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R.I.P. Günter Grass: A (Sexy) Excerpt from “The Tin Drum”

photo via Wikimedia Commons The German novelist and Nobel Prize winner Günter Grass died yesterday at the age of 87. According to the New York Times, “He was a pre-eminent public intellectual who had pushed Germans to confront the ugly aspects of their history. … Many called [him] his country’s moral conscience but [he] stunned Europe when he revealed […]

New Book: “Come As You Are”

Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., speaks our kind of language. We read the first few pages of her new book, “Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life,” and we were sold. It tackles the tricky task of explaining women’s complex sexuality (which, hello, is different from men’s) so people can […]

An Open Marriage Can’t Fix Something That’s Already Broken

A new memoir called The Wild Oats Project: One Woman’s Midlife Quest for Passion At Any Cost is giving a lot of committed monogamists the chance to say “I told you so!” about open marriage. Here’s the book in a nutshell: San Francisco-based magazine editor Robin Rinaldi felt like her marriage was in a rut, […]

Comment of the Week: You Just Cracked Us Up!

We recently received a Facebook message that warmed the cockles of our hearts, and since we’re totally shameless when it comes to self-promotion, we thought we’d share it with you. Gerry, you made our month! Dear Em & Lo, I’m writing to tell you that I just finished laughing so hard, I’m pretty sure it […]

How the “Fifty Shades” Movie Is Better Than the Book

Yes, the movie was better than the book. Of course, if you’ve read the book, then you know that’s not saying much. The bar was pretty low to begin with. And one would hope that with a 40 mil production budget and a feminist director, that bar would inevitably be raised pretty high. Of course, […]

How to Spank Like Christian Grey

The following is an excerpt from the “S” section of our A-Z book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Every bolded word below indicates an entry in our encyclopedia of sorts. The book is on sale now! Spanking is hand-to-tush contact, which many consider more intimate and less scary than any other type of flagellation. […]

Top 10 Things We Hope the “Fifty Shades” Movie Does Better Than the Book

OMG IT’S TONIGHT OMG IT’S TONIGHT OMG IT’S TONIGHT! The film adaptation of Fifty Shades of Grey, the first book in the mega-selling erotic trilogy by E.L. James, finally opens tonight! Well, officially it opens tomorrow, but a bunch of theaters are holding screenings tonight. Ladies, we hope your limos are booked (ours is… seriously). […]

How to Hardware (Un)Like Christian Grey

The following is an excerpt from the “H” section of our A-Z book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Every bolded word below indicates an entry in our encyclopedia of sorts. The book is on sale now in both paperback and Kindle form! A hardware store is a one-stop shopping center for all your BDSM needs. […]

Dear Em & Lo: How Will “Fifty Shades” Affect Young Women?

Dear Em & Lo,  Have you thought about the effect that this film may have on young girls — how this film will set their expectations as to what sex is like? — Fifty Shades of Fay   Dear FSoF, Honestly, we haven’t. We’ve been too distracted by our upcoming ladies night screening of it! […]

10 Simple Steps to “Fiftyize” Your Love Life

Here’s a nifty little 10-step program for introducing BDSM into the bedroom, inspired by our book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink:   1. Talk Dirty to Him Bringing up BDSM with your partner can be shocking and awkward. A great way to test a fantasy is to incorporate it into dirty talk. Whisper in […]