BDSM
Confessions
Comment of the Week: BDSM Is More About Trust Than Ropes & Chains

Sutra Chainlink Cuffs by LELO Reader sex_is_weird_thats_all said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies, Too?” Despite the people who end up in the news, there is usually in any metropolitan area a very legit BDSM community. I have a group of friends that includes a sizable chunk […]

Pop Culture
A New Book That Some People Don’t Want You to Read (Part 1)

a still from the video trailer of Happyland HAPPYLAND — by one of the coolest authors we know, J. ROBERT LENNON — is finally out! This is the novel that W. W. Norton pulled from production in 2005 over fears of libel, that Harper’s Magazine ran in serial (though heavily abridged)in the fall of 2006, […]

Books
How to Tell a Vanilla Partner About Your Kink

We frequently hear from readers who are struggling with an imbalance of kink in their relationship — one partner is vanilla while the other is decidedly chocolate-swirl-fudge. So we asked Richard Wagner, a.k.a. Dr. Dick (seriously), the author of the new book The Gospel of Kink: A Modern Guide To Asking For What You Want And […]

Books
Top 10 Things the “Fifty Shades” Movie Could Do Better Than the Book

Since the casting was finally announced this past Monday for the adaptation of the first Fifty Shades of Grey book — with Charlie Hunnam (Sons of Anarchy) as Christian Grey and Dakota Johnson (The Social Network) as Anastasia Steele — the general consensus has been “They got it wrong!” We’re not sure any casting would have […]

How To
How to Introduce Kink Into Your Relationship (Esp If You’re a Dude)

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs Our friend, previous Nerve coworker, and fellow writer Grant Stoddard recently hit us up for some insight for his Men’s Health article “Does She Deserve a Spanking?” This is how these things go: article writer asks you (the author of a book on the subject in question) a bunch of questions, you […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: A Different Kind of Ravishment Fantasy

 Awesome gender-swapped version of Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” by Mod Carousel Reader Simple Girl said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies, Too?” I have fantasies about raping my boyfriend.. Just rip him apart while he’s tied to a bed or something. I just wanna see how […]

Pop Culture
“150 Shades of Play” at the IPPY Awards!

Last night, we attended the IPPY Awards ceremony in NYC to receive our silver medals for all-around awesomeness in an independently-published sex & relationship book.150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink is now an award-winner! While sipping our complimentary cocktails (yay, open bar!), nibbling the mediocre passed apps (free food, eh), listening to all the award announcements (there […]

Dream Interpretation
My BDSM Relationship Is Giving Me Nightmares

“Em & Lo’s Shades of Play Kit” at GoodVibes Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I have, for lack of […]

How To
The 5 Most Important Things to Know About Spanking (Before You Try It)

A little spanking session in the bedroom is a quick, easy, and affordable way to spice things up (look ma, nothing but hands!). But as with anything involving painful pleasure, there are always important safety issues — both physical and emotional — that you should familiarize yourself with first, before you go swatting away like […]

Books
C Is for Cuffs

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs (a black version is part of their Dare Me Pleasure Set) The following is from our very own naughty, award-winning dictionary, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Bolded words signify individual entries that appear elsewhere in the A-to-Z section of the book. Anything with a tie icon indicates an activity or […]

How To
B Is for Blindfold

LELO’s Intima Silk Blindfold The following is from our very own naughty dictionary, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Bolded words signify individual entries that appear elsewhere in the A-to-Z section of the book. Anything with a tie icon indicates an activity or prop mentioned in the Fifty Shades series (symbolic of the famous woven tie Christian Grey uses […]

Pop Culture
Our “150 Shades of Play” Won an IPPY!!!

Woohoo!!!! Our most recent book, “150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink” has won a 2013 IPPY Award! The Independent Publishers Book Awards is the world’s largest book awards contest and the longest-running unaffiliated independent publishing awards contest (since 1996). It’s designed to bring increased recognition to the deserving but often unsung titles […]

News
Moms Are Kinky People Too

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs Mother’s Day is just around the corner! Sure, you could get her some nice flowers…again. Or you could get her something she’ll really enjoy: our new book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink! Here us out: Mom’s loved the Twilight series, but secretly wished there was more sex […]

Pop Culture
G Is for Gimp

The following is from our very own naughty dictionary, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Bolded words signify individual entries that appear elsewhere in the A-to-Z section of the book. Anything with a tie icon  indicates an activity or prop mentioned in the Fifty Shades series (symbolic of the famous woven tie Christian Grey uses to restrain Anastasia Steele…and oh […]

Pop Culture
A Is for “Anastasia Steele”

The following is from our very own naughty dictionary, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Bolded words signify individual entries that appear elsewhere in the A-to-Z section of the book. Anything with a tie icon  indicates an activity or prop mentioned in the Fifty Shades series (symbolic of the famous woven tie Christian Grey uses to restrain Anastasia Steele). […]

Toys
Get Our “150 Shades of Play” Kit on GoodVibes!

“Em & Lo’s Shades of Play Kit” at GoodVibes We’re thrilled to announce that Good Vibrations is our first retail partner for our new book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink! We’ve been big GV fans for years, and it’s an honor to work with them — we love what they stand […]