Dear Em & Lo
My Libido Makes Me Sleep with Mr. Wrong

Dear Em & Lo, I feel like I’m stuck right now. I meet plenty of young men that are very interesting, and eventually, after spending some time with them, I get attached. Something that sounds very normal but turns out to be very painful in the end. So here’s my problem: no matter how hard […]

Wise Guys
Why Do Men Like to Spank in Bed?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do guys like to spank their partners in bed?” Ask the guys your own question here. Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): I really took one for the team here. In the interest of sexual science and sound advice, I carried out […]

How To
How NOT to Spice Up Your Relationship

We’ve been in the magazine business for more than fifteen years, and we are still suckers for those stupid headlines like “537 Ways to Improve Your Sex Life TONIGHT!” We just can’t help flipping to that article while we’re stuck in the check-out line. What if just one of those “guaranteed” 537 tips is neither ridiculous […]

How to Deal with a Partner’s Bisexuality

Jessica replied to our post, Your Call: I Can’t Handle My Boyfriend’s Bisexuality with some sage advice delivered via her own personal story: Unlike a lot of people on this thread I have not had any real traumatic experiences with my relationship. My boyfriend and I had been together for 7/8 months when I found out about is […]

Pop Culture
Everything We Needed to Know About Love and Sex We Learned from Dr. Seuss

As the mothers of two small children (two each, that is), we have spent many hours reading the books of Dr. Seuss aloud. And the more we read, the more we realize how freakin’ wise he was…about everything. (Yes, we admit it: We were more excited by the discovery of a new Dr. Seuss book, […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Kaitlyn’s Finale)

We always get a little case of the post-Bachelor/ette blues when a season comes to an end. Over the course of 3 months, we’ve learned so much about love and lust, what to do, what not to do, who to do, who not to do… At least we have less than a week until “Bachelor […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Boyfriend Is Always Too Tired for Sex

To ask Em & Lo your own advice question, click here. Dear Em and Lo, My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. A few months ago we took a break and I moved out. I was really having a great time, but he showed up with roses and tears promising everything […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Killarney)

1. Get your hands out of your face. When you’re talking about your romantic feelings to the object of your affection, don’t constantly touch your face and cover your mouth and slur — it makes it seem like you’re hiding something…like you’re a liar and this is your tell (Nick).   2. Have some dignity when […]

How To
10 Considerations for Adult Virgins Who Date

We often get advice questions from virgins (usually straight and female) asking how long they can make a guy wait, if it’s realistic to hold out for the right person, and whether or not there are straight non-virgin guys out there who are willing to wait. To them, we offer these 10 inquisitive ruminations on virginity […]

8 Ways That Dating and Therapy Are Basically the Same Thing

By Alex Alexander I’m not romancing my shrink, but it does feel a little like it. There I was for the very first time, meeting my brand new therapist. Thoughts run through my head: Will I like him/her? What will this be like? Does he or she already know my deepest, darkest thoughts? What if […]