Advice
Dream Interpretation
I Can’t Stop Dreaming About My Ex (Who I Don’t Want Back)

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Lately I’ve been having my ex-boyfriend pop up in all my dreams. We were together […]

Your Call
Your Call: Should You Tell Your Roommates You Can Hear Them Screwing?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m staying at my friend  and her boyfriend’s […]

How To
8 Ways to Be a More Touchy-Feely (and Therefore Healthy & Happy) Couple

Did you know that “touch deprivation” is a legitimate psychological condition? Matthew Hertenstein, who is the director of the Touch and Emotion Lab at DePauw University, states that not only is it a real thing but compared to other cultures, Americans are perhaps the most touch deprived culture on the planet. “Most of us, whatever our […]

How To
8 Ways to Spice Up Date Night!

Getting some quality time with your partner, let alone making time for sex, is not always easy. So, when you do get some precious hours to yourselves, you want to make the most of it, right? It’s easy to fall into a dinner-&-a-movie rut. So use these tips to take a ho-hum date night to a love […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate, I Keep Getting Bacterial Vaginosis (BV)!

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, I suffer from Bacterial Vaginosis and it happens when I have unprotected sex. […]

How To
In Defense of the Quickie, Especially for Women

Have you ever glanced over at the alarm clock on your night-stand during sex and calculated exactly how many hours are left until it rings? An extended 69 or a slow and sensual love-making session is suddenly much less appealing when every minute of pleasure is a minute less of shut-eye. In fact, sometimes just […]

How To
Study Shows the #1 Way to Keep Sex Hot in Long-Term Relationships

By Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango When you first meet someone, start dating, and fall in love, sex is a normal part of the dating equation. The first few months I was with my boyfriend I think I had a hard time finishing sentences because I had to stop everything I was doing and so we could […]

How To
The 10 Best Couples Costumes to Repurpose for Roleplaying

What is forbidden in the real world can sometimes make for a fun romp between consenting adults (who’ve explicitly outlined their boundaries and agreed on a safe word). It’s called roleplaying, and there are two components that can really help you get into character: 1) the right outfits, and 2) a backstory with emotional tension, […]

How To
Considering Divorce? 7 Steps to Save a Sinking Marriage

by Susan Heitler for YourTango If you think your marriage is unsalvageable, think again. I’m a specialist in marriage rescue and I’m here to help you save your marriage. You can tell that your marriage probably needs rescuing if you’ve been feeling angry about what’s been happening and/or hopeless about changing the situation for the better. The good news […]

How To
Top 10 Striptease Tips Whether You’re a Woman or a Man

Conventional “wisdom” would suggest that stripteases are only done by women for men, those (in)famously “visual creatures.” But everybody likes to look now and then. Turning the tables or making this a joint effort can transform the striptease from something potentially embarrassing or demeaning into the ultimate display of sexual power and confidence. One thing’s for sure: putting […]

Confessions
Strap-Ons Are the Great Gender Equalizer

Discussions on pegging usually go in one of two directions: 1) Straight into the ugly past where men who enjoy anal play automatically means they’re either girly or gay [sic], OR 2) towards thoughtful discussions about the nuances of sex and the politics of gender. We obviously prefer to highlight the latter, so today we give you Jon’s recent […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate: 4 Ways to Alleviate Post-Intercourse Cramps

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, I have deep penetration with my boyfriend and after intercourse I get  mild […]

How To
3 Key Things to Do When Your Guy Can’t Get It Up

By David Wignat for YourTango   You’re in bed with your man. You’ve done all your sexiest moves. You smell great. You look fantastic. He hasn’t reached middle age yet and he hasn’t been drinking, so his machinery should be in working order. But when you head down south, you suddenly realize his penis is […]

Do It Tonight
Top 10 Unsexy Things That Can Improve Your Sex Life

Improving your sex life isn’t always about switching positions or adding more lube or reading erotica (though those things can certainly help, too). Here are ten everyday things you can do to improve your sex life. 1. Get a good night’s sleep. When you’re tired or stressed you feel unsexy and irritable. And have you ever […]

How To
Top 10 Tips for Erotic Spanking

Hand-to-bum contact, if you can pull it off without cracking up (heh, we said crack), is a great way to add some kinky flavor to your next sesh. It’s intimate, it’s saucy, and — when compared to, say, a whip or a flogger — it’s safe for newbies to try out. Also, one study found […]