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8 Ways Great Sex Starts WITHOUT Your Partner

If you want to start eating healthy, you know that changing your relationship to food is more effective than a crash diet. The same is true with your sex life. Concerning yourself with just the act of sex is like only counting calories. There are numerous aspects of your daily life that affect sex in […]

How To
The 7 Rules of Orgasm Etiquette

1. The goal should be at least one orgasm per person per sesh, bare minimum. We hope we don’t need to point out that an orgasm for just one partner is not the finishing tape of a sex run. Instead, think of sex as a three-legged race — your partner can neither compete nor cross the finish line […]

How To
5 Ways to Beat the Green-Eyed Monster

Here are our top 5 tips for vanquishing the green-eyed monster. Or at least making friends with it. 1. Date within your own jealousy league.  We know this is hard to control — chemistry being what it is — but your best bet is to date someone whose jealousy meter is about equivalent to yours. For […]

How To
6 Key Steps to Finding (or Improving) Love

Katie and Gay Hendricks for YourTango.com You’re going about it all wrong. Ladies and gentlemen, if you’re aching to find love this year, forget about “conquering” the dating scene. And if you want to dramatically improve your relationship, here’s our surprising advice: Forget about trying to make your relationship better! Why? Because complaining that there are no good people out […]

How To
Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – NON-Monogamous

We ran the lighthearted post called “Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – Monogamous” as encouragement for those people who choose to be in exclusive, long-term relationships. Some readers took it as an indictment of non-monogamy, which wasn’t our intention at all. To prove it to you, here are 10 points in favor of the other […]

How To
Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – Monogamous

Monogamy gets a bad rap these days — people say it’s unnatural, impossible, outdated, stifling. And, yes, sometimes it is! Especially if your wedding anniversary now contains two digits. But anything worth fighting for will usually put you through the ringer, and monogamy is no exception. So before your partner’s bad habits drive you to […]

Your Call
How Do You Deal with a Surprise Breakup?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader: Dear Em & Lo, Me and my ex were together for almost 2 years. He broke up with me last month, and I was […]

Confessions
Sometimes You Just Have to Walk Away from a Marriage Over Sex

BigDudesStealMonkeys had a very thoughtful response to a vanilla woman married to a secretly kinky (and cheating) husband: I have a daughter, and I would be happy with her doing anything that made HER happy. If that’s BDSM, then so be it. Some people enjoy that type of playful sex, and who the hell are […]

How To
Take Our Relationship Compatibility Test

We’ve been penning a sex and love advice column for a loooong time now, which means that we’ve heard from our share of readers who are struggling in their relationships. Over the years, certain themes have emerged — sure, you’ll get the occasional couple who wants to involve their labrador in a threeway, but most of […]

Wise Guys
Why Aren’t Some Men Up for Going Down?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do guys seem to dislike giving oral sex more than woman seem to dislike giving it?“ Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): I’ve met a bunch of straight men and woman who dislike the pastime, which is a bit of a mystery […]