Advice
5 Signs Your Jealousy Is Out of Control

Kim Olver for Your Tango | Photo via Flickr Extreme jealousy is one of the most destructive things in a relationship. Engaging in jealous behaviors and suspicions is not cute. It does not let your significant other know you really care. And it definitely will not strengthen your relationship. An occasional, mildly jealous episode might actually heighten the […]

Comment of the Week: 4 Ways Men Can Seem Taller

In response to a question from a reader this week about a study saying women are only attracted to men 6 feet tall and up, Johnny — one of our MVP commenters — propped him up pretty perfectly: HA! Bullshit. Short guy here, reporting that I’ve always done just fine. If you’ve got a thing for […]

What Guys Really Think About Your Small Boobs

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “I think my boobs are too small — slightly pudgy guys have bigger boobs than me! Should I get a boob job?” Gay Committed Guy (Mark): Gut response: No. Even though god knows how many Americans have some kind of body-image hangup, […]

Why Everyone Needs a Rhymes-with-Bucket List

photo via Wikimedia Commons Our favorite part of President Obama’s monologue at the White House Correspondents’ Dinner monologue on Saturday night was this: “I am determined to make the most of every moment I have left. After the midterm elections, my advisors asked me ‘Mr. President, do you have a bucket list?’ And I said, […]

Your Call: How Much of a Factor Is Height in Male Attractiveness?

photo by Ranjit Laxman Photography We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own […]

Why You Should Dump Someone Who’s Perfect for You

Dear Em & Lo, I am 23 years old and A, my boyfriend of four years, and I are currently four months into a long-distance relationship until I graduate from my university this summer and move across the country to be with him. I recently connected with J, a guy that I was seeing five […]

Dream Interpretation: I Had Sex with Tim Curry As Frank-N-Furter

photo via flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I recently had a dream that […]

A Male Perspective on Circumcision

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What do you think about circumcision? Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): I know one person who was circumcised as an adult, so he’s the only guy I can think of who knows what it’s like both ways — sort […]

Knowing When to Talk to Your Partner… Or Your Therapist

The following letter from a reader is really long. Like, really long. (And this is the abridged version!) But we’re publishing it here because we think it raises a really interesting, important question about relationships: How can you tell when you’re talking too much? And how can you tell when you need a therapist as […]

Turn Your Headphones Into a Sex Toy

You know the basic idea of sensory deprivation, right? You limit one or more senses, and the others get stronger. Limit everything but touch, and your orgasm will feel like the center of the universe. You may have done this without even knowing you were practicing sensory deprivation — with a blindfold, for example. But […]