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Dr. Kate, Are My Excruciating Menstrual Cramps Normal?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Hello Dr. Kate, I have a question about cramp severity. I’ve noticed that (for most women) […]

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Dear Em & Lo, How Can I Get Back at My Boyfriend for Dumping Me So Cruelly?

Dear Em & Lo, I thought my boyfriend and I had a good relationship: we lived together, I took care of him, I took care of everything.  He said no one took care of him like I did, even though he’d had plenty of women before me. I thought we were happy. But he found […]

How To
What Your Date’s Starbucks Order Says About Your Relationship

Look at the drink the person you’re dating orders when the two of you go to Starbucks together. I’m absolutely serious. Their Starbucks drink order can be all the information you need to figure out if they like you and if you’ve attracted the soulmate of your dreams.   1. If they order the same thing as […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: 3 Questions to Ask Before Opening Up Your Relationship

Contributor & MVP commenter Dr. AlanK had this to say in response to a man hoping for an open relationship with his wife: 1. Are you trying to justify an affair you’re already having? Don’t do that! Admit to the affair, try to understand why you had/are having the affair, get your marriage fixed, and […]

Your Call
Your Call: What Position Should Little Ol’ Me Use with My Big Boyfriend?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Hello. I’m hoping you can help me with […]

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Dear Em & Lo, What Books Are a Good Intro to Open Relationships?

Dear Em & Lo, I would like to find literature that I can give to my wife,  on encouraging her to pursue non-monogamous relationships, as this could be good for our relationship. We are a mature couple and I think she and we could benefit from this. Thanks kindly, Open-Minded Dear O.M., First, are you […]

How To
Intro to Anal: How to Give It, Get It & Go Gaga for It

There are a lot of presuppositions and myths about anal sex: Men want it more. It’s not pleasurable for her. Being receptive is only for gay guys. Everyone’s doing it apart from you. There’s no such thing as an anal orgasm. So on and so forth. These sex myths are demonstrably untrue; all they do is […]

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Dear Em & Lo, I Love Him But He’s Already Got a Girlfriend

Hi, I would like advice. I am single mother and I met someone on a dating website. When we met he told me he didn’t have a girlfriend. After a while, we were emailing each other every day. After 6 months, I finally met him face to face and we liked each other. But then he started telling […]

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Your Call: What’s a Good Sex Toy to Get My Girlfriend?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  My girlfriend doesn’t own any sex toys. I’m […]

How To
How to Use Tinder — A Complete Guide

There’s always a first time for everything. Tinder is a popular (if not the most popular) dating app that matches adults based on their Facebook profiles and locations, allowing mutually interested parties to chat anonymously (until, perhaps, they decide to exchange phone numbers and/or meet up for coffee or casual sex). Though it’s often criticized as […]

Confessions
The Skittish Person’s Quickie Guide to Exploring Kink

Anna had some good ideas about wading into kinky waters, especially if you’re not sure how to swim, in her response to the post “He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla: Is Their Relationship Doomed?” Learn more about BDSM. Read some BDSM erotic books. See if there is anything that turns you on and try those things. You […]

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Your Call: What Should She Do About Her Partner’s Porn Habit?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why we regularly turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letters below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I got married six months ago after dating for 1.5 […]

How To
How to Deal with Late-Life Virginity

The following advice has been updated: Get yourself a therapist. If you do nothing else, do this. You’ve got some issues that you need to work through — trying to resolve them on internet forums won’t work. If you’re insurance covers therapy, then you’ve got no excuse — carve out the time and commit to this. […]

How To
Top 20 Ways NOT to Kiss (VIDEO)

Sometimes it’s easier to impart sexual technique by focusing on what NOT to do — especially when it comes to something as variable as kissing, where there are so many different styles, techniques and preferences that many people enjoy. So by focusing on the negative — the things almost all people DON’T enjoy — we […]

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10 Steps to Orgasming Without a Vibrator (VIDEO)

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 22-year-old woman who has only become sexually active over the last six months or so. I’m enjoying myself and being safe, but it’s starting to annoy me that I can’t have an orgasm without a vibrator. This really bothered my last boyfriend, which of course made me stressed out, […]

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Dear Em & Lo, Is “Cunt” an Appropriate Word for Dirty Talk?

Dear Em & Lo, Hello there. This morning for the first time, my new boyfriend and I fucked. It was going okay until he came out with the word “cunt.”  I froze. Maybe it’s just me, but, I always blush at this word. Now, he wants me to use it when, or rather if, we […]