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Sometimes You Just Have to Walk Away from a Marriage Over Sex

BigDudesStealMonkeys had a very thoughtful response to a vanilla woman married to a secretly kinky (and cheating) husband: I have a daughter, and I would be happy with her doing anything that made HER happy. If that’s BDSM, then so be it. Some people enjoy that type of playful sex, and who the hell are […]

How To
Take Our Relationship Compatibility Test

We’ve been penning a sex and love advice column for a loooong time now, which means that we’ve heard from our share of readers who are struggling in their relationships. Over the years, certain themes have emerged — sure, you’ll get the occasional couple who wants to involve their labrador in a threeway, but most of […]

Wise Guys
Why Aren’t Some Men Up for Going Down?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do guys seem to dislike giving oral sex more than woman seem to dislike giving it?“ Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): I’ve met a bunch of straight men and woman who dislike the pastime, which is a bit of a mystery […]

How To
10 Tips for Hosting a Sexy Sleepover

If you’re planning on having a new guest over to “look at your etchings” for the first time, follow these 10 rules to ensure there’s a next time: Only invite a guest over when you won’t have to rush out the door the next morning. Warn any roommates that you will be entertaining that evening. […]

Wise Guys
What Do Men Think About Sex Toys in Bed?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do most guys feel when a woman brings her favorite sex toy into the bedroom? Threatened? Excited? Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos): Unless it’s the Jackhammer Jesus, or obscenely elephantine, I think it’s generally safe — educationally thrilling even — to […]

How To
How to Negotiate a Night of Casual Sex

It’s called a “prenook” — and if you’re interested in casual sex,  you should get one.  We have nothing against casual sex so long as everyone is being safe and the casual nature of the sex is completely mutual. And “mutual” is where things get tricky. May we introduce you to the concept of a […]

How To
20 Naughty New Year’s Resolutions

Here are twenty totally do-able New Year’s resolutions to improve your love life in 2016. Learn them, live them, love them! Ask for what you want. Keep learning new things. Let go of shame. Be a stickler about safer sex. Go for quality rather than quantity. Don’t hold grudges in your relationship. Believe in love […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What’s the Appeal of Bare Down There?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,“What is the appeal (or not) of a woman who’s completely bare down there?” Click here to ask the guys your own question. Straight Married Guy (Mike): I grew up in a world of topshelf Playboy (and god forbid) Penthouse magazines. In Playboy, […]

Dear Em & Lo
What It Means If You Laugh When You Get Close to an Orgasm

Dear Em & Lo, I have this little problem that I have no idea what to do about. It seems that every time I get close to climaxing when having oral sex or fingering I can’t help but to laugh. Every time I feel like I am getting close I push away and start busting […]

How To
10 Rules for Surviving Your In-Laws This Holiday Season

You may tie each other up every Monday and feel completely comfortable exploring each other’s less traveled orifices, or you may consider doggie style to be “experimental” — but when it comes to the holidays, we’re all just a bunch of overgrown kids hoping to survive extended time with the in-laws (or potential future in-laws). […]