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How “Fifty Shades” Has Changed Sex Over the Past 3 Years

sponsored post As if the whole Internet going gaga over the first trailer for the movie adaptation of E.L. James’ erotic novel “Fifty Shades of Grey” wasn’t evidence enough, our friends over at LELO have actually quantified just how influential the story of Ana, Christian and his woven tie have been on the world’s sexual habits. […]

Toys
Last Chance to Get a Great $10 “Gag” Gift for Mom!

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs Mother’s Day is THIS Sunday, so you only have a couple days left to get Mom the gift that’ll tide her over until the Fifty Shades movie comes out next year: our book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink! Hear us out: Moms loved the Twilight series, but secretly […]

Pop Culture
Moms Are Kinky People Too!

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs Mother’s Day is just around the corner! Sure, you could get her some nice flowers…again. Or you could get her something she’ll really enjoy: our new book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink! Hear us out: Moms loved the Twilight series, but secretly wished there was more sex […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: BDSM Destroyed My Marriage

Reader Nancy told the following heartbreaking story in response to our post, “Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” Sometimes, it turns out, love just isn’t enough… I have been married for 17 years and recently discovered my husband’s infidelity. He started with a porn addiction which affected our sex life […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: TOO Equal in a Relationship = No Spark

Reader AndySea wrote the following in response to the post, “Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” What do the rest of you think: Is it true that in a relationship of equals, “the sexual spark is never as strong”? (For the record, AndySea is speaking of any kind of power dynamic in […]

Research
2014: Year of the Vanilla Revolution?

Image via Flickr | Sponsored Post The Fifty Shades of Grey movie may not be scheduled for release until February 13, 2015, but according to LELO, the kinky sex revolution is already waning. According to sales figures of LELO toys, tracked across their top 20 leading markets, sales of BDSM accessories such as whips and teasers reached […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do I Set Limits in a New BDSM Relationship?

photo via Entertainment Weekly We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. You can leave your advice in the comments section below (for a reader who appears to be dating a […]

Pop Culture
Last Week for FREE Shipping of 150 SHADES OF PLAY!

Kimono Robe by LELO Your holiday shopping days are dwindling, so don’t miss out on the chance to give your lover a naughty stocking stuffer, your best friend a companion piece to her dog-eared copy of Fifty Shades, or your coworkers something to blush over during the Secret Santa exchange at your holiday office party! […]

Pop Culture
The Best Holiday Gift EVER Is Now Under 10 Bucks!

Okay, we may be overstating things just a tad. But just check out the Amazon reviews and you’ll see that 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink — winner of a 2013 IPPY Award! — is the most perfect, affordable, and easily purchased gift for: Your friend who can’t wait for the Fifty Shades of Grey movies […]

Dream Interpretation
My Fiance Bit Me Like a Vampire in His Sleep

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I am big into pain while having sex, and I am also into vampires. My fiance and I live together and he knows about […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: BDSM Is More About Trust Than Ropes & Chains

Sutra Chainlink Cuffs by LELO Reader sex_is_weird_thats_all said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies, Too?” Despite the people who end up in the news, there is usually in any metropolitan area a very legit BDSM community. I have a group of friends that includes a sizable chunk […]

Pop Culture
A New Book That Some People Don’t Want You to Read (Part 1)

a still from the video trailer of Happyland HAPPYLAND — by one of the coolest authors we know, J. ROBERT LENNON — is finally out! This is the novel that W. W. Norton pulled from production in 2005 over fears of libel, that Harper’s Magazine ran in serial (though heavily abridged)in the fall of 2006, […]

Books
How to Tell a Vanilla Partner About Your Kink

We frequently hear from readers who are struggling with an imbalance of kink in their relationship — one partner is vanilla while the other is decidedly chocolate-swirl-fudge. So we asked Richard Wagner, a.k.a. Dr. Dick (seriously), the author of the new book The Gospel of Kink: A Modern Guide To Asking For What You Want And […]

Books
Top 10 Things the “Fifty Shades” Movie Could Do Better Than the Book

Since the casting was finally announced this past Monday for the adaptation of the first Fifty Shades of Grey book — with Charlie Hunnam (Sons of Anarchy) as Christian Grey and Dakota Johnson (The Social Network) as Anastasia Steele — the general consensus has been “They got it wrong!” We’re not sure any casting would have […]

How To
How to Introduce Kink Into Your Relationship (Esp If You’re a Dude)

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs Our friend, previous Nerve coworker, and fellow writer Grant Stoddard recently hit us up for some insight for his Men’s Health article “Does She Deserve a Spanking?” This is how these things go: article writer asks you (the author of a book on the subject in question) a bunch of questions, you […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: A Different Kind of Ravishment Fantasy

Awesome gender-swapped version of Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” by Mod Carousel Reader Simple Girl said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies, Too?” I have fantasies about raping my boyfriend.. Just rip him apart while he’s tied to a bed or something. I just wanna see how he […]