Advice
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Why Men Ask You About Their Size (& How You Should Answer)

Pete had some interesting (and some potentially controversial) thoughts in response to our post “If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?“: When a guy asks this question, there could be a lot of reasons for asking: 1. He might want to compete against other guys (“Am I better than other guys?”) […]

How To
3 Ways to Let Go of Shame That’s Holding You Back

Everyone has experienced shame at some point in their lives. But not everyone is aware that the emotion is there until it creeps up to the surface in the form of panic, anxiety, depression or other negative feelings and behaviors. If you haven’t let go of shame, it can be the hidden flaw you don’t notice […]

How To
5 Reasons Why Sea Sex Sucks

It’s that time of year. The temperatures go up, the clothes come off, and you’re at the beach/by the pool/in the hot tub with your honey. Things can easily get frisky quickly. Come on, who doesn’t want to recreate that pool scene from Showgirls? Well, we don’t. We hate to rain on your already-wet water-knooky […]

Your Call
Your Call: My Husband Doesn’t Go Down on Me Anymore

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, about once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below — from a woman whose husband doesn’t go down on her anymore — by leaving […]

How To
Oral Sex Skills: How to Go Down on HER

Cunnilingus is one of the most daunting sexual tasks a person can undertake. It’s one of those unfair facts of life: there’s much more variation in what “works” among the gals than the guys, so there’s no sequence of moves guaranteed to result in her orgasm. But don’t think of her orgasm as being high-maintenance; […]

How To
Oral Sex Skills: How to Go Down on HIM

Plenty of people hesitate to go down on a man, either because they’re insecure about their skills or they just don’t enjoy it. But many, many guys would give their non-dominant arm for a regular dose of oral — a lot of them would even choose it over intercourse. (Though, despite conventional wisdom, there are a […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Husband, a Selfish Lover, Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. This time, a woman finds herself married to a selfish lover. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  […]

Advice
Why ALL Women Should Masturbate (Even When They’re in a Relationship)

We once met a woman who claimed (quite proudly, we might add), “I’ve always had dick, so I don’t need to masturbate.” Our eyes bulged, our jaws dropped, our ears began to bleed a little. How could she utter such scandalous words in the 21st century? Women should masturbate! We tried desperately to explain that […]

How To
10 Steps for the Perfect Father’s Day Massage

The following is a low input, high impact Father’s Day plan, especially for those of you who haven’t done shit yet for this Sunday (yes, Dad’s Day is THIS weekend!). With a little finagling, you can prepare a relaxing, pampering evening for the father-fella in your life that he won’t soon forget! 1. Set the […]

How To
6 Rules for Outdoor Sex (Video)

Now that the weather’s turning warmer, many people are overcome by two urges: to get outside and to get it on — two great tastes that taste great together! And so the season of outdoor sex has begun — is there anything more all-American worth celebrating this July 4th? But it’s not all fun and […]

Toys
What Are Couples Toys?

Lelo.com, one of our favorite toy creators, introduces you to the world of luxury erotic tech for couples… The way we see it, pleasure shared is pleasure doubled — particularly when it comes to sex toys. Masters of masturbation that they are, vibrators can take couple play to the next level. What could be hotter than […]

Confessions
Can You Guess Which of These Cats Is Female?

A choose your own gender-venture! Our family recently adopted two kittens. We had our pick of the litter, so we figured we’d get a girl and a boy, just like our two kids. They decided to name the girl Rey and the boy Po. (Star Wars fans relax: for whatever reason — let’s call it artistic license — […]

Your Call
Your Call: Does Sex on a 1st Date Really Ruin Your Chances at a Relationship?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m a 25-year-old woman who enjoys sex. I […]

How To
10 Requirements for a Sexy Bedroom (Video)

In case your bedroom has been a little worse for wear lately, here’s a quick reminder of the basics of bedroom beautification. Because a beautiful bedroom is much nicer/more inspiring/less psychically distracting to make beautiful music in. Invest in sheets with a decent thread count — there’s nothing sexy about your bare skin against the equivalent […]

How To
The 8 Rules of Dating a Single Dad

Not too long ago I read an article titled “How to Love a Single Mom.” The author wrote that the intention of her piece was to support “the man interested in a woman with children. To offer him a peek inside her life, to help him understand her better.” And then she listed 5 tips: Be […]

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Dr. Kate, Are My Excruciating Menstrual Cramps Normal?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Hello Dr. Kate, I have a question about cramp severity. I’ve noticed that (for most women) […]