Advice
Why Men Cat-Call, According to Men

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week, they answer the following: Why do men cat-call? Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): Oh boy, where did I just see a link to a TV clip of a woman walking up to men who cat-called her and asked them why?  (You can answer in comments if you’ve […]

Your Call: What Porn Will Get the Girlfriend Seal of Approval?

For two women who make their living writing about sex, we know surprisingly little about porn. We certainly have a lot of opinions about it — about compromising on it in a relationship, for example. But when it comes to the specifics — names of directors, recommended titles, decent actors and storylines, etc. — we […]

How to Orgasm Without a Sex Toy

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 22-year-old woman who has only become sexually active over the last six months or so. I’m enjoying myself and being safe, but it’s starting to annoy me that I can’t have an orgasm without a vibrator. This really bothered my last boyfriend, which of course made me stressed out, […]

5 Signs You’re Dating a Pickup Artist

You’re a straight woman, and you like this guy. You have fun, you have chemistry, and then you have sex. At which point, he seems to disappear. But not totally. Sound familiar? Chances are he’s read the Pick Up Artist lit and is following it to a T. Below, read up on the 5 tell-tale […]

Comment(s) of the Week: Detectives Em & Lo Are On the Case!

We recently received two very suspicious comments to the post “Your Call: Do Bigger Penises Lead to Different Orgasms for Women?” (which have since been taken down). First, at 12:04am this morning, Thursday, May 14th, someone calling themselves “MSTT” wrote: Exactly man. All women like big dicks. But they value other things more you know? […]

What Men Want You to Do with Their Nipples

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,“What’s up with men’s nipples? Should I play with them or ignore them?” Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman): When it comes to nipple play and men, it’s very easy.  Some love it, some hate it, and some will ask you, during said act, and in […]

Why You Should Let Your Boyfriend or Husband Watch Porn

Porn is an evergreen issue in our mailbox — we frequently get letters about it from both men and women. The men tend to say, why is my girlfriend/wife so bothered by porn? And the women tend to say, why does my boyfriend/husband watch porn when he has me? Or, why does he continue to […]

Your Call: Why Won’t He Get to Know Me?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. This woman asked her question in the comments section of the post How Often Do F-Buddies Become Girlfriends? Tell it […]

Do Guys Really Hate Talking on the Phone?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following:  Why do guys seem to hate talking on the phone? Gay Single Guy (Daniel): My suspicion is that it has to do with how most straight guys talk, or rather, don’t talk. Straight men seem to not indulge in gossip and tangential […]

Your Call: How to Tell Your Husband It’s Okay to Ravish You (a Little)

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I’m just about as […]