Dear Em & Lo, Every time my boyfriend and I “engage,” he turns me on then asks me to give him a BJ. After I do, I’m not as interested anymore. It happens every time. I’m very uncomfortable when I perform a BJ, and it takes away from the pleasure. I want to know if […]
Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “I really hate going down on guys. I’ve tried it, I don’t like it. In fact, I loathe it. I feel bad about it, but if I don’t expect oral in return (I don’t), then why should I feel compelled to do […]
In an articulate response to our post, “Dear Em & Lo: I Hate Receiving Blowjobs,” reader Yves compares blowjob peer pressure to ardent evangelism by born-again Christians: You know what makes it easier to like something? Being able to choose freely whether to do it (or have it done to you). That means being pressured is […]
Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz (read her blog here). She has this to say about the pros and cons of the 69 position… I will, with ease and without shame, say that 69 is a profoundly silly position. Sure, it sounds great upon first listen. We […]
photo via flickr Reader Female said the following in response to our oldie-but-goodie post, “Wise Guys: What Makes a Great BJ?” I never did blowjobs, I found them to be degrading to women, especially when referred to as “gobbies” — I suppose it’s that image of the town bikes handing them out at parties that […]
Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s the difference between an average blowjob and an excellent blowjob?” Straight Single Guy (Chris): I have had a handful of extraordinary blowjobs in my lifetime. Generally I say something to any talented giver, pointing out how noteworthy her skills are. One […]
