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Just How Different Are Men’s and Women’s Fantasy Lives?

Monday, July 30, 2012

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photo via flickr Are women’s and men’s fantasy lives vastly different, or are they basically the same except for a few variations on theme and frequency? We suppose it depends on who you ask and what they already believe about the way women and men approach sex. Because people’s prior beliefs about how women and [...]

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Comment of the Week: I’m Vanilla By Day, Kinky By Night

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

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Reader Lila wrote the following in response to the recent article “Confession: I‚Äôm a BDSM Beginner” on our site: I love this post! That was MY life a few years ago. While I found my kink differently than you, I am still a professional woman with an education and a life. I just needed to [...]

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Confession: I’m a BDSM Beginner

Thursday, June 28, 2012

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Lelo’s “Etherea” Silk Cuffs A female friend of ours, a recent college grad who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I think I might be kinky. I know, I know: These days, who isn’t? With Fifty Shades of Grey refusing to budge from the bestseller list and Rihanna singing about how chains [...]

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Phrase of the Week: Sex Nerd

Monday, May 14, 2012

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photo via flickr We pride ourselves on knowing all the sex lingo — and where there isn’t lingo for something we’ve observed in the world of sex and dating, then we make it up ourselves. For example, three terms we coined in our book Rec Sex: An A-Z Guide to Casual Sex are benched (the [...]

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What We Talk About When We Talk About “Fifty Shades of Grey”

Thursday, April 19, 2012

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This may be sacrilege to say, but we can’t seem to muster any interest in reading the new, best-selling erotica novel that everyone’s talking about, Fifty Shades of Grey. After all, even the author admits that it’s not that good! For SM erotica, we’d rather stick with a classic like Story of O. Yeah, yeah, [...]

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Your Call: Should He Use Halloween to Introduce Her to His Kinky Side

Friday, October 28, 2011

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photo via DailyBillboard We get a lot of¬†advice questions coming in at¬†EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can‚Äôt answer them all. Which is why,¬†once a week, we turn to you to¬†decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. I’ve recently started seeing a woman I [...]

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10 Reasons to Love Velcro Wrist Restraints

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

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Etherea cuffs from Lelo available at Eden Fantasies 1. Regular handcuffs can be mighty uncomfortable after a few minutes–in fact, the police-issue kind can actually cause nerve damage. But Velcro cuffs are built for comfort. 2. Sure, there’s something sexy about undoing your own or your man’s tie and co-opting it for your own kinky [...]

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5 Ways to Keep Sex Fresh and New — No, Seriously

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

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photo by John Brawley If you want to feel like it’s the very first time, then it’s important to keep sex surprising and try new things regularly. You can‚Äôt get lazy. So give the following steps a try every now and then. You might feel silly being “experimental,” but the occasional awkward moment is a [...]

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5 Quick and Easy Ways to Embrace Your Inner Dominatrix

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

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Lelo cuffs from Eden Fantasys Dear Em & Lo, My boyfriend and I have great sexual chemistry and things have been going really well both inside and outside of the bedroom, but there’s one small issue: we’re both on the sexually submissive side. Though it is not usually an issue, it is clear that we’d [...]

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The 10 Rules of Wrist Restraint

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

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Lelo cuffs Today we are going to talk about “sensual bondage.” This is a kinder, gentler BDSM that just focuses on the simple wrist restraint of a partner who gives you their permission to do so first. Anything more complicated and you’ll need to school yourself thoroughly in the safety aspects of bondage, either with [...]

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