasm for all your neighbors to hear. We’re talking about getting some decent speakers for your sex life, i.e. to put in your bedroom so you can do it to decent-sounding music. Tunes can really help set a mood. (There’s a good reason why […]

How To
Rethinking Intercourse: 8 Ideas to Improve the Old “In-Out”

The definition of sex is not “intercourse”. You won’t find terms like “going all the way” on this site, because intercourse is not the last lap you complete to win a medal — in fact, it’s not even a requirement for “winning” at sex. No, intercourse is one of many ways to engage in sexual […]

Advice
You Might THINK You Know What You Want in a Man, But You’d Be WRONG

What you want in a man should not be set in stone.  Relationships are confusing and knowing what we actually want out of one is even more confusing. It’s kind of a sad truth, at least for myself, that I can’t even trust myself to know what I like sometimes. And, I really don’t think that […]

Dear Em & Lo
10 Reasons Your “Ugly Vagina” Is Normal and Gorgeous

There’s no such thing as an “ugly vagina.” Here’s why… Dear Em & Lo, A male acquaintance recently started a conversation about “ugly” vaginas with my friends and me. He said that some vaginas resemble “kebabs” and that a lot of guys are really put off sex when they get a hot girl naked and […]

Your Call
Your Call: Why Is Her Husband Choosing Porn Over Sex?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, about once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below — from a woman whose husband is choosing porn over sex — by leaving your […]

How To
In Honor of National Orgasm Day, 7 Simple Things You Can Do To Improve Yours!

July 31st is National Orgasm Day! While orgasms are like apples — one a day will keep the doctor away — it’s still nice to have one day of the year dedicated to their celebration. Especially if you’re not getting them as often as you’d like or as often as you should be. (Maybe it […]

How To
The Do’s and Don’ts of Vacation Sex (Video)

Going on vacay with your partner? Here are 14 quick rules to follow to turn up the heat and make your tropical or summertime vacation sex great! Details are below the video: 1. Don’t stress about your bathing-suit body. You don’t go on vacation with the body you want, you go on vacation with the […]

Confessions
Why Men Ask You About Their Size (& How You Should Answer)

Pete had some interesting (and some potentially controversial) thoughts in response to our post “If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?“: When a guy asks this question, there could be a lot of reasons for asking: 1. He might want to compete against other guys (“Am I better than other guys?”) […]

How To
3 Ways to Let Go of Shame That’s Holding You Back

Everyone has experienced shame at some point in their lives. But not everyone is aware that the emotion is there until it creeps up to the surface in the form of panic, anxiety, depression or other negative feelings and behaviors. If you haven’t let go of shame, it can be the hidden flaw you don’t notice […]

How To
5 Reasons Why Sea Sex Sucks

It’s that time of year. The temperatures go up, the clothes come off, and you’re at the beach/by the pool/in the hot tub with your honey. Things can easily get frisky quickly. Come on, who doesn’t want to recreate that pool scene from Showgirls? Well, we don’t. We hate to rain on your already-wet water-knooky […]

Your Call
Your Call: My Husband Doesn’t Go Down on Me Anymore

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, about once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below — from a woman whose husband doesn’t go down on her anymore — by leaving […]

How To
Oral Sex Skills: How to Go Down on HER

Cunnilingus is one of the most daunting sexual tasks a person can undertake. It’s one of those unfair facts of life: there’s much more variation in what “works” among the gals than the guys, so there’s no sequence of moves guaranteed to result in her orgasm. But don’t think of her orgasm as being high-maintenance; […]

How To
Oral Sex Skills: How to Go Down on HIM

Plenty of people hesitate to go down on a man, either because they’re insecure about their skills or they just don’t enjoy it. But many, many guys would give their non-dominant arm for a regular dose of oral — a lot of them would even choose it over intercourse. (Though, despite conventional wisdom, there are a […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Husband, a Selfish Lover, Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. This time, a woman finds herself married to a selfish lover. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  […]

Advice
Why ALL Women Should Masturbate (Even When They’re in a Relationship)

We once met a woman who claimed (quite proudly, we might add), “I’ve always had dick, so I don’t need to masturbate.” Our eyes bulged, our jaws dropped, our ears began to bleed a little. How could she utter such scandalous words in the 21st century? Women should masturbate! We tried desperately to explain that […]

How To
10 Steps for the Perfect Father’s Day Massage

The following is a low input, high impact Father’s Day plan, especially for those of you who haven’t done shit yet for this Sunday (yes, Dad’s Day is THIS weekend!). With a little finagling, you can prepare a relaxing, pampering evening for the father-fella in your life that he won’t soon forget! 1. Set the […]