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An Open Marriage Can’t Fix Something That’s Already Broken

A new memoir called The Wild Oats Project: One Woman’s Midlife Quest for Passion At Any Cost is giving a lot of committed monogamists the chance to say “I told you so!” about open marriage. Here’s the book in a nutshell: San Francisco-based magazine editor Robin Rinaldi felt like her marriage was in a rut, […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: You Just Cracked Us Up!

We recently received a Facebook message that warmed the cockles of our hearts, and since we’re totally shameless when it comes to self-promotion, we thought we’d share it with you. Gerry, you made our month! Dear Em & Lo, I’m writing to tell you that I just finished laughing so hard, I’m pretty sure it […]

Movies
How the “Fifty Shades” Movie Is Better Than the Book

Yes, the movie was better than the book. Of course, if you’ve read the book, then you know that’s not saying much. The bar was pretty low to begin with. And one would hope that with a 40 mil production budget and a feminist director, that bar would inevitably be raised pretty high. Of course, […]

How To
How to Spank Like Christian Grey

The following is an excerpt from the “S” section of our A-Z book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Every bolded word below indicates an entry in our encyclopedia of sorts. The book is on sale now! Spanking is hand-to-tush contact, which many consider more intimate and less scary than any other type of flagellation. […]

Movies
Top 10 Things We Hope the “Fifty Shades” Movie Does Better Than the Book

OMG IT’S TONIGHT OMG IT’S TONIGHT OMG IT’S TONIGHT! The film adaptation of Fifty Shades of Grey, the first book in the mega-selling erotic trilogy by E.L. James, finally opens tonight! Well, officially it opens tomorrow, but a bunch of theaters are holding screenings tonight. Ladies, we hope your limos are booked (ours is… seriously). […]

How To
How to Hardware (Un)Like Christian Grey

The following is an excerpt from the “H” section of our A-Z book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Every bolded word below indicates an entry in our encyclopedia of sorts. The book is on sale now in both paperback and Kindle form! A hardware store is a one-stop shopping center for all your BDSM needs. […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: How Will “Fifty Shades” Affect Young Women?

Dear Em & Lo,  Have you thought about the effect that this film may have on young girls — how this film will set their expectations as to what sex is like? — Fifty Shades of Fay   Dear FSoF, Honestly, we haven’t. We’ve been too distracted by our upcoming ladies night screening of it! […]

How To
10 Simple Steps to “Fiftyize” Your Love Life

Here’s a nifty little 10-step program for introducing BDSM into the bedroom, inspired by our book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink: 1. Talk Dirty to Him Bringing up BDSM with your partner can be shocking and awkward. A great way to test a fantasy is to incorporate it into dirty talk. Whisper in your […]

Movies
Watch the Entire “Fifty Shades” Movie Online Right Now!

Okay, it’s not exactly the entire movie. But from these five sneak-peak clips that ran on the Today Show this past week, you basically get a complete picture (lots of awkward pauses, dubious chemistry, lame Christian Grey hair). Are we still gonna see it? Hells yes! But now, you don’t have to. Here they are, […]

Movies
The 17 Most Annoying Aspects of the “Fifty Shades” Story

By Lindsey Kupfer for YourTango.com Here’s a refresher course on how messed up Fifty Shades really is. The Fifty Shades Of Grey movie hype is growing as the movie’s release date (February 13) gets closer, which means a barrage of media attention is once more on the mommy porn flick. And that means I get to hear endless apologies and explanations […]

Pop Culture
How “Fifty Shades” Has Changed Sex Over the Past Several Years

sponsored post As if the palpable global anticipation for the first movie adaptation of E.L. James’ erotic novel “Fifty Shades of Grey” wasn’t evidence enough, our friends over at LELO have actually quantified just how influential the story of Ana, Christian and his woven tie have been on the world’s sexual habits. They surveyed over 10,000 […]

Pop Culture
The Original “Fifty Shades of Grey”

Earlier covers of The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty trilogy In my senior year of high school, I (Lo) read The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, the first in a three-book series by vampire-genre goddess Anne Rice (who was a fave of mine at the time) writing under the pen name “A. N. Roquelaure.” Except instead of vampires, […]

Toys
A Guide to the Toys in “Fifty Shades of Grey”

Say what you will about the literary merit of E.L. James’s Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy, but you can’t deny the sexual curiosity they’ve ignited, the sexual knowledge they’ve imparted and the sexual delight they’ve given, where most readers are concerned. The result has been a boon for the sex toy industry, thanks to all the props […]

Dear Em & Lo
What to Do When You Have Zero Sex Drive

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 23-year old woman in a relationship with a wonderful guy — we’re celebrating two years together this month. We’re pretty serious about each other, but we have a serious hangup:  I have very little sex drive.  I’m not sure if he’s got an average drive or […]

Pop Culture
Dick of the Week: William Giraldi

photo via flickr William Giraldi wrote a personal essay for The Baffler called “This Brat’s for You.” Have you encountered this polished turd being bandied about the internet yet? In the piece, Giraldi bemoans the fact that he got paternity leave from his employer for the birth of his first child, became so utterly bored by […]

Movies
Top 10 Things We Hope the “Fifty Shades” Movie Does Better Than the Book

photo via the movie website The film adaptation of Fifty Shades of Grey, the first book in the mega-selling erotic trilogy by E.L. James, is almost here! It arrives in theaters Valentine’s Day weekend (ladies, get your limos ready!). With the casting of Jamie Dornan (The Fall) as Christian Grey and Dakota Johnson (The Social Network) […]