Anal Play
Dear Em & Lo
Does Enjoying Anal Play Mean You’re Gay?

Something we here an awful lot around these here parts is the concern many straight men have with receiving — and, heaven forbid, enjoying — a little backdoor attention. Just this week we got another comment on the topic: My boyfriend has recently discovered he likes me lubing him up and fingering his anus, rimming […]

Pop Culture
Losing It: How We Popped Our Cherry Over the Last 80 Years

Author Kate Monro has managed to make us jealous of her job: searching the world for first-time tales that don’t often get told. In her new book, “Losing It: How We Popped Our Cherry Over the Past 80 Years,” she picks up where Nancy Friday left off, letting a wide range of people — from a 90-year-old […]

Confessions
Comment: My Neighbors Judge Me But This Site Doesn’t

The following letter broke our hearts a little, while also making our week. In the spirit of the new year, we have both been attempting to catalog the things we are grateful for, and this letter made us grateful for the following things: 1) Readers who like us, who really like us! 2) Husbands and […]

How To
What Is the P-Spot?

This is part of our continuing series on Top Body “Spots” that any self-respecting, shall we say, “anatomy enthusiast” should be familiar with. Even if this is old news to you, it’s always a good idea to brush up: The P-Spot a.k.a. the male G-spot This is the area of the prostate gland that can be felt […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On

Our contributor, a woman who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make. My boyfriend’s butt is beautiful. It’s pretty. It’s plump. It fits in the palm of my hand. I can’t keep my hands off it, and simply touching it turns me on. I’ve spanked it, kissed it, rubbed it, grabbed it, bit […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, I Secretly Used My Wife’s Sex Toy…Up My Butt

Billy, LELO’s male massager Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Hello Ladies, I am a married guy who occasionally reads your site for some ideas to share with my wife.  It seems like anal play both for him and her is a popular topic. My wife enjoys some occasional backside […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Getting Pegged Is a Pleasure

Terra Firma Harness from GoodVibes.com In response to the confession “I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-on,” we seem to get a lot of guys mistaking this website for Penthouse Forum and posting letters which inelegantly discuss the graphic details of giving and receiving anal sex — almost always on the weekends, for some reason. […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Joe: Can I Use the Backdoor with Hemorrhoids?

Every few weeks, Dr. Joe DeOrio, a urologist in Chicago, tackles questions about male sexuality here on EMandLO.com. To ask Dr. Joe your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Joe, Is it safe for me to enjoy receiving anal play if I have hemorrhoids? — Backdoor Bob Dear B.B., I guess the pertinent words here […]

Confessions
Comments of the Week: What’s Good for the Goose Is Good for the Gander

photo via Flickr We wouldn’t want you to think EMandLO.com is anally fixated or anything, we just really appreciate the whole “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander” argument when it comes to defending straight men being receptive to a little backdoor love. Hence, the second comment of the week in a […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Strap-Ons Can Bring a Couple Closer

a Starter Strap-on Kit SJM, responding to the post  “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On“: This is something that will make a relationship grow. Plain sex gets old. It took me forever to open up to my gf about how I wanted her to [“plug”] me, or whatever. But when she […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is Backdoor Play Gay?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your response in the comments section below. For a while now my girlfriend and I have been […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Love, Marriage and Strap-Ons

photo by brandi666 Just a Thought, commenting on the confession “I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-on“: I wont post my “didn’t make it into Penthouse” story, promise. I will say that while discussing anal sex with my gf at the time, I made her a deal. She was unsure since I’m rather […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: An Open Letter to Strap-On Sex Enthusiasts

Thank you for visiting EMandLO.com. We understand that that this website is one of the few places that discusses issues around sex openly and honestly, without too many euphemisms or immature jokes, and no hardcore images. It’s probably the only truly female-friendly site where you can discuss strap-on sex maturely. This would account for the […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Are Most Men Amenable to Anal Play?

photo by rhys alton Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Finger up the bum during other amorous acts — yay or nay for most guys?” Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): Well this is one situation in which the gay world veers off wildly from the straight norm. For […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Joe: My Girlfriend Wants to Do Me with a Strap-On

This week, Dr. Joe DeOrio, a urologist in Chicago, tackles the male version of EMandLO.com’s most popular post to date, the anonymous confession “I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On.” To ask Dr. Joe your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Joe, My girlfriend is really into not just receiving, but giving anal […]

Research
Anal, Orgasms and Advertising

photo by rhys alton One of the most popular and commented-on posts is about strap-on sex. It’s not exactly a point of pride for us. We’re much more about the happy feel-good feminist relationship posts. And we worry that this prominent butt-sex mention is what keeps the advertisers away (of course, it could be the […]